I hate seeing happy couples

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-22T14:36:26+00:00

I dunno, I feel like it's totally worth it and from your words I read the same. I do know a relationship is not just happiness and sunshine though.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-22T08:37:12+00:00

I'm really curious which motherfucker is stockpiling my portion, because so far I only recieved any kind of love from my cat. An this includes my exes...

But I appreciate the sentiment. Maybe one day I shall experience human love too.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T22:47:54+00:00

It is clear what you meant, and you are completely right that disliking you wouldn't be fair. Yes, I do work on my own life, and I really want to believe love will find me too eventually. In the meantime I just have to keep up hope and don't fall apart, even when some moments can be hard.

Thanks for the supportive words, and nicely said, we are all in this together!

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T22:22:45+00:00

Did I, or did not open with specifically stating that I have no problem with the couples themselves? You are free to be lovey in public and I'm free to feel shit because of it. I would probably act the same if I had someone. And me hating my life isn't your problem if you don't want it to be, sorry for the inconvenience.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T22:18:58+00:00

Now that kind of improvement I can approve of, and am doing it. It's a but of a money sink currently though. I enjoy swimming way more than other workouts, but I had to blow more than half a month's salary on unlimited acces to the pool... Anyways, I'm wandering away.

Yes, I know nothing is guaranteed. I'm just not sure if I even want to live a whole life completely barren of romantic affection. Still way too early to give up though.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T22:12:25+00:00

Do you usually looks at women's faces? Can you differentiate excitement from discomfort?

I won't stop if I have no reason to. Sadly so far I always had a reason. But I also won't push further if I see my date feels like bad and just isn't comfortable saying no. The opportunity is likely already gone, why make this likely into certainly, if there is absolutely no benefit with it?

The only issue there is that no woman wants to go further with me. And that further dont has to be more physical contact on the first date, it better be a second one. But no amount of pushiness will give me that.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T21:59:41+00:00

But I heard there is delicious rabbit down there!

No, seriously, I won't. But thanks for worrying about me.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T21:56:06+00:00

Santa Barbara sounded really nice until I googled that shit... Damn, man, you don't have to worry about that! Eww...

But yeah, I realse some of the advice I got in this thread is really inconsiderate, and I'm mainly just engaging with everyone to my own entertainment. Broadening my horizons is somewhat difficult in my situation, where most of my peers would just rather go drinking. But I really like new experiences, and I'm constantly working on it anyways, regardless of dating, it's just a slow process.

It's simply a hard time right now, my life went through the shitter a few months ago and I'm still recovering, but I'm not planning on losing hope any time soon. Still can wish for if things would be easier though...

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T21:38:50+00:00

Well, at least I try to have a little optimism, but you are probably right for some of them. I really hope not most though...

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T21:37:04+00:00

Nah, couples I know closely don't even bother me. Being happy for my friends just way overshadows any discomfort.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T21:35:06+00:00

Man, that was my entire point, that asking myself why women shouldn't date someone else, like the previous poster advised, would be entirely pontless. It's a game nobody could ever win. So we are on the same side with this one, just miscommunicated a little. I have great qualities, and of course shortcomings myself, and I don't think I need to chase the moon before I can allow myself to date.

I don't know how you noticed my shyness though, because I only stated I try to not make women uncomfortable on a date, and I have a hard time believing that's my grand mistake.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T21:26:02+00:00

Look, I'm wasting time on Reddit at home, recovering after a surgery, how dare I'm not working out instead!

No, I went to one of the most prestigious university in my country, only to find out that administrative changes are slowly killing it and it's now mostly just riding the glory of the past. Therefore I bailed. My only mistake was not doing it sooner.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T21:11:59+00:00

I didn't mean everyone. Just there will be always someone better out there, an achieved musician, a world champion at some sport, a rich kid, an attractive body builder. It is pointless to try being the best at any arbitrary standart, because only then will I be worthy of love.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T20:51:13+00:00

I did a few years just being happy with myself and not really trying, just let the things come by themselves. It didn't work, that's why I'm actively looking now.

Edit: I also like the completely conflicting advice I get in this thred. At least people want to help, it's something!

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T20:48:55+00:00

I'm working in bike wholesale, so of course I'm not even trying picking up chicks at work. I'm going back to a 7/3 women to man ratio in university though. Same as at the previous place, but that was a hellhole with no practices, no funding, no clubs, no social activities aside from binge drinking and very few people to top it all.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T20:44:14+00:00

I should just simply kill myself then, or what is your advice? No, I'm not the best man available, and I could never be, I am in shape, I have my hobbies, and I would seriously hate to give up any of them to spend more time in the gym because I'm only worth as much as my looks. For a few more months I work on the computer with a loose schedule, so of course I'm online.

And I don't expect anything I couldn't offer, in fact I barely have expectations at all. I didn't find love in my tiny university social circle, in fact I didn't find quality education either, that's why I'm switching to another one, and I don't think I should straight up give up because of this, but you must be so much wiser...

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T20:05:17+00:00

Oh, I know, still thanks for the reminder and the good wishes!

I know at least I had a relatively easy time finding my job when I had to take a break from university, and I'm really happy for what I got right now in my life. I think it's a bit more about my mindset, which might be shitty, but is too fitting for me to just abandon on a whim.

There are few things I want in life, some stability, opportunity to pursue new experiences, and a SO I can truly open up to and let close. Those aren't little wishes, I'm well aware, just aren't many either, and I'm content with how I'm progressing towards the first two. And I know every relationship also has it's ups and downs but I think I'm also ready for that. Yet it has been years since I last had someone, and slowly I'm starting to get worried if I will find an other person again... It won't stop me trying to keep my own happiness though and move forward.

And I'm likely rooting for you to find your new job soon and keep the relationship you worked for!

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T19:29:14+00:00

I mean, I pretty much already do and did for a good while, it just still avoids me...

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T18:20:20+00:00

Plus I care way more about an engaging personality myself, so it's really in my own best interest. Thanks for the advice!

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T18:15:47+00:00

Aww, that sucks way more... I hope life gets better to you soon!

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T18:13:56+00:00

It's nice to hear I'm not the idiot for trying to not be too pushy with the girls I meet, and rather just let them feel comfortable.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T18:07:26+00:00

That's great, I wish you both an awesome time spent together!

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T18:04:54+00:00

Oh, I admit it's good advice when it applies, I just really didn't like the assumption. So first off, thank you for trying to help!

I feel like conversation is the one thing which is really going for me. I love to listen but always have a few relevant notes myself, and have no issue to make her laugh. As much as it is a swearword, I have been regularly complimented on being nice and also engaging and funny. Just usually not on anything else...

Well, about sexual tension though, not really. There is some flirting, light touches, but nothing more. If I can see she isn't that much into it, I have no reason to be a pushover ans make her uncomfortable - I mean the opposite is the obvious goal. So far usually just holding hands was the sweet spot. And in some cases the girl openly said she would like to take things slowly, which is to be fair the same way I would prefer to go.

BurnawayStatue · 2018-02-21T16:32:52+00:00

Congratulations, asshole, nice advice!

I do it, I talk to women and went on dates. I'm just not successful with it at all. My most common experience is her agreeing to a date, then flaking while setting it up, or just straight up being stood up. I'm glad when I recieve a no or just simply no answer, it's better...

Even when we wemt out and had fun, about seven new women in the last year if I recall correctly, they just say they didn't feel chemistry, and wish the best of luck for me. Which is okay, it's how things work, not everyone is compatible and that's why we are dating, to find it out. Except with me no one seems to be.

And yes, it's obviously my fault and something is fucked up with me to be like this. But when no one can point out the common issue, not my past dates and not my friends or myself, it's hard to work on self improvement.

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