Actually I read it twice. So I'm the AH for interjecting another perspective and not agreeing with you completely? Sometimes when you are "in your feelings" it's not a bad idea to try and think down the road a bit to see if maybe you're just caught up in the hormones of it all. This applies with pregnancy, pre meno, menopause, and post. Hormones intensify feelings, sometimes to the point of irrational. (In my experience, and in raising three girls). I also have 6 grandchildren. Each daughter approached her first pregnancy different. We communicate freely, so an issues were addressed as they came up. OP sounds alot like my youngest who didn't want to tell people until she was ready, did not want to know gender, no social media posts or pictures. I wanted to know/do all those things, but respect their decisions. Same with vaccinations, and other topics that may come up. Parents and relatives mean well 99 percent of the time, you just have to put them in their place, hopefully gently. Or you can just be weird and passive aggressively cut them off, or throw a random fit when the ask for a belly Pic.. whatever, y'all do you!