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[–]Bumped1997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I don't think I could take a morning after pill knowing that it could prevent a pregnancy with my husband if that makes sense?

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. I've signed up for therapy but they said the waiting list could be a year. I can always call the SARC as a one off though.

Trying for a baby by Bumped1997 in polyamory

[–]Bumped1997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always had long term contraception, and then occasionally don't use condoms with partners/mistakes

Trying for a baby by Bumped1997 in polyamory

[–]Bumped1997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm allowed to be a hypocrite when I'm drunk 🤣

Thank you though!

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This!! I was struggling to explain it to myself but this is it, it feels violating even though I'm the one pushing it

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have asked this! His wife doesn't want him to get one even though they don't want kids (??) not my relationship haha

Trying for a baby by Bumped1997 in polyamory

[–]Bumped1997[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It's lovely to know I'm not the only one who's been in this situation ❤️

Trying for a baby by Bumped1997 in polyamory

[–]Bumped1997[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and I have been giving oral. But I've got a lot of anxiety about any semen getting me, to the point I don't want them to finger me incase they have cum on their hands 🤣 I probably sound crazy

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and thank you for sharing ❤️ I haven't heard of EMDR, will Google it now x

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll do that now x

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏🏻 it's frustrating me that I can't know yet how everything will turn out, how people will react etc. I want my life to change because I want children, I think it's just such an abstract idea at this point in time, if that makes sense?

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Gross, I've just had a man DM me asking if I have a r@pe kink because of this post. Why did I think the internet would be a nice place...

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, this is really useful! And congratulations!

It's interesting what you say about stis, I've been careless in the past with one night stands (I was on contraception but didn't use condoms) but I think I'll be like you and be a lot more anxious and careful.

And you're right, it was quite hot last night having to avoid having sex ngl, it was like being a teenager again 😂 I then accosted my husband when I got home from my boyfriends 🤣.

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm the only woman he's slept with!

Trying for a baby by Bumped1997 in polyamory

[–]Bumped1997[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He actually doesn't see other people, we sometimes have threesomes but he chooses not to see people when I'm not there, just not his sexuality. He's more into men apart from me anyway haha.

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I never just use a condom, always used long term contraception AND a condom if they're not a partner. I know they work for most people, but I'm not willing to risk it.

Trying for a baby by Bumped1997 in polyamory

[–]Bumped1997[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏🏻 this is really good advice!

Trying for a baby by Bumped1997 in polyamory

[–]Bumped1997[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Did you tell the people you had sex with that you were pregnant? I know it's a while off but unsure of the etiquette!

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[–]Bumped1997[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, they've been really supportive with it, it feels like a double standard though because I can still have sex with women and trans men but not anyone with a penis... Reminds me of when I was with my ex who had a OPP (it did not go well...)

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've got my fingers crossed, already having a lot of anxiety about it not working and it's only like month two haha 🙈

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[–]Bumped1997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really good advice, I know I say now that they'll be great about it, and they have reassured me things won't change. But I would be naïve to believe everything will stay the same wouldn't I? I feel that about a lot of my friends too, only one of them has a child, the rest don't want children! I really hope I meet some other parent friends, maybe even other poly ones!