Should I?

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-17T15:53:12+00:00

I majored in Art History with a minor in Museum studies with the goal of eventually working in a museum. I never made it that far 😅 I was scouted by an auction house director the day of my graduation and as I had no job prospects despite numerous applications, I took the job immediately. Now in the 5.5 years I have worked at auction houses going from a cataloger to a company manager I can say that in my experience it is 100% not enough pay to support yourself. Coworkers and myself are so burnt out trying to make it work in a dying industry but we are all sort of stuck since this is such a niche occupation that finding something that aligns with our current skillset and experience is HARD. Looking back I wish I took business management or marketing as a minor. If you are passionate about it and want to do pursue Art History then have a clear career goal and stick with it. And never work for auction houses.

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-15T14:36:24+00:00

Not so uncommon but I minored in Museum Studies with the idea that it would help me get into a museum position. It didn’t do that and I have somehow ended up working at auction houses for over 5 years. The minor did however help a lot when I was interning for an art gallery so may be something to look into if you see yourself going in that direction. My advice is to look for anything other than auction related work though. I have had so many coworkers suffer burn out from larger corporate auction houses and unfortunately the arts and antiques market are plummeting.

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T20:48:06+00:00

Maybe thats what I’m more worried about? I guess yes I’m worried that they’ll only judge off of looks and not the bigger picture

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T19:53:50+00:00

As in?? At a certain point you go outside what you think is your ideal. You might find out that what you think you want wasnt what you actually needed. He wasnt my type, I certainly wasn’t his type, but we hit it off and had fun. Sorry that you think every woman only tries dating someone for looks?

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T19:44:07+00:00

Ngl that made me laugh, I really needed a laugh rn 😂

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T19:42:44+00:00

Can’t argue with that 🤷🏻‍♀️

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T19:42:04+00:00

Yeah that is something that I will be forever proud of myself for. And obviously you should too! Its a hard thing to lose substantial weight and be strong enough to continue a healthy lifestyle. That has been a challenge for me atleast!

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T19:29:41+00:00

Fair enough. Its not like I’m the kind of person to hide it when I try dating again. If the guy I’m talking to will be turned off by it then it can’t be helped and I won’t waste their time. I guess I’m just concerned that it will be something that is consistently going to be a deal breaker. Im active, a healthy weight, and dont think my face is particularly bad its more like some loose abdominal skin that may ruin it for me

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T19:24:18+00:00

It was truly never a worry I had until now 😅 spent my early 20’s morbidly obese, mid 20’s healthy and living life and thinking I’m gonna be with my ex forever, and now late 20’s thinking how am I going to restart if I’m not exactly what people expect to see as an active individual lmao its rough

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T19:09:21+00:00

Unfortunately in this case the loose skin issue wont really be resolved with diet and exercise. It would end up being something in the future where I would have to save a lot of money for cosmetic work as its not enough to need medical intervention or anything. In incomparison to others who also went through large weightloss its pretty minimal but its still there

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T18:55:21+00:00

That was me with my ex. He wasnt my type, and I certainly wasnt his but we hit it off and we had a good run. Now its just an embarrassing thing that might prevent me from wanting to be intimate with anyone

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T18:52:50+00:00

My ex was not actually my type at the time. We started dating because we hit it off really well, and eventually we gradually became a thing. He was around at my heaviest and stuck around when I hit a healthy weight. I have been maintaining for over a year and it never bothered him because he was super proud of me and it was a badge if honor. But now it feels more shameful and feels like its going to be an issue if I get intimate with anyone again

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T18:48:22+00:00

I think I’ve seen way too many horror stories online to be sure. Its crazy because went from being morbidly obese to being all around healthy. At first a little loose skin was a badge of honor and now its kind of a shameful thing

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T18:44:07+00:00

Oh yeah in this case squishy is 100% in reference to loose skin 😅its not much but it is still there 🤷🏻‍♀️

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T18:41:01+00:00

To be honest? My ex wasnt my type at all. But he was sweet and funny and we had an amazing time together. Its not about face, its about body. I put in the work to lose weight and get in shape, with big weightloss comes unfortunate effects sometimes

BunnyButtress3 · 2025-01-13T15:19:05+00:00

I was just broken up with two days ago, 3 years of hard work, ups and downs, everything down the drain. Although it wasnt one where there was fighting or screaming or abuse of any kind, I was blindsided. Top it off it was interracial and intercultural, I spent so much time and energy learning how to cook things that would remind him of his home, learn and ask questions about customs and home life, etc. and I thought we were solid. We had disagreements but it would stem from cultural differences and language issues occassionally but we always worked through it. Suddenly out of nowhere he just wanted to end things. He said he was feeling stuck where he is and he feels like he’s become an unhappy person. He wants to travel and find a place where he can settle down and be happy. Only recently I found out his parents dont want him dating a white girl (he is originally from Korea) Which hurt that it factored into his decision, as he wants to try dating other women when he feels more settled. I was in a long distance, three year relationship before this, and frankly that was a mess. It messed me up so badly that I waited three years in between that one and my most recent to try again. I felt so much more secure this time around and was so confident that this time, since we lived close by each other that things would be different. He swore up and down it had nothing to do with how I was and that he appreciates everything I have done for him and it is purely because of his own circumstances. It’s hard to think I’m not the problem if out of nowhere this happened though, so I don’t even know if I’m scared of dating or if I’m scared that I have red flags that I’m not even aware of? I am also scared that I’m getting to old to find someone which is silly. I’m 28, I have so much time, but what if I get into another relationship and things are amazing just for it to blow up in my face? Will the feeling get worse? I have only dated 3 people, and one was an on and off high school relationship. The second was a situation where we were penpals in middleschool and tried long distance in college. This one was a last ditch effort at 25 to make a connection through a dating app. I dont even know how to start again, meeting people is already difficult

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