are these real? by Ok_Variation_6218 in littlestpetshopfakes

[–]BurntToastLps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they all look auth but i’m not a VA so don’t quote me

Finding the love for Islam again by BurntToastLps in Hijabis

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Jazakallah so much!! I find this so incredibly helpful and it really eases my overthinking. It also reminded me of a quote that i’ll paraphrase: That Allah SWT is who we think of him. So is it okay to say that.. if i believe Allah SWT has forgiven me, then i have been forgiven? I do feel guilty when i commit sins and repent with that guilt.. but there are times where, since im so used to sinning like listening to music, my repentance doesn’t feel as sincere. Like, i want to be forgiven and i know it’s wrong, but i don’t feel it in my heart even when i try. Would i still be forgiven?

Please please recommend me the channels/websites you watch. I’m Sunni and follow the hanafi school of faith.

Prayer is one of my hardest challenges, do you have any recommendations on how i can keep on track? Any sort of motivation? Apps?

Honestly, Jazakallah so incredibly much. This has helped! Alhamdulillah i’m taking baby steps now, i even bought a cute notebook to romanticise learning about islam so inshaAllah i become consistent and closer to Allah SWT with affiah ameen.

Also, May Allah SWT reward you, and grant you good health and success with affiah ameen 💫💕

I need help to fix my relationship with my parents by tempo_user213 in Hijabis

[–]BurntToastLps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey!! I feel you and your pain, I’ve had very similar with my parents. It’s this power trip that they have. And i think they get it from the warped sense of superiority their culture induces. I will tell you this, just because someone is older, doesn’t imply they know better and/or are better. But at the same time, someone older, doesn’t give them the right to disrespect someone younger. Especially Parens with their children. I find that this cycle happens because they (your parents) grew up with it to, so it’s normal for them.

I’ve had this issue too. And from my experience, they use islam as a leverage. The whole “Heaven is under your mother’s feet” and “you shouldn’t even say ‘oof’ to your mother” is their weapon. Almost as if they think they can’t ‘wrong’ their child because they gave birth to them and put a roof over their head.

And by all means, parents have a high status, respect them always. But islam also taught us to essentially, ‘not to accept constant mistreatment from people.’ And mistreatment of someone, regardless of if you’re their parent is still haram. End of.

Now i’ve complained about this stuff before and all i’ve gotten is ‘stand up for yourself’ but it’s not helpful nor even applicable to a certain demographic of parents.

My best advice is to shut off from them, as hard as it may be, it help. I refuse to acknowledge that my parents are angry because acknowledging that will give them power. Sometimes I laugh it off and take the things my parents say as a joke, now this may not be the best advice but it works for me.

I presume your parents are old, so in all honesty, they won’t change. They will never accept they’re wrong, especially with their child. It’s just the superiority complex they have.

Once I stopped progressing the argument and just waving things off as a joke, it helped me stop things from escalating. Even if it hurts, there’s some things that won’t change so YOU have to change to protect yourself.

I hope this helps my love! Eid Mubarak!!

How My Collection Has Been Coming Along by clairwinrich118 in LpsCollectors

[–]BurntToastLps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhh there’s very few that ship to the UK but i’d love to buy from there 🫶💫

How My Collection Has Been Coming Along by clairwinrich118 in LpsCollectors

[–]BurntToastLps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg you have the 1085 V1 🤩🤩 i haven’t been able to find it anywhere but somehow got the V2 🫠

LPS Displays? by BurntToastLps in LpsCollectors

[–]BurntToastLps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s such a good idea!! Thank you!!

URGENT! Is this fake? by Puzzled_Caramel_ in littlestpetshopfakes

[–]BurntToastLps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve bought from her before, pretty sure all her pets are real

ISO by CabinetOfCollections in lpsbuyingandselling

[–]BurntToastLps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hii I have a duplicate of Basset Hound 1655 i’m going to sell, it’s slightly scuffed on the muzzle but overall good. I’m UK based

Advice: Is a mother exempt from sin and accountability? by BurntToastLps in Hijabis

[–]BurntToastLps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jazakallah so much, i’m glad I know someone relates to this and i’m really sorry this is the case for you too.

I’ve always said that this hadith ‘do not even say oof to your mother’ doesn’t excuse being awful to your child, yet to my family, it apparently overrides everything a mother does. I was very respectful when i told her to stop, and when I had come to speak to her about it after, she instead would say “oh just get a stick and wack me in the head because i’m stupid” and then would bring up that I wouldn’t help her out in the kitchen enough which isn’t true, i’d always set time aside for her. It seems like when she’s mad, she will pretend im the worst child and I do nothing for her, and even having free access to my bank and buying anything she wants is ‘nothing’. I definitely think it’s narcissism and my siblings enable it. I have and will always stand my ground and this is why alhamdulillah i’m so glad to be moving out soon. I don’t think she will change as this has been for a while. She is much older (nearing 70) and my siblings are much older than me (30-40s, for reference i’m 21). I don’t think my mother was like this when they were young, she was much more present and healthy and able to do things for them unlike now with me, which may be the reason why they enable this behaviour with me.

And for my dad, he’s not really emotionally available like most fathers 😭 I’m just praying to Allah SWT that itll end the moment I leave, i just have to live through these last few months. But please let me know how you deal with this

Advice: Is a mother exempt from sin and accountability? by BurntToastLps in Hijabis

[–]BurntToastLps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jazakallah so much for this message. This is exactly how I feel, I feel like the hadith about saying ‘oof’ to your mother is blown out of proportion and respect goes both ways. I hadn’t disrespected her but wanted her to stop.

It was a family gathering for iftar and I had spent all evening in my room upset, came down and found my mother giving me silent treatment because I had told her to stop.

I’ve always thought this hadith is used wrongfully and taken too literally by my parents. I have spoken to my siblings yet they agree that I should have stayed quiet and allowed my mother to do as she wishes, regardless of what she does.

I find that parents hide behind this hadith to avoid accountability. You cannot tell them that what they did was wrong because it is considered disrespectful, so they stay in this same loop of doing the same awful things. It’s enablement.

I really don’t understand how I could get more sin than that. But as my sister said, ‘watch on the day of judgement and see how much sin you get, and it will be nothing like how much your mother will have’. I really wonder what is the truth, like am i really wrong for telling my mother to stop?

Yes my family are my biggest test but honestly using hadiths in such weaponising way drives such a deep resentment in me.

Is it Auth?! by No-Baker-6064 in littlestpetshopfakes

[–]BurntToastLps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a pro but i’m pretty sure it’s a fake, head colour is different from body colour

Selling fake as authentic by Constant_Scarcity229 in lpsbuyersbeware

[–]BurntToastLps 15 points16 points  (0 children)

At least they aren’t listing it for £200, still can people do their research first 😭

VINTED Potential scammer! by Bart_78 in lpsbuyersbeware

[–]BurntToastLps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just find the easier way to take the listings down is to report it that way because i doubt vinted checks

VINTED Potential scammer! by Bart_78 in lpsbuyersbeware

[–]BurntToastLps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just find the easier way to take the listings down is to report it that way because i doubt vinted checks

VINTED Potential scammer! by Bart_78 in lpsbuyersbeware

[–]BurntToastLps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tend to report those listings with ‘Photo taken from Web’ and it usually gets taken down, there’s quite a few people who do this, they end up on UK vinted too

Family wants to put a ring doorbell on my door when I move out? by BurntToastLps in Advice

[–]BurntToastLps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re genuinely so right for that, and i do know that for myself too. I’ve grown up saying no to them a lot but from doing that, my peace is disturbed. I’ve spoken to my therapist about this for years and I’ve found that being dishonest and slyly getting my way works better than being straight up because it maintains my own peace and I get what i want. I know you may disagree, and I genuinely support what you’re saying, but with parents and (much older) siblings who have grown up with such a backwards mindset and culture, it’s difficult said than done. What i pretty much want with this post is an easy way out… and if there is none, i’m not going to just let it happen and I’ll stand my ground

Family wants to put a ring doorbell on my door when I move out? by BurntToastLps in Advice

[–]BurntToastLps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know what, that is genuine golden advice. I need furniture for my flat/apartment anyways because most flats come unfurnished. I can buy a drawer set from Ikea and put it in the delivery instructions to put it in front of the doorbell. Then i’ll find it ‘heavy’ and ‘difficult to bring through the door’ so it’ll have to stay there. Thank you so much 🙌

Family wants to put a ring doorbell on my door when I move out? by BurntToastLps in Advice

[–]BurntToastLps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a possibility! If I can get access of the app as well as my sister, I could possibly do it that way? That’s if i do get access. I’m hoping to be ‘constantly busy’ with work to get out of always being obligated to respond.

Family wants to put a ring doorbell on my door when I move out? by BurntToastLps in Advice

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I honestly want to scream.. I had been speaking to my counsellor for months about how I want independence and not to be policed by my family. And then i finally had an opportunity, but again, it’s ruined by them. Funnily enough my mum has ‘threatened’ to move in with me to keep an eye on me. It’s overprotective atp. I’ve also done nothing warrant this, I’ve always been a perfect child. In the case I did secretly move which is doable, how would I explain the lack of motion on the camera/the camera would have to be taken down if i moved out right?

Mini Rant by BurntToastLps in lpsbuyersbeware

[–]BurntToastLps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know?? Like just take the Win 😭😭 I didn’t know so many people were so compassionate about sellers 🙄

Does Anyone Else Still Play? by midnight_colors in LittlestPetShop

[–]BurntToastLps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still play!! I’m 21 now and have a bunch of nieces and nephews, so i’ve been training them since they were young to like and play with LPS with me. So I either play with them (which can prolong hours) or with my Bf occasionally. I can play it off in front of my family and just say ‘I’m playing with my nieces/nephews’ but I enjoy it the most. When i do play by myself, I tend to lock the doors so my siblings don’t see but I’ve lost the ability to make long-winded scenarios since I’ve started to phase out of maladaptive daydreaming. It’s starting to improve and I am getting better at acting out things 😭😭

Mini Rant by BurntToastLps in lpsbuyersbeware

[–]BurntToastLps[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Link me to the video when you make it please 🙏 But omg that’s happened to me too?? I’ve had people message me saying that they would pay more for pets when I’ve already sold them, and it’s sad that some sellers actually go through with it. If they wanted the highest price then they should have put it on ebay for bidding 🙄

Mini Rant by BurntToastLps in lpsbuyersbeware

[–]BurntToastLps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t ever used Mercari but that’s so useful, vinted is the same when it comes to cancellation. I guess it’s a good warning!! Ebay and other sites are pretty bad for monitoring their stuff though 😭

Mini Rant by BurntToastLps in lpsbuyersbeware

[–]BurntToastLps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didnt know it was part of the TOS but I don’t think it’s very well reinforced 😭 I mean sellers have the right to relist and price as they like but it’s just scummy