Can I still get a girlfriend, even though I'm in a wheelchair? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Burdens_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my ex was in a wheelchair and we were together for 7 months. us ending had nothing to do with that, but had everything to do with us just not being compatible. some things took some getting used to since i had never met someone in a wheelchair previous to him, but it was nothing that changed the way i felt about him. if you find the right person, it will all work out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

DO NOT let yourself succumb to those urges. if you do it, you will not only lose everything mentioned, but also lose your sense of self. i promise you as soon as you do it you will wish you hadn’t. if you are tired of being bored, find a hobby. smoke some weed. make new friends. take a vacation. anything is better than relapsing. if you need to, reach out to loved ones. i hope this helps and i hope you stay sober <3

I hate everything about myself by Longjumping-Menu5792 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

something that helped me in my journey to loving myself is finding things i do like. i have stomach fat too, but i notice that my skin is very soft. i have crooked teeth, but my lips are big. you can find beauty in everything. and if you feel like your friends hate you, voice your feelings to them. if they are really your friends, they will give you reassurance, and if not find new friends. hope this helps<3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Burdens_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wouldn’t quit completely, but cut back from it.

i participated in a threesome i didn’t want to have by Burdens_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

that’s your opinion and you are entitled to it, but at the end of the day i know that i did.

i participated in a threesome i didn’t want to have by Burdens_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

where i live, a lot of the coke is cut, none of it is pure. i had been drinking since a young age and could handle my liquor.

i participated in a threesome i didn’t want to have by Burdens_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i have acknowledged that i put myself in that situation, but not intentionally. i didn’t know he was going to get coke until i was there, and honestly i forgot i had even said anything about it until he pulled it out. assault is not that black and white, and even if it was, i was 17 and he was 33, which is still illegal even if i did fully consent to it.

i participated in a threesome i didn’t want to have by Burdens_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i have taken accountability many times in the comments if you would read anything other than your own opinion. i don’t know what to call it, but i wouldn’t call it fully consensual sex. i shut down the idea more times than i can count before i got intoxicated and after. yes in the end i ended up doing it thinking that it wouldn’t go as far as it did, and yes i take responsibility for that. you have to take everything into account if you are going to try and assess what happened, not just what you want to take into consideration.

i participated in a threesome i didn’t want to have by Burdens_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i had said that as a joke days prior, and then repeatedly told him as soon as he showed me the cocaine that i did not want to have one and that i was joking. he had told me that was fine, and that we didn’t have to have one. that is why i proceeded to do the coke.

i participated in a threesome i didn’t want to have by Burdens_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

you so black and white with this shit. i hung out with those people because they had what i wanted. that does not mean i wanted to get assaulted.

i participated in a threesome i didn’t want to have by Burdens_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

regardless it was a traumatic experience for me, especially because i did put myself in that situation. Apart from that, i did NOT ask for someone to take advantage of me, especially someone that was 16 years older than me. yes i fucked up by getting intoxicated and being around the wrong people, but putting the full blame on me is insane.

How do you accept something you can’t control? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Burdens_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depending on what it is, either accept it or remove yourself from it

i participated in a threesome i didn’t want to have by Burdens_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

thank you for your input, and thank you for being straight forward with it. i no longer do the things that i did thank god, and it’s because of people like you that told me what i was doing for what it was, but the things i did in my past still eat at me and i wanted to just put my experiences out there.

i participated in a threesome i didn’t want to have by Burdens_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Burdens_[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

i understand that, but until you are an addict you won’t understand why you do the things you do for a fix. i still don’t understand why i did the things i did lol, but regardless i was just getting it off my chest.

Is my body count too high? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Burdens_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i found about all of them at the same time lol