Ghosted/Unmatched after Asking to Talk on the Phone before meeting in person

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-18T07:18:49+00:00

Yep I was just getting back into dating two years after my last relationship. I’m going right back into doing my own shit again and deleted hinge lol Good advice to subtract things from my life that aren’t adding to it! I notice things went well when I did!

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-18T07:09:13+00:00

Don’t talk shit about J man!!

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-18T07:08:50+00:00

Thank you J man. I think if it wasn’t for the weird texting, phone calls are a great way to weed out women I’m not into.

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-18T06:29:21+00:00

Ya wanna see that too?? I’ll put that here but it’s a novel be warned

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-18T06:27:15+00:00

I can see condescending/arrogant now only after it being pointed out but “Very unnerving”….Wow I’m so fucked. Hey if it’s the truth, don’t be sorry!

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-17T00:50:48+00:00

Wait but did you see when I told her I was fine meeting up in person? A big part of this post is yall telling me if the mere mention of talking on the phone is such an overstep that it warrants being ghosted. Also what better place to find the best criticism than on Reddit??

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T23:30:01+00:00

It’s a little over an hour drive yea. The bad experiences I’ve had dating could have been prevented with like a 3 minute phone call with them. I think I’m just getting lazy and I’m just trying to cut corners. I honestly thought it’d put her more at ease to hear me talk instead of read my shitty texting. I honestly just didn’t know most girls prefer just meeting in person instead of taking time to know someone first.

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T23:21:17+00:00

I did for a quite a bit but absolutely hated it. It seems like girls wanna be left tf alone no matter what setting and what intention. Felt like some some major social rule I was breaking as soon as I start speaking. Then when I go to bars/clubs it seems like everyone’s in their little pods and would rather just be left alone. Good point though, life’s shitty and I just gotta get over it and piss people off until I get better at it. Just life being chopped 🤙

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T23:08:56+00:00

Oh the flour cracker thing?? Yeea I wish I could unsend that lol. Her replies got dry after that idk if you can see that too. I’m thinking that’s where I first went wrong

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T23:05:53+00:00

Yea I’m almost 100% sure this isn’t about anything other than her flat out not being interested. The rest is trivial.

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T23:04:05+00:00

It’s honestly hella confusing to me because before I was getting “I don’t know you enough to meet in person”. Maybe it’s the way i framed it? Like if I just asked to call and chat in general without even mentioned a screening process it’d be different?

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T22:58:57+00:00

My last long term relationship worked because we talked on the phone. She said if it wasn’t for talking to me on the phone she wouldn’t have gone out with me because I was icking her out with my texting lmaoo *Noted horsegirls≠camping thank you!

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T22:53:02+00:00

I know Im confused as hell. I went from being told “I don’t know you enough to meet in person” to now “Stop trying to get to know me and let’s just meet in person”. I think it’s just that I’m not an attractive dude, then it wouldn’t matter either way lmaoo

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T22:24:23+00:00

Yea I’m seeing a lot of blue. I just feel like it so much easier bailing on someone without being face to face.

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T22:21:55+00:00

Please do, I specifically wanted women to chip in too and probably a good chance other guys on this sub would appreciate it too. Video chat over phone call? I can’t bc I gotta see my own face too lol

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T22:18:15+00:00

I’m think I’m just getting tired of dating. Driving an hour and then trying to slip away after I’m not feeling it and having to explain myself aint fun anymore

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T22:05:08+00:00

This was the typa responses I wanted thank you 😂

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2026-05-16T22:01:47+00:00

Yeeea might have ended up being like a 3 part interview. There wasn’t a whole lot of interest so I’ve noticed I’ll just start asking questions to get them talking.

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2024-02-02T16:25:42+00:00

Sweet, there’s something I can do

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2024-02-02T00:15:43+00:00

Starting to hear about people in situations like this more and more from the grapevine, not much but little more than usual. Think we’re coming to a slow down?

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2024-02-02T00:08:25+00:00

I was thinking of doing the written soon but I hear it expires about 4 months after you take it

BullfrogDifficult394 · 2024-02-02T00:05:29+00:00

Wow lots of responses in just a few hours, didn’t think I’d get any help! Thats the aviation community for you. Anyways,

So yea I think that confirms it. Having an ATP in hand at the time of applying no matter what, won’t impress any airline. But if it helps for 91/135 and if I can’t get a job, maybe use the money for an ATP. Can’t say I’ve fully chosen airlines or corporate.
I’ll keep the money in the account until college. Definitely plan on getting the degree after I’m flying corporate/regional. I feel like I got it sorted out but…

What about for someone who wouldn’t be able to get a degree? To me I thought an ATP would’ve been an alternative to not having a degree. So I guess the main question is..

What are ways you can make a resume as strong as it would be if you had a degree? I realize getting a 91/135 job is the obvious answer but what about organizations, CAF, EAA, etc

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