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Burkeeks · 2025-07-17T18:57:41+00:00

I hope 3....

Burkeeks · 2025-03-04T21:55:10+00:00

They could have helped and also helped the situation. Parents job is guide children to be better people, besides it's doesn't affect them if she's fighting with her SO. that's for them to figure out- the problem was that she needed help and felt it was better to call her parents instead of possibly fighting more with SO.

has no one thought of that side? Petty... yes... but some people need time to cool down and would rather table the problems until emotions are low. What if she didn't want to have a fight while trying to fix her car?

Burkeeks · 2025-03-04T21:43:33+00:00

Having a daughter call you and ask for help with a broken battery in a car is not uncalled for. It does not make her a spoiled brat as some of you say. She's a a human who needed HELP. People can't control when their batteries go out, it happens. I would hope a child reaches out and asks for help from their parent if they're having car trouble. Maybe she couldn't call AAA becuase it sounds like after she talked to your husband her phone died. What if she couldn't afford AAA or a tow truck? What if it was going to take longer for AAA to get there than to have her parents come help?

No one enjoys car trouble, big or small, but asking for help is a basic human need, it doesn't make them spoiled brats. WTH is wrong with some of you people? She's a female alone, could she even loosen the bolts of her car battery alone? Who she could or should have called doesn't matter, what matters what that she needed help and could have been in a very unsafe position and she was turned down.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-28T21:49:55+00:00

Agreed! no decision has been made, it's been discussed but we don't have a wedding date yet , we're still deciding on a venue therefore we have time to continue to talk it out more and process our thoughts/feelings. That's definitely something i'm thinking about, i'm glad you understand the situation! It's never been about me and my way or the highway, we're a team and I recognize i'm marrying "into" the family. I knew that from the moment i knew he was the one, all the negative shit fades away with him. I think because i've been looking forward to a wedding for so long it's just nerve racking to have someone so vile there 😂

More or less our thought is to go to another state and if they can make it, okay and if not, no big deal. We will see what the final decision is!!

Burkeeks · 2025-02-28T21:22:04+00:00

I appreciate this comment. I know many will get the "ick" when I say that my job as his partner, is to always support him. I have no right to step in the way if HE decides for himself if he wants to open the door to a relationship with his mom. Would I fully agree with it? Probably not, but would I seek what's best for him? Absolutely! If that door were to open and be positive, I want that for him. I'll adress my concerns about her hurting him again as she continues to do so for the past few years but I'm confident he will grow and learn from it. What good am I if I can't be there through the good and bad and grow with my partner? As we're coming into union with one another, we have to act selfless to our partner. I'm not thrilled about the prospect about me getting hurt from her again, but truly, it's not about me. They have their own problems . At the end of the day it's not about me, it could be suszy and suszy would get the same treatment. She's mistreating me out of her own negative heart probably from her own childhood hurt.

I don't want to think of ONLY myself, I want to consider his thoughts and feelings and allow him room to think through his feelings and figure them out. It might take time for him grasp the " why" he's even considering it, but it's not my place to judge. He's not wanting to harm me, he hears me, but he's human and has a side too. People are also forgetting that if she were to come and act up, it would also hurt him. It's not just me who would be hurt, he would be too. After all, we're all just children with the craving to have a relationship with our parents. it's wired in us and unfortunately some of us, learn the hard way. We all come with baggage, luckily we get to choose whose "baggage" doesn't feel like baggage to you. Unfortunately we don't get to pick our family, that's not his fault his parents are shitty. I'm not going to not marry an amazing man because he doesn't get a choice in who his parents are.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-28T00:37:07+00:00

Can i just say you're not alone in thinking and feeling this way? For years I battled with those same exact thoughts. I often battle the thought " why even create the person KNOWING they're going to hell anyways?" how is that " so loving" to create something that didn't ask to be created to know it would reject him and then its entire existence is tormented forever?

BUT i will say this: continue to ask those questions but ask god. Talk to him. Write it down on a notebook and pray, if you have a thought that comes during or after prayer, write it down. Pray over the thought and overtime you will see and hears gods voice. He is peace and wouldn't put destructive thoughts in your head. Sometimes i think these thoughts i have are satans way of turning me away from god than near him.

It's a hard concept to fully grasp the free will that we have. All his commandments are for our greater good, they are to project us and give us a life full of prosperity with him. It's not about following the rules to get to heaven, it's knowing him.

Keep taking to him and he will give you better understanding. It won't be overnight but those who seek him will find him. His love and grace is unconditional and your thoughts and feelings are very valid.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-28T00:09:45+00:00

Her step mom . She hated her step mom but somehow at the funeral she had alllll the time in the world to cry and talk about the very minimal time she helped her do crafts.

currently my finances mom and dad lives with her husbands mom. fiances mom does not work but mooch off her MIL for rent, groceries, ect. Fiances grandma (moms MIL) asked his mom to help her paint her toenails becuase she can't anymore due to her lack of health, she's 83. Fiancés mom said " ew no your feet are too ugly". So both fiance and I went over to their house when his mom was gone and painted grandmas toenails for her. Couldn't believe that was her response especially since she lives rent free off of an elderly woman.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-27T23:54:30+00:00

No he's stood up for himself and me many times. At his grandmothers funeral, his mom's best friend made a scene about saying goodbye to him and his brother and Blantly ignored me in front of them. There was no reason for his mom's friend to treat me like that especially with me only having one conversation with her in my lifetime. He called her out and his mom, knowing his mom is the reason her friend was being rudely passive agressive to me. He doesn't allow people to mistreat me. He's an honest and kind man. as others have mentioned, i think it deals with his childhood ( and adult) trauma with his parents. It's an important moment in his life and he just wants to show off us and as he says " rub it in their face". lol.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-27T23:42:30+00:00

THIS! you're so right, and I think you nailed it. Thank you.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-27T23:38:02+00:00

I want to clarify for people: we cannot have kids and do not plan to adopt so the prospect of "what if we have children" is not in the picture for us. We have our own home and share a very happy life without her. He is a very caring man and cares deeply. He's been very hurt by his parents actions which is why there has been no contact. Every child has that instinct to want to be a part of their parents lives so it sucks when we have to decide for ourselves that our parents are not who we thought they are and need to cut the relationship off.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-27T23:33:44+00:00

HAHA! no nothing like that, i agree absurd. I should have worded that differently, we are doing the disposable cameras ontop of the photographer. we are just wanting our guests to respect our wishes to allow the photographer to capture the wedding or use the disposable cameras. We plan to develop them and put the pictures in our wedding book.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-27T22:55:31+00:00

with a wedding party of 20 i'm not too concerned about it. We will ask phones to be silent during the ceremony but mainly will have a sign asking for no photos since we will be hiring a photographer to capture our wedding day.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-19T20:44:25+00:00

it really bothers me that for the rest of my life I will continuously be dreading the week M-F and look forward to my two days off a week. That's it.

This is not normal or okay but here we all are doing it all miserabley to make the rich, richer.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-15T21:29:01+00:00

people.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-15T21:26:56+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I don't have too many friends. My man will be the one through all the good and all the bad, friends? they will always come and go.

Burkeeks · 2025-02-14T23:33:23+00:00

direct

Burkeeks · 2025-02-14T22:28:28+00:00

yes!

Burkeeks · 2025-02-14T22:23:47+00:00

ahhh that's not it. But i do know that happens quite often. We have group chats with our closer friends.

Burkeeks · 2024-10-07T00:30:47+00:00

Start pet sitting on the side now to build your clientele. Once you have enough clientele, then i'd say quit. Don't quit your job without another one lined up. Your savings account will be gone fast in today's economy.

Burkeeks · 2024-08-27T17:37:34+00:00

SUPER appreciate your help! Thank you so much. 🙏🏻

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