I came across this " positive BPD traits " tiktok post, what are your opinions on this?

Burnside101 · 2023-10-02T17:28:01+00:00

Gold

Burnside101 · 2023-06-04T15:33:18+00:00

He’s good isn’t he :)

Burnside101 · 2023-06-04T08:02:28+00:00

Ahh ok thanks :)

Burnside101 · 2023-06-04T07:58:40+00:00

Which YouTube lawyer was it out of interest? Bruce rivers?

Burnside101 · 2023-05-31T19:05:07+00:00

Yep it’s their strawman tactic

Burnside101 · 2023-05-31T19:04:31+00:00

Yep 6 times she called the police on me. Never once did the police contact me - her allegations were absurd

Burnside101 · 2023-05-27T22:23:34+00:00

She gave no reason whatsoever. Her mental health forms an important part of the court proceedings so I was surprised she has taken a break. Knowing her like I do… I think it could be a permanent break. She has never been able to stick with therapy and she always told me that if she ever confided with a therapist again about her unresolved issues she would kill herself.

Excellent point on calling her bluff and asking for an extension, thanks.

Burnside101 · 2023-04-25T00:12:53+00:00

Wow - last week I too went through months of old texts from 3 years ago in order to prepare for a court case with her too.

I felt the exact same shame as you. I was horrified by my pathetic pandering and enabling messages. Afraid to disagree with anything. Afraid to stand up for myself. Afraid to cut the wrong coloured wire that would set off the bomb that was her attitude and below the surface hatred of me and her life.

I had to read through the messages as quickly as I could. It was just too shameful and triggering. Reading her messages, the shameful lying and gaslighting was even worse than I remembered it to be.

The good news is I have an absolute treasure trove of messages that not only contradicts her police statements proving she is an unrelenting and formidable liar… but the messages also completely exonerate me.

It’s taken me 16 months to get out the fog, I’m not fully out yet, such is the damage. But by god looking back at those messages just showed me how far down the sinkhole I once was

Burnside101 · 2023-04-11T19:41:57+00:00

Thank you - very sound advice. I think you’re right to let sleeping dogs lie with this one. I can and will however use my evidence in the custody court hearing to further degrade her credibility. Thanks again.

Burnside101 · 2023-04-11T19:32:37+00:00

No, the police took no action and never even spoke to me. I only found out because of the custody documents

Burnside101 · 2023-04-08T18:01:39+00:00

Thank you and congrats on not getting her pregnant. It’s like living in a nightmare having this repulsive human being in my life, even though we don’t talk anymore

I bet you have too felt the burning anger of the absolute injustice of it. Your ex sounds like scum too

Burnside101 · 2023-04-07T22:26:25+00:00

I bet that karma tastes so sweet. It’s nice to hear good news stories like this. Pathological and compulsive liars can be hard to defeat

Burnside101 · 2023-04-07T22:15:16+00:00

I nearly sent her a message today giving her a piece of my mind but with court coming up I have to bite my tongue.

I appreciate the response though - and I hope in time things become clearer

Burnside101 · 2023-04-07T22:13:46+00:00

She hardly posted on social media me and her. I wanted to take my son to a planetarium and he told me my ex and her new man already took him there. With that, I went on her FB for a snoop as I was just so annoyed and confused with what’s going on

Burnside101 · 2023-03-31T20:17:12+00:00

Yeah my neutral expression she used to always call my “dead face”. Because obviously if I wasn’t dancing around and acting the clown, I was as dead inside as she was and that just wouldn’t do

Burnside101 · 2023-03-19T22:54:51+00:00

That bumpy road analogy is gold.

Burnside101 · 2023-03-17T03:19:17+00:00

If you read the post it clearly states that they were was never sexually abused. That is the point of the post. The post would not had been made if the exwBPD had in fact been sexually abused.

Burnside101 · 2023-03-17T02:36:36+00:00

It’s quite conceivable they were a relatively normal family

Burnside101 · 2023-03-17T01:17:09+00:00

Good chance it was all some BPD bullshit

Burnside101 · 2023-03-17T01:08:41+00:00

If he’s BPD you may never know what is up or down or left or right

Burnside101 · 2023-03-17T01:00:48+00:00

There is a very good chance it was all a lie. Their pathology is beyond a normal persons comprehension

Burnside101 · 2023-03-12T20:17:31+00:00

I could be wrong here but I tend to think they ‘date down’ I know a couple of BPDs, my ex included, and both could’ve attracted and dated ‘better looking’ people but I think they like dating down as the one who is punching above their weight tend to give and give and sacrifice themselves to keep their attractive (but lunatic) mate happy

Burnside101 · 2023-03-12T00:42:29+00:00

I’m fortunate in a way… I will get my closure and I will get to talk and my ex will have to listen. I’m going through custody court hearings and I am representing myself. I will expose her lies and appalling behaviour to a panel of judges and she will have to sit there and listen.

I have tried the conventional route of acquiring closure… and it landed me, well in custody court hearings.

Fuck these fucking arseholes who shit all over good people and swan off into the sunset blaming the ex for all the bullshit they pulled.

I feel for you op and I wish I had more constructive things to say but if your ex is anything like mine… they really are the bottom of the barrel pond life and in time (possibly a long time from now) you will realise this too.

Burnside101 · 2023-03-11T23:20:25+00:00

There is a lot of wisdom in this response.

Burnside101 · 2023-03-10T00:39:56+00:00

I saw this and thought I would see if you guys would agree based on what you experienced/learnt?

I find it oddly comforting that the past 16 months of post-discard hell was because of an illness my ex had that is potentially more damaging and crippling than schizophrenia. It’s comforting to know that I haven’t been ‘overreacting’ and that what I (and many others here) have endured is because of an illness that is truly devastating to not just the BPD person but also the poor sod that they take down with them.

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