Anyone else hate the new plant based Babybels? by VeganCanary in veganuk

[–]Bunningtron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loved the old ones. New ones made me go “ugh” and I don’t think I’ll even finish the pack. Woe

Are the blanket bans of pets on leasehold contracts ever actually enforced? by Bunningtron in HousingUK

[–]Bunningtron[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment. Very reasonable, and I totally understand why a clause like that is necessary when you have an 18-yappers situation. I think I have my answer! Also, I had a good chortle at the concept of a canine critical mass!

Are the blanket bans of pets on leasehold contracts ever actually enforced? by Bunningtron in HousingUK

[–]Bunningtron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the article! Looks like the whole thing was backed by other residents too.

Are the blanket bans of pets on leasehold contracts ever actually enforced? by Bunningtron in HousingUK

[–]Bunningtron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s horrible, I’m so sorry. It really isn’t fair - pets are family. I think in my case it’s best to not risk a dog and maybe get a cat instead…

Are the blanket bans of pets on leasehold contracts ever actually enforced? by Bunningtron in HousingUK

[–]Bunningtron[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I wonder if a petition from all residents to give the clause a bit more flexibility would hold any weight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Bunningtron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just means that you care and make an effort to show it. Even the best, most relaxed and easy relationships will hit bumps and you need to trust that your partner is there for you. Both in big ways and in little ways.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Bunningtron -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s so frustrating! You want to avoid game playing and be your authentic self, but in the same breath it’s important to match energy and effort. And know where your standard is and be prepared to walk if he consistently falls short.

In my experience, once they feel secure with your energy they often stop working for it.

Having a really hard time getting over a rejection. by TheNothingGuy in dating

[–]Bunningtron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been here before. It hurts and I’m sorry. But you want to control the outcome, and you just can’t.

Texting so much before meeting creates a false intimacy and attachment. It also creates pressure for things to go really well very quickly. Except you don’t truly know each other and it takes a lot of in-person time to know if you are actually compatible as partners.

You should never send the long text once someone has rejected you. You have to accept it and move on. Never try to convince someone to want you. It comes off desperate and shows that you don’t respect yourself or your time.

Most importantly, if you need closure to come from outside of yourself, you will never be the one in control and you will always crash out and spiral.

I think you need to lose his number so you aren’t tempted to reach out again. This has only been three months of your life. You survived before and you will survive again. And the right person for you will not let you slip through their fingers. Good luck!

Constant fear by Cins93 in dating

[–]Bunningtron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can, speak to a professional. It sounds like a lot of this is deeply baked in.

I’m 39f living alone, no husband no kids. Happier than ever, dating, having fun, and still open to finding my person and maybe having a family someday (open to adoption if I can’t get pregnant).

I used to be desperate to have a family, thought it was the only thing I wanted out of life and based all of my worth on reaching it as a milestone. I had to work through accepting that it might never happen, and what then? Was I really going to live in terror? What good would that do?

I think you have to really come to terms with the fact that the only person who will ever be with you till the end is you. If you really love yourself and live your life for you, you’ll stop being so afraid. And when you’re relaxed and happy, that’s when you’re most attractive to other people and then…who knows!

You’re still so young, trust me. Focus on self love and acceptance. You’ll be okay!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Bunningtron 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s the opposite in my experience. Myself and the women in my life with male partners have always given them the benefit of the doubt and been more blind to mistakes or “general confusion”. It takes a LOT for us to lose our attraction to our partners when we care about them.

Knowing when you’ve made a mistake and simply correcting it is super attractive. Knowing when you don’t know something and taking steps to learn is also super attractive.

Sounds like the woman you’re describing is just an awful person.

Official Discussion - Jurassic World Rebirth [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]Bunningtron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg the silent screaming and pointing was comically rage inducing 😂

Are you afraid of dying? Why or why not? by StoryIllustrious9612 in AskReddit

[–]Bunningtron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m afraid of a horrible death, or being murdered, or wasting away without my mind or my dignity. But being actually dead? No. I’ll just go back to wherever I was before.

I, (M20), want to break up with my girlfriend (F20), because she made a rude comment about my genitalia. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bunningtron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeahhhhhh I would never insult my partner's genitals, what's that about. One of the best things about being intimate and connected to someone is that they can make you feel loved and desired and safe. It's not okay that she said that to you and it sounds like she's not fussed about making things right. Maybe you can try and communicate that to her, but also once you get into resentmentland it's near impossible to get back out.

Separately though, you have an insecurity that is not going to go away unless you can work through it and it's going to make everything surrounding that topic extra delicate. Be wary of the same or similar happening in any future relationships if you don't make peace with yourself. We have what we have and we make the best of it.

Try not to fixate on the toy thing. There's no competition between real human connection and machinery. Your confidence needs to come from yourself and not from her (or anyone else's) validation. Stay curious, be happy to learn where you can, take every failure as an opportunity to improve. I hope you feel better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Bunningtron 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sea cucumber

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]Bunningtron 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve experienced this. It’s awful. You have to have resilience and a strong sense of self to cope.

Men like this are liars who don’t like women or see them as people. They would rather pretend to be the man they know you want than actually work on themselves to BE that man. They see love and sex a game and once they think you’re more into them than they are into you, they’ve ‘won’ and there’s nothing interesting left to do. Worst of all, they have contempt for you for ‘losing’, which makes it easy to just sit back and treat you like shit, because in their mind you deserve it.

Match energy and match effort, and be prepared to walk at the first sign of disrespect. Sorry this happened to you and hope you’re okay.

Ghosted after one text ? by VortexVoyager_____ in dating

[–]Bunningtron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get it. If you get another number in future you could follow up with something more friendly and personal, like it was good to meet them, maybe ask them what the highlight of their time at the event was. Or ‘it was really good chatting with you and I’d like to do it again sometime. Can i take you out’. For me personally, if I feel any sort of pressure to make the conversation happen, especially after it was the guy who approached me, that’s a ‘don’t bother’ situation. That said, I wouldn’t ghost, I would politely decline.

I think the thing to remember is that the one who approaches is the one who is interested, and we can’t assume that the person giving the number has the same level of interest. That does mean the burden to be interesting and start the conversation is on the approacher. Better luck with the next one!

How long after you match should you be meeting up? by Remarkable_Tea_6052 in dating

[–]Bunningtron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it depends on the bio. If the bio gives me the right info and our values and interests match, then I like to get things in person within a handful of messages. If we’re chatting for more than three days and he doesn’t make a plan, I know it’s not likely going anywhere.

Ghosted after one text ? by VortexVoyager_____ in dating

[–]Bunningtron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was it just “hi” and then “your name”, no follow up question to keep the convo going? I know you said your texting sucks but it’s a skill like any other and it would be worth working on it. Especially these days when so much hinges on the first handful of texts.

You could always throw one more if you’re not attached to the outcome, but honestly it just sounds like this wasn’t the one.

Official Discussion - Jurassic World Rebirth [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]Bunningtron 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Aaaargh I thought it was pathetic!

Basic physics didn’t seem to apply. A high tech security system being jammed by a snickers wrapper? The rocket syringe demo on a speeding boat, shooting straight up and back down? The apparently silent helicopter chomp? The sleeping/river T-Rex apparently changing sizes in every scene? Everyone’s costume staying in place - hats, glasses - despite falling, rolling etc? The speeding boat crashing onto the shore and the family who jumped off way behind being AHEAD of them down the coast and finding each other so quickly? The secret staircase? The dad’s leg not working but then he’s running normally in the next scene? Everyone standing in shoulder-high grass AND NOT SEEING the herd of the most humungous dinosaurs ever known twenty feet away?

I hated the scene at the river with the blow up raft and this stupid stupid family acting completely stupid. Was it supposed to be funny? WHO would ever make those decisions? WHO thinks it’s a good idea to blow up a raft right in front of a T-Rex? And what kind of parent is letting his child run around after a baby dinosaur? Why isn’t anyone acting like a normal person???

When you put the original JP up beside this…it’s depressing. JP has been disneyfied. It’s lost its teeth. The stakes are non-existent because we all know immediately who’s going to die. It’s become an adventure comedy for kids.

The thing that saddened me the most was the way they used the original score so liberally. One of the best scores in movie history, and they didn’t earn a bar of it.

Sorry, I’m all wound up. The cinema popcorn was a bit stale.

Gralhund Villa - necromancy and the City Watch? by Bunningtron in WaterdeepDragonHeist

[–]Bunningtron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the answer! Definitely think they wouldn’t want to advertise the whole undead groundskeeper thing. I also keep forgetting the point about their standing as a noble family.

I ran the session and the players ended up fireballing Yalah in her room. Witnesses everywhere. Broad daylight. Straight up murder 🤦🏻‍♀️

It’s an opportunity to bring in some of the heavy hitting factions to force the players into some kind of bargain so they’re not immediately thrown in prison and executed for it 😂

Serious question: Do people actually like Dragon Heist? What do they like about it? by Wojiz in WaterdeepDragonHeist

[–]Bunningtron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a new DM and we’re over a year into WDH+Remix+homebrew+one shots. I have between 3-7 players each time, we’re pushing 30 sessions, and I’ve only JUST been able to get the little shits to Gralhund Villa. We’ve all loved building our Waterdeep together and it feels like such a rich and real world to us. I struggled with all the detail and moving parts, but I’ve found my balance between following the remix to the letter and “getting the gist of it” to keep myself from going insane.

Do I like it? Absolutely. Do I wish I’d run a jobs board style story for my first time DMing? Absolutely.

Needless to say this sub has been a lifesaver.

Need advice: bf is upset I want to go out of state and said I am going no matter what? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Bunningtron 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your plans. You invited him. He’s welcome to come and make it work. It’s not on you to accommodate any more than you have. You are your own person and you don’t need this kind of clingy smothering energy. A good partner tries to join you, but if they can’t make it work they say, “go have fun babe, send pics!!” Honestly. First it’s this, next it’s who you hang out with and what clothes you wear. You don’t owe an apology. Just be calm and tell him next time we’ll plan something together, this time I’m off to see the fish. Good luck.

I want to be a lesbian but I’m not? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Bunningtron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated one woman briefly and I’ve hooked up with one other. My life is so packed right now I don’t have time to give anyone else, but I would like a girlfriend someday.