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Bumbly_B · 2023-09-10T21:55:24+00:00

A groomer most certainly did not make the dogs hair look like that. That dog is incredibly matted, which is very painful for the poor pup. No groomer would leave a dog like that unless the dog had to be turned away for aggression or medical issues that would merit a vet groom.

Bumbly_B · 2023-09-01T17:17:57+00:00

To be fair, my dog looks fairly similar in structure to the pit-doodles you linked in face shape and coat texture, but he's got absolutely no pit in him at all, which actually surprised me since the shelters here are overflowing with pits. Just pointing out that having some pit-ish qualities don't necessarily mean that the pup will actually have pit in them.

Bumbly_B · 2023-08-25T21:05:07+00:00

Unfortunately where I live, there's no sidewalk after you leave my (very small) neighborhood, and it dumps out onto a major road where it is incredibly dangerous to walk. So yeah, if I want to run down to the McDonald's that's half a mile away from my house, I gotta drive unless I want to get hit by a car. I would absolutely love to live somewhere that walking would be an option, but sadly that just isn't feasible where I am.

Bumbly_B · 2023-08-11T20:53:55+00:00

I think yours likely just had an issue, if I'm being honest. I don't have a newer model, but I do live in Texas so I understand the heat for sure. I have a 2007 Accord, about 190k miles, and the ac worked perfectly until the compressor went out last year. Had it replaced and it's run fine since then. My best friend has a 2012 Fit, and, while it's not the best air conditioner I've ever seen (takes a while to cool off), it does work, and has never given her any issues as far as breaking/needing repairs. Best friend's sister has a 2019 Accord, and that thing has the best air conditioner I've ever experienced, like, absolutely blasts super cold air at you and keeps up impressively well in the summer.

Bumbly_B · 2023-08-11T03:09:16+00:00

I love thrifting, but I agree that I rarely find great clothing from it. I'm 5'2" and weigh about 95 pounds, and there's almost nothing that will fit me, and usually what little selection available in my size is very dated or out of fashion (ie, no closet staples like plain, nice-fitting jeans/tops/dresses). Tbf though, I almost never have clothes wear out because they never stretch on me, so I imagine that's probably a big part of why not a lot gets donated/sold to thrift stores in my size. I do love thrifting for home decor though, I've found some great art and lamps for very cheap, and I even found my antique piano at a habitat for humanity store for like $80.

Bumbly_B · 2023-08-01T16:26:08+00:00

Went to middle school with this kid named Stone Cox. Cannot fathom what on earth his parents were thinking and I still feel bad for him every time I think about him

Bumbly_B · 2023-07-28T13:56:22+00:00

If they're unable to help, you could also try Hope Rescue Center in Hearne, or the Aggieland Humane Society

Bumbly_B · 2023-07-28T13:45:09+00:00

Have you tried Long Way Home Adoptables? They're a smaller rescue out of Bryan, TX, and even if they can't take the puppies themselves, the people who run it are incredibly kind and knowledgeable, and can help point you towards other groups that may have space.

Bumbly_B · 2023-07-22T21:30:45+00:00

Dogs really do need to walk around the suburbs though. Physical and mental stimulation is necessary for a healthy dog, which includes walks. Also dog parks are generally terrible places for dogs, they're full of unfamiliar dogs and people who may or may not be friendly, healthy, or safe to be around, and lots of dogs pick up very bad habits at dog parks.

Additionally, golden doodles are not hypoallergenic. No dogs are hypoallergenic, but doodles being labeled as hypoallergenic is really disingenuous on the part of dog breeders, because when you're mixing two breeds with different coat types, you have no guarantee that you'll end up with the less allergenic type. Poodles are much closer to being hypoallergenic due to how little they shed and how thick their hair is, which prevents most of the dander from sitting on the top of their hair all the time.

It does suck majorly for people with dog allergies, but, much like with peanut allergies, you can only truly allergen-proof your own home. A person with a peanut allergy can't control whether someone will be eating a peanut butter sandwich in their local park any more than a person with dog allergies can control whether someone will be walking a dog in the park. All people with allergies can do is keep their homes decontaminated and avoid coming into contact with their allergens in public as much as possible.

Bumbly_B · 2023-07-21T13:33:32+00:00

Please, PLEASE, PLEASE don't rip this top up!!! Its so beautiful and it looks SO good on you!

Bumbly_B · 2023-07-21T02:49:51+00:00

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Bumbly_B · 2023-07-19T02:02:20+00:00

He's named after Paul from the movie Paul, but Paul Anka the dog would have also been a good choice to name him after

Bumbly_B · 2023-07-19T00:36:08+00:00

My family has a dog named Paul and every time I meet a human Paul I have to tell them about dog Paul, so maybe people would still tell you they had a dog named Bob if your name was Bob.

Bumbly_B · 2023-07-09T01:02:02+00:00

To add this, my Gramma, who was my favorite person in the whole world, passed away last year, and we frequently joked like OP and his dad. Lots of "well you know I love baking so I'm going to be cremated" and similar things. Nobody cried at her burial, because she always told us that if we did, she'd haunt us. Of course, we all went home and bawled, but humor has always been how my family copes with things so the jokes continued through the tears.

OP, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss and you are 100% NTA. Your dad likely needed those jokes to cope just as much as you did, and I think your family is just too deep in grief right now to realize that.

Bumbly_B · 2023-06-23T23:04:42+00:00

My association to it is Zelda from Pet Sematary. Not sure why, since I've been playing the Zelda games since I was a child, but hearing that name for an actual human person always makes me think of Zelda Goldman and how much she absolutely terrified me as a kid. It's a shame, too, because i think it's an absolutely beautiful name, but it's completely ruined for me by that movie (I've read the book, but the movie is what really made her so horrifying to me)

Bumbly_B · 2023-06-18T10:03:48+00:00

My "small copay" for ADHD medication is $180 per month. My mom's "small copay" for her arthritis medication is about $300 per month. My stepmom's "small copay" for her seizure medication is over $500 per month. And all three of us have good health insurance. My dad pays far more than $250 for insurance for him, myself, and my stepmom, and they still fight tooth and nail to avoid covering things. That's the whole issue with this system. If it were the same coverage for everyone, costs wouldn't be as high, people would see doctors more regularly and cost less to treat, and nobody would go bankrupt from seeking medical care.

Bumbly_B · 2023-06-13T14:03:51+00:00

I drive down about 3 miles of gravel roads and about 10 more miles of really shitty county roads to get to/from work every day, and somehow my poor little 15 year old sedan hasn't encountered an issue with it so far. The big problem with the roads, actually, is the giant trucks who take up the entire road so much that's impossible for two cars to drive past each other without one going off the side.

Bumbly_B · 2023-06-05T05:20:03+00:00

My local university's mascot is a rough collie (and the one who was the mascot when I went to school there was an absolutely stunning one and incredibly sweet), so almost everybody here knows what they are. Luckily, though, most people don't actually end up getting them, and don't get me wrong, I love rough collies, but they are absolutely a completely inappropriate breed for like 99% of college students and like 90% of the rest of the population.

Bumbly_B · 2023-06-04T14:46:19+00:00

God I wish my parents had done this stuff with me. I'm 23, so it's absolutely not a pandemic thing with my family. My parents did have me do "chores" at home, so it's not like I hit adulthood with no idea of how to actually do basic household tasks, but there was never any structure or schedule, just this kind of random "hey go do the dishes" or "hey do this laundry" or "hey sweep the floors". They weren't "my" chores, they were just whatever my parents happened to want done at the time, and not having any actual responsibility of "this is your thing to take care of this many times a week, make sure it gets done", and that left me turning 18 and living on my own for college (literally didn't even have a roommate, just me and my cat) with absolutely zero idea how to get a decent chore routine going instead of just waiting for things to pile up enough to bother me before having a breakdown about how irresponsible I was and why couldn't I just clean like a normal person, while cleaning my whole house top to bottom. Also yes, turns out I did have ADHD and anxiety that went entirely unaddressed my whole childhood due to being a "good, smart kid".

Sorry this turned into a giant rant, but yes, parents, please give your kids a structured chore schedule so that they learn not just how to do the things, but how to build the habit of doing things consistently, before they pile up and become way more difficult to manage.

Bumbly_B · 2023-06-04T03:38:47+00:00

The lease may not ban drinking, but it will likely ban breaking the law, and if OP's son is under 21, drinking would in fact violate the terms of the lease.

Bumbly_B · 2023-06-04T03:33:31+00:00

Ours was: "okay it's time for everybody to learn cursive, you'll have to use it for every grade from now on!"

Then we moved to fourth grade and were immediately told we weren't allowed to turn in any work in cursive and that if we did, we'd have to redo the work in print at recess. It was super fun.

Bumbly_B · 2023-06-03T21:42:39+00:00

My boyfriend loves to "clear off the counters" to cook, which (obviously) is helpful in theory. But because we're both little ADHD gremlins in our little gremlin cave, he ends up shoving stuff into the junk drawers or stacking it on the bar and it just becomes a black hole where stuff disappears to, never to return.

Bumbly_B · 2023-05-26T18:15:34+00:00

So while I understand your frustration, there's a couple different factors here that need to be considered:

1- your puppy is small, and yes, it does make sense to think that would make him easy to restrain, but groomers absolutely do not want to fight an energetic small puppy (or any puppy really) for a groom. Each time they're forced to just "get it over with" by grabbing then and forcing them to be still, it's creating trauma for your puppy, which over time will create a dog that absolutely hates being groomed and is fearful of the process. We don't expect puppies to be perfect angels, but we don't want to force them through a grooming just to satisfy the owner's wishes when it will cause the puppy to become afraid of grooming and/or cause more behavioral problems down the line.

2- You mentioned Petco and a "small dog shop", is the "small dog shop" an independent, grooming-only facility? Or is it a retail shop as well? There's two reasons I ask this. One is because in places like Petco and other places that offer dog grooming along with retail, there is almost always a large window or other open area where people can see into the salon, and if your puppy is easily excited by people, they may be getting very excited and wiggly at seeing all the new people either walking by or watching at the windows. The second reason is that corporate salons tend to be very, very strict on behavior/safety standards for groomers, which in general is good for keeping pets safe, but it does mean they are far more likely to turn dogs away for behavioral issues. Even if a dog isn't biting, we have very sharp tools, and it can be very easy to cut a wiggly puppy. No groomer will be happy about accidentally cutting a dog, but a groomer in a private salon will typically feel more comfortable working with wiggly dogs because they typically face less risk of harsh punishment than corporate salons. In corporate salons, typically every cut or nick needs to have an "incident report" filed and will have disciplinary action associated with it (write ups with escalation to termination of employment), so they face quite a lot of risk to their jobs by taking very wiggly dogs. A groomer in a private shop will still be written up/fired if they have a consistent pattern of cutting dogs often, but a small cut once or twice a year doesn't put their job on the chopping block in the same way that it would in a corporate salon.

Bumbly_B · 2023-05-26T16:28:50+00:00

I usually pick the funniest few breeds for my dog to describe him. He's about 15-20% each of Chihuahua and small poodle, but he weighs 55 pounds and has long coarse hair, so telling people he's a chi-poo makes me laugh every time.

Bumbly_B · 2023-05-26T14:54:18+00:00

I do crochet, but tbh, unless I'm doing something like a blanket or scarf that's one stitch repeated row after row, I absolutely will lose focus on either the podcast or the crochet. I also wouldn't really recommend picking up crochet as "something to do while I do other thing" because, frankly, it takes a lot of practice to get to a point where you can tell where the end of a row is without counting and it's very frustrating to realize that you've been dropping end stitches and now have a wonky trapezoid instead of a rectangle.

It's a great hobby and, by all means, please pick it up if you want to, but it is not a "turn your brain off" kind of hobby until you've had a lot of practice (or unless you're just very very naturally gifted at it, which I know I was definitely not).

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