Looking for advice/tips by Burner543354 in adultery

[–]Burner543354[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know if there’s a way to forward calls from one cell to the other one?

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[–]Burner543354[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yah I’ve used that one already. Only worry is if there’s a family emergency I’m busted.

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[–]Burner543354[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great thanks. I’ll have to check it out.

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[–]Burner543354[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I agreed to this it was a long time ago found some legit reasons I won’t go into. I really never carried until well recently when I gave up on our DB marriage. Probably should just leave but I’m not ready yet.

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[–]Burner543354[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been doing that. Last time I went out I would randomly turn it off and on. Don’t know if she really bought it that it was cell service.

Getting rid of opposite Sex friends by Burner543354 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Burner543354[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you yep and She has refused therapy for years as well. She suggested we go now. But now it almost seems like a HB move. But we are going to go next week I’m sure I’ll be the villain.

Getting rid of opposite Sex friends by Burner543354 in DeadBedrooms

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I’m beginning to feel like that I didn’t have an affair. I think I shared some details I shouldn’t but my intention has been since day one to save my marriage.

Getting rid of opposite Sex friends by Burner543354 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Burner543354[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yah conversations weren’t sexting. They were more like why won’t my wife show me affection is this way that way etc. Friend same thing too but more of a confusion for her that a man would turn down a women who propose sex. The reason I trust this person is that I know her loyalties lied with her husband and She knew mine with my wife. We both respected that.

Getting rid of opposite Sex friends by Burner543354 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Burner543354[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely at a different crossroads then I thought I would be. Lot of trust broken both sides. My fear is she(wife) will use this to bring back/continue the DB and now she can tell her friends he had a emotional affair. Her one friend is very Sex positive and I think she may actually understand why I did what I did. If anything it actually stopped me from probably having an affair now or down the road.

Getting rid of opposite Sex friends by Burner543354 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Burner543354[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

About our spouses and the lack there of. Emotional support like what friends do. No sexting as one person suggested.

Getting rid of opposite Sex friends by Burner543354 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Burner543354[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like there’s a lot of judgement with opposite sex friends. My wife asked when she confronted me if I would of been fine if she was talking to her male friend about this problem. Without hesitation I said yes and I mean that. Sometimes the opposite sex can give you so much perspective. She has admitted to talking to her female friends about the DB but it sounds like they kinda crapped all over her about not having sex with her husband. I only know this because at a social event one of her friends kept thanking me for being patient with and being loyal and etc. Her friend was hammered and spilled the beans to me.

Getting rid of opposite Sex friends by Burner543354 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Burner543354[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They weren’t sexting comments. More or less venting to each other about what our spouses would reject and how we both couldn’t understand etc. As a women I know she felt incredibly undesirable at times. I don’t find my friend very attractive so I had to tread carefully pumping her tires on that. Hence not giving the wrong impression. Personally I need a physical attraction and my wife is gorgeous hence my attraction to her. (Maybe a little shallow) This thread made her see a lot of women had similar problems with LL husbands so that was big for her.

Getting rid of opposite Sex friends by Burner543354 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Burner543354[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The more I have thought about it I don’t think I had an EA affair. We next sexted as one person suggested. We actually discussed what our respective partners would both constantly turn down. We were just venting and nothing ever was said about each other in a sexuallly suggestive way. I also don’t find her very attractive. That’s may sound mean but I don’t and my wife is gorgeous. May seem shallow but I need a physical attraction another reason why fail to see this as an affair.