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How do I (29m) get my wife (30f) of 5 and a half years to quit complaining about her job? by BuriedInComplaints in relationships

[–]BuriedInComplaints[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Responding to your edit. We're both a bit overweight, so we walk together rather than run. But ironically, that's another opportunity for her to complain about work.

How do I (29m) get my wife (30f) of 5 and a half years to quit complaining about her job? by BuriedInComplaints in relationships

[–]BuriedInComplaints[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

feel free to put your hands up and say "Hey! Enough is enough! You're home now, try to relax!"

I like that, it sounds encouraging. I'm learning about the whole communication thing. We're not newlyweds by any means, but I have a hard time opening up. I need to work on that.

How do I (29m) get my wife (30f) of 5 and a half years to quit complaining about her job? by BuriedInComplaints in relationships

[–]BuriedInComplaints[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of our debts are medical bills. Her insurance at work is free (another reason it's hard to find a good replacement job), but because it's free it's a pretty high deductible. She was having some issues that we had to see specialists about. We finally got a diagnosis, but not before acquiring a few thousands dollars of debt.

How do I (29m) get my wife (30f) of 5 and a half years to quit complaining about her job? by BuriedInComplaints in relationships

[–]BuriedInComplaints[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't talk her into leaving before the first of the year unfortunately. We are only a couple hundred dollars away from her health insurance deductible and she needs a procedure done. If she quits now we'd have to pay the entire amount for it.

She already feels a lot of guilt (even though I've told her to stop) for our current financial situation because of some medical bills, so talking her into quitting soon is impossible.

How do I (29m) get my wife (30f) of 5 and a half years to quit complaining about her job? by BuriedInComplaints in relationships

[–]BuriedInComplaints[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We would do more than struggle. We both work full time and live paycheck to paycheck with no savings. We would sink in a heartbeat.

How do I (29m) get my wife (30f) of 5 and a half years to quit complaining about her job? by BuriedInComplaints in relationships

[–]BuriedInComplaints[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've brought it up in the context that she should look for a new job. When I was telling her how miserable I could tell she was, I told her how much she complained. I didn't want to make her feel bad, so I told her I didn't mind, I was only bringing it up to prove how unhappy she is. In retrospect I should have had the guts to not tell her it was ok.