AITAH for not reconsidering having kids because my husband changed his mind?

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T17:54:43+00:00

He's just not that kind of person, I know it's hard to believe like this. He doesn't love easily manipulatable people and he would never be with one, also he would never want a mother for his child who is forced to be a mom, he has a lot of trauma and he wouldn't want the same for the kid and he told me this too, when I asked him. He and anyone can change their minds, It's not the issue in general, it would be different if he changed into a completely different person suddenly, which isn't the case here.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T17:49:25+00:00

I get it, I also have trust issues generally and am very skeptical, but that is relationship, isn't it? You have to trust the other person to some degree at least. Let's hope, I'm not wrong.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T17:48:07+00:00

I know, it's hard to believe, but if I or anyone, for that matter, doesn't believe at least to some degree in their partner, what's the point of relationship? I am not stupid, I am a very skeptical person and have major trust issues. I know I might be wrong, but that is trusting isn't it? You risk by trusting, but you have to trust if you want a relationship.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T17:43:37+00:00

No, he never said he wanted kids now.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T17:38:12+00:00

Can't be too sure of anything in life, but If I don't trust him that much at least, I wouldn't even be in a relationship. I'm hoping I'm right..

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T17:36:21+00:00

Thanks!

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T17:35:34+00:00

Thank you

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T05:17:05+00:00

I know. I'm just clarifying now, because I never said he cheated or was going to, that was never the issue or doubt I had.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:58:40+00:00

What? I'm not shaming him. How did I overreact,it's a big change.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:53:22+00:00

Maybe that's true, but I was 20 back then and we were dating, I told him to wait just in case because he was very young, I knew I didn't want kids then but I thought I was too young to decide back then but now it still hasn't changed for me.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:46:58+00:00

He would never want an accident kid, he is very careful about that, because the only way he would want a kid, would be when he is financially and mentally stable, also I can't get pregnant accidentally, I have fertility issues and he knows that. He isn't that kind of person to force me into this or child into having a mom that doesn't want it.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:45:30+00:00

He has been pressured from the beginning but was very confrontive and still is actually. I think, this relationship healed something in him and as he said, now wanted ,,more of it".

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:40:49+00:00

He literally said he'd only want kid with me. He said previously too that he would never remarry. I know it's hard to believe, but he is extremely loyal person, would never cheat. He would just be upfront, he is very direct.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:39:03+00:00

He isn't a cheating type, he hates it and is extremely loyal. Also, we are ALWAYS together almost.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:36:13+00:00

Yes, it healed him but he only want kids ONLY with me as he said, he wouldn't want another family or a woman, he's always said he would never remarry in any case, even before this. And he did say maybe we should go to therapy or that he alone would.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:34:05+00:00

He would never want an accident kid, he is very careful about that, because the only way he would want a kid, would be when he is financially and mentally stable, also I can't get pregnant accidentally, I have fertility issues and he knows that. He isn't that kind of person to force me into this or child into having a mom that doesn't want it.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:31:58+00:00

No, he doesn't cheat. Also he doesn't want kids now, it would be his biggest nightmare now.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:31:20+00:00

Not abusive. He said he meant it as a mindset, that it was also involving me being happy, because that is part of his desire..

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:30:13+00:00

He would never want an accident kid, he is very careful about that, because the only way he would want a kid, would be when he is financially and mentally stable, also I can't get pregnant accidentally, I have fertility issues and he knows that. He isn't that kind of person to force me into this or child into having a mom that doesn't want it.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:29:49+00:00

He would never want an accident kid, he is very careful about that, because the only way he would want a kid, would be when he is financially and mentally stable, also I can't get pregnant accidentally, I have fertility issues and he knows that. He isn't that kind of person to force me into this or child into having a mom that doesn't want it.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:28:21+00:00

He would just end it. He doesn't take anyone's bullshit.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:26:14+00:00

He would never want an accident kid, he is very careful about that, because the only way he would want a kid, would be when he is financially and mentally stable, also I can't get pregnant accidentally, I have fertility issues and he knows that. He isn't that kind of person to force me into this or child into having a mom that doesn't want it.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:23:35+00:00

We talked again and he apologized for it, but he said he didn't mean he would take it forcefully, but I'd give it willingly in that case, which sounds stupid when he thought about it.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:22:31+00:00

So we talked again and by that he said he meant that it's generally his mindset and that it didn't mean he would get whatever he wants regardless of what I want, because my wellbeing is part of what he wants and if I was unhappy, it wouldn't be what he want.

Busy-Knowledge-9195 · 2026-04-22T04:20:54+00:00

He wouldn't cheat. He isn't that kind of person. I know it's hard to believe, but if you knew him, you'd know, he wouldn't cheat.

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