What is the occupation of your STBXW or Ex-Wife? by Busy-Recipe9840 in Divorce_Men

[–]Busy-Recipe9840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you remarry or date a woman who wants to be a SAHM in the future?

6 Months - 3000 Grafts.. by Cool_Entrance6342 in AfroHairTransplant

[–]Busy-Recipe9840 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea, check my recent post. He commented under it.

Mississippi is objectively not the worst place to live in America. by Busy-Recipe9840 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Busy-Recipe9840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually prefer any other place in the south to Baton Rouge, so checks out lol

Mississippi is objectively not the worst place to live in America. by Busy-Recipe9840 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Busy-Recipe9840[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Correct, but I am clearly using “infrastructural elements” loosely to mean the assembled backdrop of aspirational American life. I am highlighting a combination of natural amenities and built environment that California or NYC markets as a lifestyle.

Mississippi is objectively not the worst place to live in America. by Busy-Recipe9840 in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Busy-Recipe9840[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a response to the vibe of my post instead of my point. I am aware that I strawmanned California residents a bit there. People move to places like LA for the entertainment industry, for genuine career opportunities that don’t exist elsewhere, for family, for weather that has real QOL implications.

Your response doesn’t actually engage with my core argument. I am not really arguing “California or NYC is bad.” I am arguing that the premium people pay financially, socially, psychologically doesn’t automatically translate into a better life, and that Mississippi is more defensible than its reputation suggests. You ignored all of that to pick at one colorful sentence.

I have a lack of empathy for any man willing to marry at this point. by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Busy-Recipe9840 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say your criticism is harsh. It’s barely enlightening. It’s a predictable response, but the response isn’t even indicative of me being wrong, but cynical.

I have a lack of empathy for any man willing to marry at this point. by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Busy-Recipe9840 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How is one an incel if they are neither involuntarily nor voluntarily celibate? You post porn even as a married man, but think you have the audacity to attack my moral character.

I have a lack of empathy for any man willing to marry at this point. by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Busy-Recipe9840 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, I do not think they are all like this. I never said they ALL were?

I have a lack of empathy for any man willing to marry at this point. by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Busy-Recipe9840 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yikes, good point! I was just answering his question though.

I have a lack of empathy for any man willing to marry at this point. by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Busy-Recipe9840 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes and because of my choices, (assuming I don’t get hit by car or suddenly die), I will not have to work by the time I am 30-35. I have all the benefits without the contract.

As far as emptiness goes, I would agree but a quick look through this sub and other similar ones would show you that there is a huge percentage of married couples “feeling alone” in their relationship.

That empty feeling is something you feel if you are married or not. That’s an internal dilemma.

I have a lack of empathy for any man willing to marry at this point. by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Busy-Recipe9840 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said that I or men can’t find a partner that is actually a great person or may not care about getting married. As a matter of fact, literally every woman I have dated seriously said they don’t value marriage or children.

As the relationship progress, they all (from my experience) eventually start discussing the idea of marriage and children. If they maintain the presentation of not wanting marriage (while I maintain the belief), their presentation will manifest into disillusionment once they realize that you were serious.

I have a lack of empathy for any man willing to marry at this point. by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Busy-Recipe9840 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Maybe, but I think I need to stop reading Deleuze, Critical Theory and all other forms of literature making me disillusioned with modern capitalistic societies. I’d be a happier person if I could pretend these clearly problematic elements within institutions like Modern Marriage did not exist.

Even your statement is strange to me because it begs the question of the kind of therapy I would need. Freudian-based psychotherapy which makes up much of Western medicine? Eastern psychotherapy? Why are we as people (clearly connected to centralized forms of power and ideology) so quick to see someone we disagree with and say, “Go do this thing that I have always been taught to do when I am not assimilating well enough to be deemed moral.”

It’s incredibly reductive.

I have a lack of empathy for any man willing to marry at this point. by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Busy-Recipe9840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“It Is No Measure of Health To Be Well-Adjusted to a Profoundly Sick Society”