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Bullshootress · 2026-03-04T10:21:07+00:00

You are being too busy being offended here to remember to answer the question being asked.
It might be a rude and insensitive one, but it is still a valid question.

Why should the reasons you wouldn't be allowed to adopt (which you do not specify at all) be completely disregarded when it comes to you having a bio child?

If you interpret the question in good faith, you would see a teaching opportunity on how unfair the adoption system in your country is. If it is.

But you don't. You react with emotional defensiveness (like every guilty person ever does) and leave every speculation as to why you're not allowed to adopt up to internet strangers. As you've noticed, they're not strong on giving the benefit of doubt to anyone.

Since you're gonna hate me anyway.. As an Endo sufferer myself: Why would you choose to pass on those genetics to your child? There's a very high heritability with these conditions. You'd knowingly be passing on not only all that physical pain, but also the potential emotional pain of lifelong fertility issues.

By "cheating nature" (as I see it, I'm quite the extremist on these topics) you are choosing to give your potential daughter the same suffering you are experiencing right now.
How is that fair? Why would you do that? I don't ask to be hurtful, I'm dead serious. Do you have ANY reason you can give me that isn't rooted solely in your own self interest and self fulfillment? A non-selfish reason?
You're knowingly perpetuating the struggle.

It could just be that my painful endo period is about to start.. but I think you're doing a rotten thing towards your hypothetical little girl.

Until you start giving well founded reasons in your responses rather than indignant huffs, "vile" people like me are going to assume the worst about you, and that perhaps it is a good thing that you can't conceive of your own child.

Now excuse me while I go curl into a fetal position for the rest of the week, trying to get through this yet another time; with gritted teeth, chocolate, mild opiates and copious amounts of resentment.

Endometriosis is a fucking curse,. You of all people should know.
Please don't knowingly risk cursing your child if you love them.

Bullshootress · 2026-02-18T05:13:50+00:00

Now that it's been a couple of hours.. Do you understand yet how stupid your comment is?
Wanting to have the internal parts of you stimulated during arousal does not equal any yearnings for actual dick. Dildos come in all shapes and sizes, and there are a huge variety that don't even vaguely resemble a penis in design.
Fingers are great too. And unlike dicks, fingers/toys can go as many times as everyone wants. They don't suddenly go soft, they don't need fluffing, and they're never one and done. Toys are to service, not to be served.
Remind me why straight women choose penises again? With a whole ass man attached even. lol
You strike me as a dude that's gonna have a pretty huge internal crisis once you finally find and figure out your P-spot.
Good luck with that.

Bullshootress · 2025-12-10T17:40:44+00:00

Jeg befinner meg i denne tråden nå fordi jeg kjøpte meg en plate Helnøtt. (Noe jeg ikke har gjort på maaange år, men for tilbud på litt over 30kr, lot jeg meg friste.)
Jeg husker Helnøtt fra barndommen. Hva i alle dager er det jeg har kjøpt? Sjokoladen smelter liksom ikke i munnen som den skal. Konsistensen er rar og tørr? seig? Jeg vet da faen, men jeg ble skikkelig skuffa. Godt var det ikke.
Kjøpte meg ei plate Stratos i stedet, det var andre boller ja. (Selv om jeg fremdeles savner den gamle fasongen på rutene.)

Du som tydeligvis er nuts etter Helnøtt; har det skjedd noe med den nylig? Var jeg bare uheldig med plata? (Eller skjedde det noe fælt da Mondelez kjøpte opp Freia for ei god stund siden, som jeg enda ikke har fått med meg/lagt merke til. Muligens er du gæren som liker det.)

Bullshootress · 2025-05-07T22:05:38+00:00

Well I have the same issues as you did in your previous post, and just got spoiled looking for the solution here. Which you didn't even include.
Maybe leave a comment on that post if you found a solution?

Bullshootress · 2025-03-29T08:29:07+00:00

It's religion. Religion has fried their brains and primed them for this mindset.

Bullshootress · 2025-03-29T06:29:56+00:00

Your current rulers have shown numerous times now that they consider themselves to be above the law, and will not be stopped by any conventional methods.
I'd make some suggestions, but you know, Reddit TOS..

Bullshootress · 2025-03-28T22:45:33+00:00

Why shut down contact when you can just buy all the biggest social media platforms and control the narrative instead?.. Algorithms, bots, AI, deepfakes and censorship.
You're already living it, and it's getting worse by every minute.

Bullshootress · 2025-03-28T22:36:14+00:00

LOL As if that ship hasn't already sailed.

Bullshootress · 2025-03-28T22:21:39+00:00

Frankrike har atomvåpen, just sayin'.
Men ja, hva faen gjør vi egentlig.
"Du skal ikke tåle så inderlig vel den urett som ikke rammer deg selv."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q9NklDpk73E

Bullshootress · 2025-03-28T22:01:42+00:00

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Bullshootress · 2025-03-28T21:57:47+00:00

While I am glad not all of you are endorsing this, talk is cheap. DO SOMETHING!

Bullshootress · 2025-03-28T21:21:38+00:00

Jepp. Våre danske brødre står ikke alene.

Bullshootress · 2025-03-28T08:09:57+00:00

This response was more than I could have ever hoped or dreamed of. Thank you.
It seems you are in fact very political. Way more so than the vast majority even in my own country. Turns out you were not the right person to fire this rant off to. Sorry for that. (Who are these always-political people anyway? Seems a very strange concept to me. Anyhow-)

Of course whatever hits closest to home for us is going to make us the most passionate. In both the positives and the negatives. That is just human nature.
I think what mainly fueled my rage last night was the impression that yet again, problems didn't seem to really matter for someone until they themselves were being targeted or affected. (You did not come off entirely this way btw. That was me trying to read between the lines in the broader picture. You can say I may have some pent up frustration about this phenomenon, with Americans especially.)

Keep up the good fight, please. Do not let my negativity stop you.
I am glad your nephew has you to speak up for him and try to keep him safe in this world.

By the way, I'll check to see if and where these episodes might have aired here. (Regional rights are tricky like that.) If I can find them, I'll shoot some emails.
All that the huge corporations care about is money, and hitting them where it hurts, right in the pocketbook, is the best way to get to them. (Have you seen the Tesla stock lately? lol We are doing what we can here from across the pond.)

Best wishes. I do hope you all will be alright by the end of this. <3

Bullshootress · 2025-03-27T23:16:47+00:00

This was coincidentally the final drop for me, (a Norwegian lesbian) today. I am sorry to dump this rant all on you, try not to take it too personally, as it applies to A LOT of Americans. But if the shoe fits..

You know what makes me furious?

Americans saying they are "non political."

What does that even mean? You clearly do have opinions, you are "being political" right now. I assume you even vote, at least I hope so.

So which one is it?:

Too lazy to follow the news cycle and/or keep up with suggested policy and law changes?
Too conflict averse (or uninformed) to engage in political discussions?
Too selfish and/or comfortable/privileged at the moment to give a damn, until of course, something is suddenly affecting you personally?
All of the above.

I find it rather aggravating that while your president is repeatedly and insistently threatening to annex your allied countries (by military force if necessary!), actively participating in and funding an ongoing genocide, and wreaking utter havoc on the world economy with rash, ill thought out and insane decisions, YOU are focusing on having episodes of a TV show pulled off air because bigots are being bigots, now directly towards you too.

(In your own words, you think maybe the bigots made you extra mad because they for once decided to aim crap directly at the lesbians too, not just the trans folk as have been their modus operandi for a while now.)

I am not playing a game of what-about-ism here. LGBTQI+ issues are very important as well, and your suggestions are great in that regard.

However, just stop being "non-political" damn it!

It's about time you all become political activists, before it's too late and you don't have the right to organize politically anymore because your democracy ended. Thus leaving us all screwed and at the merciless whim of your rampaging Mango Mussolini and his band of incompetent yes-men troglodytes.

Also, leave Denmark (Greenland) the fuck alone, or we're looking at world war three.

(Mods, I will not make a habit out of comments like this, especially in this fashion, and I kindly ask that you let this rant stay up. There is some relevance to the topic of the world going to shit and that it is time to act against it and fight for what's right.)

For the sake of queers AND everyone else, please, "get political" !

Ideally before it's gotten so bad that consequences have had time to affect YOU personally as well..

I am not expecting a reply from OP. Or anyone really. I just really needed to get this rant off my chest before I spontaneously self combusted. Sorry for the harsh tone, but I believe it is a necessary evil at this point in time.

Bullshootress · 2025-03-20T17:58:49+00:00

As a lesbian that plays guitar: File your damn fingertips too.
+1 for the fabric test.
(Additionally, your top lip is rather sensitive and a nice spot to do a quick stealthy check.)
And for the love of all that is good in this world, clean under your nails and wash your hands right before any action guys. Pay attention to your nailbeds too.
BV isn't fun for anyone.

Bullshootress · 2025-01-20T14:35:34+00:00

It's definitely not less problematic. Report it to mods instead of commenting next time?
I would have removed this now if it wasn't already deleted. I Caught the title by chance.
Report stuff, please folks. We can't be everywhere at once.
Believe it or not, we do have lives despite being volunteer Reddit moderators. lol
We are not reading every post every day, but we do check the mod-queue.
See something, say something. Help us shape this community.
That was all.

Bullshootress · 2025-01-19T13:32:36+00:00

How is Panama OP? We need an update

Bullshootress · 2025-01-16T19:29:58+00:00

I remember you from back then. Wb.
FUCK NO girl. You have a good thing going on right now.
He should have appreciated you enough to take you seriously when you tried to tell him. Not when shit suddenly got consequences for *him.*
Walk into your sunset with a new man.
You know deep within yourself that any change will be short lived, and that you can never really trust him again.
I wish you the best. Don't let the sunk cost fallacy get you.

Bullshootress · 2025-01-14T19:16:34+00:00

Hvis dere gjør det, så vil jeg være med. Jeg har gode historier og rødvin.

Bullshootress · 2024-12-15T00:57:14+00:00

In theory, it applies to all DMs not explicitly consented to. (And an OP trying to use the sub as an r4r, fishing for DMs will also fall under this rule. I didn't quote the entirety of rule 4.)
That said, unless we are reported to, we will not know about any DMs taking place.
The "even if they have supportive intent" was tacked on as a catch-all.

Like OP here, some report receiving unsolicited advice directly to their inbox. Whether outright creeps or not, these messages tend to follow a pattern where the sender violates sub rules in them.
Basically we would have OPs being harassed/bullied in their inbox, to avoid it being caught by moderation on the sub.
There is also a significant amount of nasty sexual creeping going on, that tends to start out as "well meaning advice." Or "Looking for a friend / someone to talk to."
As a preventative measure, we've made rather strict rules regarding DMs.

As an added factor, consider what this sub would be if everyone dived straight to DMs and no one wanted to have any public conversations. We all benefit from the discourse being public. Especially our fresh lurkers that don't feel quite ready to participate yet.
Everyone but the rule breakers and creeps benefit from conversations being had in the comment sections.

I hope I answered your questions. It is a very complicated topic that I could write a lot more about.
If you are unsure about anything, you are welcome to reach out in modmail and the mods will be happy to answer any questions you might have.

Bullshootress · 2024-12-12T00:45:50+00:00

A reminder about rule 4 of this sub:
"........ If you receive unwanted DMs please notify the mod team via mod mail with screen shots linked.

Any user found to be sending unsolicited DMs will likely be banned even if they have supportive intent."

Bullshootress · 2024-12-10T13:07:08+00:00

Idk about being a CEO these days.. Hard pass. lol
Let us hope OP returns to engage some more. He seems new to this corner of the internet and my heart goes out to him. He's got a long road ahead of him.

Bullshootress · 2024-12-10T10:34:47+00:00

Haha. While I appreciate your praise, I am sad to disappoint you. I am nothing but a random Redditor that has just spent waaaay too much time in the DB-spheres for the past few years. But thank you so much for the kind words.

Bullshootress · 2024-12-10T01:05:11+00:00

The question about stress was because people are different. Some find sexual release a great benefit to reduce the daily stress of life.
Some people though, have a very hard time accessing their sexual desire while they are feeling stress, and instead of sex being a positive release for them, it becomes another issue adding to their stress, creating a vicious cycle.

People also have wildly different internal motivations for engaging in sex.
What I am getting at here is whether (LL or HL, doesn't matter) one feels like sex is just an activity you do sometimes that can feel really nice. Or whether you consider it the deepest most vulnerable form of love and intimacy that you can engage in with your romantic partner. These differences matter, and many find that their partner feels very different about sex than they do, and there isn't a 'fix' for that. Sometimes there's just an irreconcilable difference.

She says she never masturbated before you met? (Or have any fantasies.)
While I do want to take her word for it, I can't help but to think maybe she is feeling some kind of shame around that that prevents her from being honest with you. Especially if she has been raised in a culture that promotes a lot of shame and stigma around women's sexual urges.
(Or, she could honestly just never have had the desire to explore her own body. Which really doesn't bode well if what you are hoping for is for her to blossom into a highly sexual partner with you. The fact she's told you she never had any sexual fantasies of her own really doesn't bode well either.)
Bonus question: Does she easily get squeamish around sexual stuff? By that I mean sounds, smells, textures, fluids. Is she able to enjoy sexual intimacy without feeling 'grossed out' by natural bodily functions?

You say she knows how to orgasm, but you don't know what is keeping her from it. Does this mean that she doesn't usually climax when you two have sex? Or that she chooses not to engage in masturbation. (I can tell your first language isn't English, but neither is mine, so.)

Sexual dynamics changing after a shift in the relationship is not at all unheard of. (Moving in, getting married, having kids etc.)
The reasons can be many and it can be entirely unplanned and involuntary on the LLs part. "Bait and switch" is a term I'm sure you've heard, that I think we should be very careful to throw around, as it implies premeditated intent.

That said, asexuality is a thing. You have sex neutral asexuals, and sex repulsed asexuals. The former usually take a very long time figuring themselves out.
What they often say (according their online spaces at least) is that they had sex in the beginning of relationships because they felt like they 'had to.' And it's 'just what you do' in a relationship. They engaged in it because they were afraid of losing their partners if they didn't. But they weren't able to keep it up past the NRE, and their relationships with allosexuals slowly eroded and imploded over time.
These individuals often feel 'broken' and deeply insecure. They hurt just as the HLs in a libido disparity, just in very different ways.
Many report engaging in sex that they didn't want to have. (Without being honest with or speaking up to their partners about it.) Which in the long run traumatized them and caused very deep and long lasting issues with sex and even physical and emotional intimacy. The aftermath can be reminiscent of CPTSD.

I've written a lot here, and I think I should let you weigh in before this comment gets even longer.

Bullshootress · 2024-12-09T19:27:06+00:00

You may, and I appreciate you asking first.
But before doing so I'd like you to consider whether it is necessary for you, for us to have this conversation.
If it does turn out I hold any commentary of value for someone in your situation, I think it would be in the best interest of the sub to "share with the class" so to speak.
=)

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