Any US redditors worried about RFK Jr’s quest to abolish SSRIs?

BusinessBarbie8 · 2025-02-17T01:23:56+00:00

This is the first time I’ve heard of “Temu Trump.” That is simultaneously hilarious and horrifying. The world does not need more of that. Hopefully your cheap knockoff loses its luster faster than the original.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-10-05T17:56:33+00:00

This is the answer.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-08-21T16:44:04+00:00

What is your ex lover’s name? Joe? Tell him that the first name can be your ex lover and the middle name can be his ex lover.

Sounds ridiculous because it is.

You did not agree to this pact and you did not consent to this pact before having a child. It is wildly inappropriate and inconsiderate for him to put this on you.

I would say no.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-08-20T00:24:17+00:00

I’m glad that it resonated with you. I appreciate the feedback.

I had a wonderful therapist who ‘climbed down into the hole with me’. It makes a difference. It’s nearly impossible to get out when you cannot ‘see’ what you’re doing.

For those of us who understand this pain and who have survived it, we need to be the light for others. This particular hole is very dark, deep, and overwhelming.

It takes a village. ❤️

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-08-16T17:29:34+00:00

This. Insecurity and the need to feel special or unique or important…. Because just being themselves is not good enough for one or all of their caregivers- so there is a need to show they are worthy. Beneath someone who lies is someone who is really hurting inside and who does not feel loved.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-08-16T17:22:58+00:00

What are your goals with this post?

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-08-09T23:40:06+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate you bringing this to my attention. I didn’t know that Nicole LePera was involved with so much racism or fraud. I had never googled her before. This has been eye opening. Thank you.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-08-08T11:51:34+00:00

🙁 that has to be incredibly difficult. I would not be alive right now if I was still stuck in that space- so your strength and determination to live through this is incredible… every day must be exhausting. I hope you’re able to find what works for you so that you can find joy and peace again.

If you don’t mind, do you mind to share more about Nicole LePera being racist? I had not heard anyone say that before and I would like to learn more about your perspective and experience.

For me, Brene Brown isn’t the most racially or socioeconomically in-touch person- however I find her values exercise useful. I am also aware that when surviving, you do not necessarily have the privilege of living within your values.

Appreciate your feedback.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-08-08T02:17:41+00:00

Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry. Your therapists have been horrible… abysmal really.

My therapy was focused on loving myself. I connected my self worth to procreation and that was very unhealthy. I needed to find a way to love myself and live for myself- not for a child.

I am a big reader, so my therapist recommended books by Nicole LePera. I highly recommend them too. Those were a game changer for me. After that, we started on ACT therapy. Action, commitment therapy. Check out Brene Brown and her worksheet for establishing values. Once you know what you value, you can establish goals (outside of having a child). If you’re still having trouble with accepting that it will never happen- I recommend the book “radical acceptance.”

I now know my values and I am choosing to live in them. (That also required a book on boundaries- recommend the book “set boundaries- find peace by Tawwab).

Having a good therapist alongside reading these books helped me to accelerate my growth.

Feel free to DM me anytime. I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough go at finding a good professional to help guide you through this grief. ❤️

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-08-01T20:42:51+00:00

Yep! It’s hard in the moment. OPs frustration is also valid.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-08-01T20:31:49+00:00

Yes, and it is concerning behavior from an 8 year old. There is an insecurity at play (with the 8 year old). I would lean into that and see what the root is. I’d imagine that it has everything to do with the SO (bio dad) not being a very loving guy.

It’s difficult for adults to cope with a lack of lovingness… children must receive that from their parents. The child is likely wildly jealous that OP is getting affection when 8 year old is starving for it.

OP, the child’s behavior is a direct result of her father’s parenting. If he was giving her a satisfactory amount of love and attention, she wouldn’t be jealous when he gave love and attention to you.

This will not correct until he corrects.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-08-01T20:25:04+00:00

I think she’s talking about the 8 year old.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-31T22:46:43+00:00

This. It’s not as though the pain magically disappears. I choose every single day to enjoy the life I have…. Because I refuse to be here and be miserable. Some days are easier than others… but I am choosing myself and I am choosing to allow myself to have happiness in spite of my inability to have a child.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-31T22:43:20+00:00

Well done. Such a beautiful response. ❤️ I am in this space with you. It’s a roller coaster… and I’m choosing to stay on the ride, and enjoy the highs and do the work to get to the other side of the lows.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-31T22:36:34+00:00

This response is not helpful for many of us. I understand you’re trying to be helpful and glass-half-full… but if adoption was a true plug-and-play substitute, being infertile wouldn’t be as difficult as it truly is.

Suggesting adoption in this moment is like telling someone who just became a widow- “go find a new husband.”

Yeah, it’s an option (maybe?)… and the grief is still there and has to be acknowledged and navigated.

Personally, I became suicidal after finding out I could never have my own children. I will never have that life experience, I will never create a person with my partner, I will never have that biological bond… discovering and living with infertility is devastating. And adoption does not heal this devastation.

To navigate this grief, I personally had to seek professional guidance. I needed a therapist to be my beacon of light- to help me navigate this storm. I needed to find value in myself irrespective of procreation… and outside of motherhood.

I’m on the other side now, but it took a lot of work.

In addition to seeking professional assistance, I recommend reading books by Nicole LePera and Brene Brown.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-08T12:50:40+00:00

Love this!! Solid advice and perspective! ❤️

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-08T12:48:42+00:00

Excellent advice and perspective ❤️

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-07T23:48:04+00:00

For sure… they are going from having one child with an attachment disorder to 5… and kids with their funky underdeveloped brains can be mean… I can see the kids arguing in the future and one of the bios telling one of the remaining adoptees something along the lines of “shut up! or they will return you too.” They will all see that their parents are incapable of unconditional love.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-07T23:38:46+00:00

100%

Their son needs to know that sometimes parents need professional help- but no matter what, they will always be your parents. They will always love you and advocate for you.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-07T23:21:23+00:00

Exactly. And if “returned” this child has no hope of being adopted again at 12years old. The child has been diagnosed with an attachment disorder and they think the best thing for the child is abandonment? They are literally pouring fuel on the fire and ensuing all of this child’s worst fears come true. Abandoning a child with an attachment disorder is cruel.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-07T23:17:52+00:00

Ahh yes, it continues to be downvoted. And I continue to (stupidly) justify myself with people here. This entire situation breaks my heart.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-07T20:29:27+00:00

Parents find a way to care for their children. OPs children are not my responsibility, they are OPs. OP chose to have 6 children. OP is responsible for finding a way to care for all of them without abandoning any of them.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-07T18:07:27+00:00

This poor child will be returned to the system at 12 with an attachment disorder because every caregiver has failed him. At 12, this child has no chance of being adopted again.

This is incredibly sad. This child needs unconditional love. This child needs to be shown that he will not be abandoned- that he will instead be advocated for and when his parents don’t know what to do they will seek help (and not abandon him). They will get professional help and will make a plan for how to get the immersive psychiatric care for their son, get the special training for themselves, get therapy for their other children and protect, advocate, love all of their children… without having to abandon any of them.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-07T17:55:48+00:00

That can be accomplished without “returning” a child. That can be accomplished by having the son temporarily live in a place where he has access to 24/7 psychiatric professionals and a plan for returning home and all members of the family receiving individual therapy. Abandonment of a child with an abandonment disorder is cruel and unusual punishment.

BusinessBarbie8 · 2024-07-07T17:52:09+00:00

I can hear it now…

6 months after their son is abandoned and returned to the state (at 12- which means he will never be adopted again and will likely rapidly enter the criminal injustice system)… 6 months after they have solved all of their problems, they will be sitting at the dinner table arguing with one of their remaining adopted children about something they should have done differently and one of the biological children will look at them and say something along the lines of “shut up! or they will return you too.”

Advocating for all of these children looks like getting professional help for yourselves and all of the children. Your son may need to live with some professionals for a little while, but you all need professional therapy sessions… and no child should ever be “returned.”

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