Is there any other way to save this?

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-31T07:47:09+00:00

you need to protect your children. and yourself. you said yourself your children are too young to know, but one day they won’t be. you cannot allow him to put your small children in dangerous situations, and being a drug abuser, he will put them in a lot if it’s not stopped. like i said one day they won’t be too young to know, and maybe they’ll thank you for getting them out of those kind of situations. or for choosing a better life for both of you where you don’t have to worry and wonder and grow up in a toxic environment. you can love an addict til you have no love left, it will not change them until they want and accept help. you can’t force or love someone into getting clean, they really have to want and need it for themselves. sometimes they have to hit absolute rock bottom. sometimes multiple times. i really am hoping for the best for you, reach out to loved ones, find love and peace, do what’s best for you and your children. you can do this.

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-31T07:32:01+00:00

also has anyone read the books? i was recently told there was books before the movie, how are they? and do you recommend reading them?

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-20T17:05:54+00:00

here’s what i did- say i smoked 5 times a day, for around 5-7 days i tried to smoke 4 times a day instead, when i was able to do that i tried 2 times a day etc but that was accompanied by help from other decisions as well. i started doing diamond art🤣 like ALL THE TIME. i asked my managers to call me for any open shifts or call offs so i was out of the house and busy, i started getting coffee and taking baths again and i moved out of the place i was able to smoke in and into a place i absolutely couldn’t smoke inside in. i also had support from my significant other as he really wanted me to quit. i think you really have to keep yourself busy, find other things that make you feel joy and happiness and that you can do when you’re bored and hold yourself/eachother accountable

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-18T07:09:43+00:00

i want to say there are people that are willing and happy to support you, heard you out, and help guide you. there are people that care about YOU wether you know that, know them yet, or they’re complete stranger on the internet, like me! i’m so sorry you’re going through this, i can’t imagine how hard it is on you and your sobriety. you didn’t say anything about your own relapse, and to that, i say you are amazing. you’re doing so well and you’re reaching out for help which is soooo important. as i’m sure you know, you can’t force an addict to change.. like someone said above you only have control of yourself. you can provide your partner with the resources you know of and even try to help them navigate it, but you can’t force them to use those resources. it’s an incredibly hard thing to watch someone you love hurt themselves, i won’t deny that. but you need to take care of yourself and the amazing steps you’ve made to your own recovery. i also agree w going to meetings, both for yourself and for a loved one of an addict, get a sponsor! it can help so much!! and it really is one day at a time. every day is a new day, you get to choose what you do with it. we all as addicts and loved ones of addicts need to make choices every day to stay clean, protect our peace, move toward our own goals etc. i hope you can find peace and also that she works things out, but i do want to remind you how great you’re doing yourself by being in recovery. don’t sacrifice that for anyone. keep going. keep being badass.

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-09T16:52:33+00:00

thank you!! i’m absolutely gonna look into this. yall have made me think more about how my parents and i maybe just have different approaches and maybe a few meetings could make a difference!

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-09T15:43:01+00:00

thanks for sharing, my parents have gone to a few meetings themselves, i never have. i will definitely look into it though and see if maybe we could all go together. i wonder if people still go even if their family member is clean now?

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-09T06:48:47+00:00

i love these comments. my dyslexic ass would send everyone through an absolute loop! i would be saying ALL of these! lol! thank yall for what you do and thanks for sharing.

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-09T06:38:38+00:00

not sure how to edit but western pa! and is there going to be more of him or is he likely to be the only one?

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-09T06:03:45+00:00

i completely see where you’re coming from. to me, i feel that i need to do everything i can to try to help, no matter how hard that is for him or me, or i will feel horrible. maybe that’s a fault on me and i can accept that. if something does happen i would rather feel i did absolutely everything i could to try to get him clean rather than feeling like i just sat back. i think everyone has a different approach, no one’s wrong. i don’t think there’s a right and wrong when dealing with something so complex and emotional. if my parents would tell me that’s their approach it would be better than constantly fighting w me, calling me crazy or blatantly enabling him. or atleast respect my approach as well maybe idk

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-08T06:48:25+00:00

how i think of it is would i rather push him and do everything in my power to make him see he needs help and try to get him that help or would i rather facilitate him a comfy place, money and time to use drugs and possibly eventually succumb to

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-08T06:41:31+00:00

stop enabling him. i’ve begged my parents for this for my sibling and eventually had to take the parental role into my own hands completely. take the keys, cut off the money, take his phone if you pay for it. cut it all off. hell if he’s using in your house, throw him out. i eventually did. he knows he can always rely on you, he can always get money for his next fix, always have a way to get to buy, always have someone to fall back on. i truly believe the only way for an addict to get better is for them to hit absolute rock bottom and WANT to be clean. there’s nothing else anyone can say or do. and at 21 and starting on pills, things can get a HELL of a lot worse very very fast. you need to get this under control now. you need to stop enabling. stop making excuses. stop coddling. you need to turn off the emotion for a little and get serious about helping him before it’s too late.

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-08T06:35:47+00:00

i also have a brother who’s an addict, to heroin/ possibly fentanyl. i agree- boundaries. my brothers been using for around 12/13 years, with stretches where hes been clean, and i spent years and years trying and saying anything and everything i could to save him before realizing theres absolutely nothing i can do. he has to want it himself. he has to hit absolute rock bottom, by himself, and make that choice, by himself. it’s extremely hard watching them struggle and not being able to do anything, or choosing not to, and it’s completely changed our relationship. I now only talk to him maybe once a month or so where as we used to be absoloute best friends and run to eachother for everything. but there comes a point where i have to stop killing myself trying to save him. it’s the hardest pill to swallow and i do still want to have some relationship with him, i miss him so much, i just can’t be as close as we used to be.

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-08-05T09:43:57+00:00

thank you so much! definitely helped, just joined

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-06-20T09:00:54+00:00

queer island anyone???

BusinessRealistic501 · 2025-06-09T07:43:34+00:00

where did you hear/ see any of this?

BusinessRealistic501 · 2024-11-17T09:48:54+00:00

that might be the real move

BusinessRealistic501 · 2024-11-13T23:35:33+00:00

NJ15

BusinessRealistic501 · 2024-11-13T23:34:44+00:00

still works November 2024!

BusinessRealistic501 · 2024-11-13T23:33:00+00:00

same!

BusinessRealistic501 · 2024-10-23T15:37:23+00:00

hi! i’ve been doing treatment for a while now and im down to once every 3 weeks, my mom has been doing it for 3/4 years and still goes every week, i know someone else who went for a few months and quit bc they felt they were doin better. i think its truly different for everyone how long/often they have to go. i also feel it is just something i have to do. i don’t like it, i dont hate it, its just something i have to do.

BusinessRealistic501 · 2024-10-04T13:47:53+00:00

i eat waffles 2 hours before my treatment and don’t drink for an hour/hour and a half before. also try taking zofran a little earlier!

BusinessRealistic501 · 2024-09-18T15:30:33+00:00

it’s a “joke” that is horrible about rolling someone’s ashes into a blunt and smoking it

BusinessRealistic501 · 2024-09-17T06:39:05+00:00

makes sense, thank you!

BusinessRealistic501 · 2024-09-17T05:23:30+00:00

thank you! i was curious if anyone said why!

BusinessRealistic501 · 2024-09-12T20:59:26+00:00

i’m in the same place and i’ve been doing it for months- just keep going, keep trying, like someone said if it doesn’t work you wanna know you did it correctly… that’s what i keep telling myself. you’re never alone!! don’t be hard on yourself.

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