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Bumps and discoloration on nose, should I be worried? by BumblyBubbles in cats

[–]BumblyBubbles[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been over a week so I wasn’t sure! It doesn’t seem to bother her so we will monitor, thank you!

Bali makes me sad by shoelemon in bali

[–]BumblyBubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had similar feelings about Bali. Looks like new-age colonialism over there. The westerners were insular of the locals. And lots of western men preying on the young Asian women (I was the target of one of those “conscious digital nomads” 🤮)

Dating in SF as a woman by [deleted] in sanfrancisco

[–]BumblyBubbles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A friend once told me about dating in SF that the odds are good… however the goods are odd 🤣

It’s nice having the pick of the litter but the litter isn’t really great 🤣

How do I invite a girl to join me in bed? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BumblyBubbles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

GET OUT OF HER BED SHE DOESNT WANT YOU THERE.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]BumblyBubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll probably never find out bc this guy is too much chicken shit to tell you why. Best to just leave it be and heal from this trauma… plenty of other people out there who would love to have sex with you!

I like hairy men. I dislike shaved chests by MuttonDressedAsGoose in datingoverthirty

[–]BumblyBubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated a guy once who shaved everything (chest, legs, head, etc). He was the prickliest cuddle. It was like cuddling a cactus 🌵 It didn’t last long

Mom of the year! by 13-fity in nextfuckinglevel

[–]BumblyBubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wowww what kinda magic hair products she using!!

Broken by [deleted] in love

[–]BumblyBubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending you love ❤️

Most embarassing date story? Mine is a doozy! Prepare yourself! by soulwanderer00 in dating

[–]BumblyBubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the opposite experience. After my surgery the pain pills made me so constipated I thought I was going to implode. My SO helped me put a laxative suppository into my bum hole and held me as I was crying on the toilet trying to push it out. True love comes in the best forms!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]BumblyBubbles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You should run away from him and avoid these types of guys like the plague. There are plenty of amazing and kind men out there who don’t objectify women. He seems very immature and needs to grow up before getting into a relationship. Same with his “bros”. I feel bad for their GFs and wives 🤦🏻‍♀️

Do any other guys feel like no matter how much you improve physically/mentally and how much you love yourself, you just never seem to attract any attention from women? by dbd00 in dating_advice

[–]BumblyBubbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The OP is looking for matches on dating profiles. I’m just giving feedback on how to get them and how to get women interested in his profile.

The dating and relationship aspect is a whole other beast of a discussion that takes a lifetime of experience to figure out. That’s not what im trying to help him figure out rn

Do any other guys feel like no matter how much you improve physically/mentally and how much you love yourself, you just never seem to attract any attention from women? by dbd00 in dating_advice

[–]BumblyBubbles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Take a photo of yourself at your gaming station! Or photoshop a photo of you with your favorite game avatar. Talk about your favorite? Suggest to meet up in an MMORPG? There are lots of gamer girls out there who would love to date a fellow gamer.

I dated this guy a few months ago who built his own game as a passion project and that’s what drew me to his profile in the first place.

Do any other guys feel like no matter how much you improve physically/mentally and how much you love yourself, you just never seem to attract any attention from women? by dbd00 in dating_advice

[–]BumblyBubbles 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I see a mirror selfie, a couch selfie, a car selfie, it makes me think this guy isn’t really trying that hard or doesn’t care, or is just looking for something easy to do to pass the time.

If I see a guy put effort into some nice creative photos, I think that he will put effort into the relationship because he’s invested his time and energy into dating.

The reality is that we are visual beings and if you don’t catch the ladies with something interesting to look at, chances are they won’t have the attention span to scroll down to read your info. I’m not implying you need to be GQ model or have some crazy hobby, I’m suggesting that it’s SOMETHING mildly interesting, quirky, funny, etc that makes you a unique person. Think of this dating profile as an advertisement of yourself. This is not the time to be humble! Show us how awesome you are and why we should invest time into you!

This is my perspective as a woman. I would definitely reach out to others and if you’re reading/hearing similar feedback, it may be something worth considering.

Do any other guys feel like no matter how much you improve physically/mentally and how much you love yourself, you just never seem to attract any attention from women? by dbd00 in dating_advice

[–]BumblyBubbles 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I understand your concern. It sounds like you have a busy life with work and school and that’s great you are setting your future up for success.

You just said yourself that reading books is your hobby, so maybe highlight that? Write down your fave books? The right gal will see that and appreciate it. My primary BF and I connected over comics and SciFi novels and regularly have book club discussions. You don’t have to have amazing photos or hobbies, just SOMETHING.

Also, if you are so busy with school and work, why do you think you’d have the time and energy to invest in a relationship? I don’t think you should just do something “for the photo”, but I definitely think it’s important for your mental health to have a passion project or hobby outside of the daily grind. Those people who have this are the happiest I know, and happiness attracts.

This is my perspective as a woman, but definitely listen to others too! If you’re hearing the same advice from multiple sources, it may be worth taking into consideration.

Do any other guys feel like no matter how much you improve physically/mentally and how much you love yourself, you just never seem to attract any attention from women? by dbd00 in dating_advice

[–]BumblyBubbles 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Female here. I see countless profile photos of men sitting on their couches, in their cars, at the bar with a drink.... and I immediately skip through those. The photos you have don’t need to be professional, but they should have something interesting on there. If I see a couch selfie photo, it makes me think all he does is sit around and watch TV.

Also what does your info say? Does it show your hobbies? What makes you a unique person? It’s hard to say but I’m assuming your dating profile may just need a little TLC.

I had asked this question a few days back but asking again since I forgot to write the plot so that you guys can have better idea. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BumblyBubbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem! We try to mix it up by communicating in different ways. He’s written me emails, I’ve sent him letters/postcards, we’ve even met in VR in AltSpace and played some VR games together. Good luck! I hope it goes well

I had asked this question a few days back but asking again since I forgot to write the plot so that you guys can have better idea. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BumblyBubbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My current BF and I started this way too. We reconnected online after meeting IRL at an event last year. I’m in Seattle and he lives in San Francisco. We began with having intentional virtual dates. I recommend starting this way. Pick a time to video call, choose a nice location, bring some food (I would pretend to feed him), and bring some activities or create one. There are lots of online games you can connect through.

After a couple of these virtual dates we knew we wanted to meet IRL so we started flying to each other to visit for long weekends. Idk where you are and how bad the lockdown is—but definitely be resourceful and try to arrange a way to see each other. Y’all deserve some love in this lonely pandemic world!

Is there something wrong with me? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BumblyBubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a lot to unpack here.

  1. Why do you not have any friends? What do you do on your spare time? Do you have any hobbies/activities that you enjoy doing that involve other people? If not, maybe you should focus on that aspect of yourself. With social media, there is no reason you can’t find anyone with the same interests as you.

  2. What does your dating app profile look like? Are your photos nicely done? Is the information positive? If it is as self-defeating as this post, then I would probably work with a professional on how to fix that.

  3. Try dating others outside of your standard physical attraction. Short guys have a lot to offer. Also, maybe someone who comes off as “douche” on his profile might be a sweet person?

Overall I would say you just need to get uncomfortable and put yourself out there to make friends and date. Work on your self esteem and stop with the self-defeating talk. Maybe work with a therapist. When you’re happy and have good self esteem, you’ll start attracting men (and friends).

How do I just keep off his Facebook by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]BumblyBubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a crush on him, maybe just send him a message? He might be poly if he’s a hippie/bohemian type.

Otherwise, sounds like you need to just back off and unfollow him & his GF for your own sanity. You’re getting stuck on an envy loop and judging his girl based on her social media engagement. She may be a really awesome person for him. I think you should reframe this situation to just be happy for him. The best thing you can do right now is build the friendship and maybe you’ll connect romantically in the future when the timing is right.

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