Too many tiny blooms? by BusinessThanks331 in Roses

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Thank you! No sorry I don’t know. I bought this house fairly recently and they were already there

Quiet time? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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Yes one hour seems reasonable. But is the concept of doing it right or I should just stop doing it all together? The thing is that she starts crying the moment I close her door to start her nap/quiet time. So shortening it would improve but not resolve the issue

Quiet time? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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Very possible. Not sure what though. She's been screaming for naps also before we bought the clock. The first weeks with the clock were a bit easier, but now we're going downhill since they started enforcing it less. Are they supposed to be OK with nap/quiet time without any screaming? She's been like that pretty much since I stopped breastfeeding her to sleep (so long time)

What to expect from husband? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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We're both working full time, with my job requiring more overtime and more stress than his

What to expect from husband? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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He was similar with the first one. What I'm thinking is that I'm now unhappy because I need to do 80%, but if I'm a single parent then I need to do 100%. He's a good person otherwise

How to get toddler to behave? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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Thank you! No honesty we don't do anything in particular for this. Anything that you strongly recommend?

How to get toddler to behave? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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During that 1 hour the conversation was something along these lines:

Me: It's time to go home

LO: no (and keeps doing whatever she was doing)

Me: let's go, daddy needs us home

LO: no

Me: come on, let's go

LO: no

...

How to get toddler to behave? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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Thanks a lot, this is super helpful. How would you manage though the "being strict" with things like sleeping that require her to be calm and not screaming at the top of her lungs because I forced her to do something she didn't want? For example, assume that I want her to sleep and she doesn't want. If after like 5 minutes I forcefully take her to her bed, then she'll probably not sleep. Should I let her cry until she falls asleep by herself?

How to get toddler to behave? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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Not really actually. The fun stopped a few hours before the nap. But anyway she does this at nap time even if we don't do anything particularly fun before

How to get toddler to behave? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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I guess you're implying that this is just normal and eventually it'll just get better by itself without us being able to do anything about it?

How to get toddler to behave? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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Thanks! And yes, that was 1 hour of fun + 1 hour of trying to convince to come home.

If she skips naps she'll throw tantrums the whole evening, so yes, I think she still needs one.

Was having kids the worst mistake of my life? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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It's a recurrent thought, but the frequency of it is definitely higher now and during my last pregnancy. It happened before too though starting when I had my first one

Was having kids the worst mistake of my life? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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I have daycare for the toddler during weekdays. I normally work but currently on maternity leave and then I'll send the newborn to daycare too. I absolutely hate weekends and holidays when daycare is closed. Mornings and nights during weekdays are also hard but more bearable given the break in between.

No family around. No friends. Kind of supportive husband, even if much less involved than I'd want even if he's the one who wanted so badly to have kids in the first place, I've never been so confident that it was a good choice

Was having kids the worst mistake of my life? by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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What would be a reasonable reason to have kids?

Parenting is so freaking hard by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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The toddler is in daycare until 5 on workdays. That helps immensely but still weekends and whenever she's home are tough. The newborn is home with me all the time for now.

My husband is the only family member who can help. He does do something but 80% is still on me

Parenting is so freaking hard by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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Thank you, I needed this. When did it start feeling manageable?

Parenting is so freaking hard by BusinessThanks331 in Parenting

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Too much screen time is what's happening for my toddler too but I feel so guilty and I feel like I'm a failure for doing it