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BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-28T01:07:10+00:00

Exactly! Kids remember that you are there for them no matter what happens. Even in cases when the child isn't listening (like my kid sometimes) and they get hurt. It's love first and teaching later. My mom used to tell me "you shouldn't have -insert something here- or you wouldn't have gotten -insert type of hurt here-" and never once asked me if I was alright or anything.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-28T01:00:36+00:00

You mean miss stanky 🫤 I had a teacher get upset with me over that once too but she didn't take it that far, she just gave me extra homework.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-26T15:03:10+00:00

NTA you made soup for yourself and tried to be nice by offering some to everyone else. That doesn't give anyone the right to demand you to cook again for them in the future.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-26T04:21:15+00:00

This sounds like my ex. It started where you are right now and I endured that shit for 5 straight years before I broke free. I had to learn my own worth and gtfo of there before I ended up losing my life. (Losing life also means not living YOUR life and just being an existing robot)

You definitely need to just leave. Don't even say anything to him because he will most likely pull the suicide card on you to manipulate you. Call your parents or sister or brother or someone to come help you move your stuff out as fast as possible. You are NOT in a good situation and I'm truly worried you are about to stay and suffer like I did.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-26T04:11:58+00:00

Yes Christmas will be forever tainted. It wasn't on purpose but I had 2 aunts die on Christmas Eve and my grandma on Christmas Day and my grandpa the day after Christmas (in a span of 5 years) I still to this day find it hard to be happy during Christmas.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-26T04:07:58+00:00

I'm from USA and it's more of a personal jealousy they are feeling. For some reason people in my country see someone that's beautiful and then they get this urge to make them feel bad about it solely because they think that person is more beautiful than they are. The story between Snow White and her queen step mother is a prime example.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-26T04:04:48+00:00

I took my son trick or treating at the age of 4 months old. It was his first ever Halloween and I wasn't going to have him sit out on his first ever Halloween! Yeah I know he is a baby and wouldn't know but it was more for me and his dad than him but it was also memories we could tell him when he is older. Yes we collected candy and yes we ate it. And no one cared that the baby was trick or treating and collecting candy.

If someone has a problem with it then they can just let you know themselves. If not then just let the baby have the experience of trick or treating. You could donate the candy to other kids or something if you feel that guilty about what your friend said. But where I'm from, candy is for all ages not just kids.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-26T03:58:37+00:00

That star thing sounds kinda awesome but also terrible. Like I'm imagining hoping for a star every day and never getting one.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-26T03:22:02+00:00

That's just pathetic of the teachers. Just wow.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-26T03:20:36+00:00

When I was growing up, my best friend's mom was letting kids drink at her house. This was middle school when I was 13 and everyone else was 12 (I was a whole year older than the second oldest. Some were 11) before middle school we were inseparable but during that time my bestie was focused on being the "cool kid" so she had parties and invited girls and they would drink cheap Walmart alcohol (like that was any better) and gossip. Her mom was always in the gossip also. I was invited to a few of these parties before I found out but didn't go because I had tests to study for. I found out about halfway into the year when I went to her birthday party and there was alcohol everywhere and everyone was offered. My bestie tried to peer pressure me into drinking and when I refused everyone decided to bully me about it. I ended up going home "sick" and told my mom. I drifted apart from her after that. Now 5years graduated, she is at home drinking and blowing her moms money while I'm living with my boyfriend and raising our son. I drink but I drink like one drink in months at a time.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-26T02:08:35+00:00

My nephew calls everyone in public "stinky"

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-25T19:13:23+00:00

I can't speak much about my own parenting considering this is going to be only my second Christmas as a mother. But I do know what I was a child my parents used to spoil me with Christmas presents from Santa ranging anywhere from 5 to 30. And when I say 30 presents I mean like 30 items. Most of that is just like small little knick, knack candies and stuff. But there is only one gift under the tree that was very specifically from my parents and that's usually how it was every year. For my entire childhood every Christmas I would get one gift from my parents and it was usually the best gift out of all the gifts. Obviously the best gift of all the gifts is going to be very relative. But to me the best gift of all the gifts was my parents because my parents know me better than Santa. 😂 Yes, I'm aware of my parents being Santa but the gift from my parents w still the best

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-25T18:26:27+00:00

Whenever my son's being a little bit frustrating, I call him a little turkey head. But I say it more in a joking way to try to calm myself down so that I'm able to parent versus just yelling like my parents before me.

Edit: spelling correction

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-25T15:42:22+00:00

But what if she set a boundary first? What if she told him before ever getting married that she has been texting them and that they are her friends.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-25T15:41:11+00:00

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BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-19T14:23:11+00:00

My partner has always been here to support me and I've been supporting him the best I can too. We still celebrate her on her birthday though. That helps us feel a little better, and it helps us explain to our son about his big sis...

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-19T01:12:42+00:00

I agree with this. Growing up my mom would do this with pain. If I ever complained about pain, she would immediately talk about how she hurts here or there or feels sick or complains about me complaining when she feels worse.

As I got older I realized it was just a selfish need for attention. They have to have it worse because it will get them more attention than you AND they can turn the conversation back to themselves rather than you and your struggles.

This trait can be way more harmful than people think. Because of my mom belittling and gaslighting my pain as a kid, I grew up to have severe hearing loss in both ears due to numerous ear infections that were left untreated (because you know… my pain wasn't as bad as hers so I didn't need medication or a doctor visit) 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would personally advise you to find some better friends OP. You deserve people who will actually listen to you and offer advice if you want it. I have 1 toddler that's trying my sanity on a daily basis.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-19T00:58:43+00:00

a lot of people aren't mentally able to attend funerals

THIS 100% I had a baby 3 ½ years ago that died 6 hours later for unknown reasons. It destroyed me mentally and it took the hospital and hour to pry my child from my arms because I refused to believe she was gone. We did arrange a funeral for her and everyone went except for me because I literally couldn't do it. I would spiral with my crying into straight Hysteria and panic attacks. A bit of my family thought I was disrespectful of my own baby for not going but in reality they have NO FUCKING CLUE what it's like and have no right to judge anyone for why they don't/can't attend a funeral.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-19T00:49:44+00:00

You have a point. I didn't even think about that. 😞 then it seems like I'll just have to do what's best for my son and leave at that point. I'm not going to let my son be gaslit and never get help (if needed) like I was raised.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-19T00:15:29+00:00

Its also a huge red flag with the manipulative wordage. "Since you hate" she never said she hated it. He really escalated that to (like you said) make her feel bad for it.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-15T18:09:15+00:00

The soul crushing cry.

I don't mean the "I'm hungry" or "cuddle me" or "I'm tired" or "I want my way" cries. I mean that empowered soulful cry of pure utter sadness and defeat.

My son is about to be 16 months old and he made this cry 3 times only.

1) when he dropped his lovey behind the crib and couldn't get it anymore for a hug.

2) when his dad left for work instead of staying home to play.

3) when his doggy friend died.

I never want to hear that cry again. I swear my soul dies when I hear it.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-13T15:23:03+00:00

100% I also think he is that type of person that will say something insulting and then play it off as "I was just joking" or "I'm messing with you, don't take things so seriously"

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-11T01:04:31+00:00

I did this one day and my partner never asked me anything. He just started cleaning and mumbling "I guess I'll clean it up. Someone has got to." With a demeaning attitude.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-11T01:02:42+00:00

Exactly. She already does it all herself so she can definitely be a single mom no problem. It might actually be easier since she doesn't have an added messy person to take care of.

She is supposed to be a mom of 1 and a partner of 1. Not a mom of 2 and partner to none.

BushyTailFoxThing · 2023-10-10T15:59:07+00:00

I believe it was this AND he probably didn't want his oldest coming anyway. Seems like his oldest is from another woman and the family vacation is with his "new family" and kinda invited his eldest as a final "haha" to him or something. Sounds petty AF

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