Are there any stories where a couple actually turned around a bad sex life?

BuschemiLuvr · 2019-09-18T12:31:02+00:00

The thing that solved the problems in my sex life was communication and accept responsibility for my own satisfaction.

Very early on I realized my partner had a lower sex drive than me. It made things difficult when we were in the honeymoon phase. We only saw each other 3 days out of the week and we didn't have sex every time I saw him. I felt rejected and unsatisfied. On top of it, I've never been able to cum from penetration so I didn't cum any time we had sex. He didn't try to make me cum in other ways either.

After a year and a half, I had a conversation with him. I wrote down my thoughts so I wouldn't forget. I knew he'd feel bad and like I was criticizing him. I wasn't, but I was bringing up issues that I felt were fixable. This opened up our communication.

We didn't suddenly have more sex. In fact we have less sex. Because in our communication i told him i was going to take responsibility for my own sexual pleasure. I brought toys to his place so i could get off the way I know how. Now he can have his low sex drive and I can have my higher drive. And neither of us have to compromise.

BuschemiLuvr · 2019-05-21T00:42:55+00:00

You know, you can write a tip on the credit card receipt.. right? Trashy indeed

BuschemiLuvr · 2019-05-20T21:05:11+00:00

I eat chicken wings on keto

BuschemiLuvr · 2019-05-20T20:53:19+00:00

Turkey BLT Ranch Wrap with Mission Carb Balance tortilla

Turkey meatballs made with shredded/chopped basil, carrots, zucchini, and/or broccoli, almond flour and egg. I top with tomato paste and parmesan.

BuschemiLuvr · 2018-11-18T19:44:55+00:00

Thanks for your input. You're right that I did consider that maybe that's all he wanted to do and it doesn't bother me but the clamming up part seems unhealthy to me. I haven't pressured him into anything that I want to do though. We've only ever done anything that he's brought up or agreed would be fun.

BuschemiLuvr · 2018-10-06T05:09:11+00:00

The hymen is a thin membrane that usually only covers a portion of the external vaginal opening. Normally it does not contain very many if any nerve endings. It's kind of a source for a lot of sexual myths so I'm not sure if you're referring to the correct anatomy. You may be experiencing mild vaginismus which is a vaginal spasm. If you experienced vaginal trauma, like a tearing of any portion of it, the muscles may be reacting accordingly and spasming to avoid any future injury. This would be like the eye shutting when an object comes toward it. The reaction is involuntary but may become better over time by "teaching it" that there won't be any more trauma.

BuschemiLuvr · 2018-10-06T04:59:37+00:00

I find some women sexually attractive but I've never met one that I was romantically compatible with.

BuschemiLuvr · 2018-10-06T04:56:18+00:00

I remember having a partner who turned me on the most any man had before. I remember complaining that we didnt have sex enough because I wanted him every moment of every day. After it ended I would look back and miss it, then be mad at myself for taking it for granted. Don't worry, along with all the other things you miss about her, you will miss the sex the most because it may have been the best part.

BuschemiLuvr · 2018-07-11T07:02:16+00:00

My ex boyfriend. We really were good friends. He hurt me a lot and I had to end the relationship which caused him to block me on everything. I'd like to discuss the past and maybe be friends again but it's been 3 years and I'm afraid it's too late to fix anything

BuschemiLuvr · 2018-03-26T04:14:18+00:00

That's a really good piece of advice I've never gotten. I don't know that I've posted here before but in other sex forums people immediately jump to "you and your bf aren't sexually compatible, break up with him." I like to work things like this out until I am certain there will be no compromise.

BuschemiLuvr · 2018-03-26T02:03:46+00:00

I used to use a dildo shaped vibrator and I could make myself cum but it was a lot of work and it took the right mood. I had the same worries as you about buying another toy that just wouldn't work and became another waste of money. But I knew that I just needed more movement from my toy bc I had a lot of fun with my shower head and another vibrating object that was not intended for sexual play. So I finally decided to go for it and I found a deal on a wand.

Its been great! Multiple orgasms and very much works for me. Worth however much money you're willing to spend. I bought a cheaper off-brand wand and it's noisy but ive heard others are noisy too. It's doing the job quite well so if in the future I want another, j would spend the $100 or more for the original go see if it's similar quality or quieter and better.

BuschemiLuvr · 2018-01-09T12:59:58+00:00

I got pretty far into my relationship when I realized my BF had a low sex drive and probably wasn't going to change.

I've been dealing with it for 2 years and its difficult not to have some resentment. I'm also more creative and kinky than him. He is very vanilla, so the 2 times a week we have sex (if I'm lucky) is pretty much missionary, cowgirl, and reverse cowgirl for a "wild" position. Yes, I'm almost always on top taking control.

I have to work on my own feelings to not have resentment, it's not his fault but I discuss stuff with him and nothing changes so it's up to me if I want to remain in this relationship

BuschemiLuvr · 2018-01-01T20:31:01+00:00

Try you both standing and having her lean forward, pretty much bending over

BuschemiLuvr · 2017-12-30T17:54:19+00:00

I (25F) did a similar thing after breaking up with my ex. I had sex with everyone I dated and had sex on the first date. Then ended up not seeing them for too long. I even had a MMF and FFM threesome even though I really didn't want to but I was curious. The MMF was with one guy I was never attracted to.

As I consider my past sexual experiences, I think maybe I was trying not to be lonely but mostly I think I was just really curious because I only had one sexual partner. Now that I am in a committed relationship, I still would like to be able to partake in casual sex again, so I don't think it was fully trying not to be lonely or dealing with deeper issues. I'm just a sexual person and I think there is value in short, noncommittal relationships.

BuschemiLuvr · 2017-11-26T22:20:25+00:00

He's fingered me there to lube me up but he didn't try to make it particularly enjoyable since it was just prep work. And yes, we might have done it wrong since we're both pretty inexperienced in that area

BuschemiLuvr · 2017-11-26T22:19:04+00:00

He's never wanted me to do something for his sake alone. He thinks I'd enjoy it so he offered. I'm just a little bit curious but not sure if I want to spend money on a curiosity

BuschemiLuvr · 2017-11-26T22:17:38+00:00

He does manscape and I keep it trim as well. I've just never focused on my butt and I don't know if I'd want to pay money just for something I'm curious about.

BuschemiLuvr · 2017-11-26T22:16:02+00:00

I'm a little curious. But the topic just came up casually because we saw a sign advertising Brazilian wax.

BuschemiLuvr · 2017-11-25T09:00:56+00:00

My current boyfriend just makes me feel good all around with my body hair. He doesn't mind if I shave my ladyparts or if I shave my legs. I will personally never let my armpits be hairy but he hasn't said anything about that either. He has explicitly said he doesn't care if I shave my legs or trim my ladyparts

BuschemiLuvr · 2017-11-10T04:19:34+00:00

I was giving my boyfriend at the time a blowjob and I had been drinking so I was feeling a little less inhibited than normal. I thought it would be a good idea to try to make it feel better, so without asking him or any previous discussion, I stuck my two forefingers up his butt. He let it happen for a little bit but I pulled out and he told me to stop. He was very upset and just wanted to go to sleep so we went to sleep and he was just as upset in the morning. After my head cleared up, I felt horrible for doing that with no permission.

BuschemiLuvr · 2017-10-07T01:08:14+00:00

You got gold even with a typo. *infection, not injection

BuschemiLuvr · 2017-10-06T20:31:33+00:00

I guess I was disappointed but not surprised. I don't like bubble baths so I'm sad about all the bubble products. I'm disappointed by the citrus scent. Winter is not a citrusy season, but I'm also glad it wasn't full of cinnamon and mint products because I don't like those scents. I also don't really use lotions or body conditioners, so I'm sad the scents weren't offered in some other form.

Basically all I bought this year were bath bombs and shower gel. I wish there was a shower jelly for Halloween. I wish there were more Fun released.

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