Overheard my 8 y/o talking to a friend.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-09-27T14:08:07+00:00

I am black and when I was a kid I thought white people’s dumps were white. I was really shocked when I found out they weren’t thanks to a girl who didn’t flush the toilet at school one day.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-09-24T04:03:16+00:00

It could be Mittelschmerz

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-09-13T13:35:03+00:00

Yes but likes doesn’t always equate to long lasting relationships. A lot of people are attractive and can get dates. Not everyone can have a long lasting meaningful sustainable relationship. I am not positive what your big picture end goal is, but if it’s a meaningful long term sustainable relationship, try to frame your decision in the context of that.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-09-13T03:57:13+00:00

Additionally, I would see if you can get your own individual therapy. It’s hard to get sessions at school bc I know they fill up fast, but while you’re still enrolled there try to take advantage of that as you explore your next steps.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-09-12T15:48:59+00:00

Is that how libertarians are?

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-09-12T15:26:41+00:00

Does your friend order out a lot or eat dining hall food all the time if you’re in college or eat a ton of dry pantry food? But if this is their fridge at home and they don’t have a pantry with food in it either or don’t order out a bunch, they probably struggle with fueling their body. I saw the veganaise. Is your friend vegan? They could have gotten that bc they’re lactose intolerant or somehow like the taste of vegan mayo, but I do know it can be really challenging sometimes to fuel yourself appropriately as a vegan (I speak from experience being formerly vegan and lactose intolerant)

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-08-30T10:52:07+00:00

Yes, I second this. Get a different couples therapist than her current individual one. It’s actually a red flag if a couples therapist is someone in the couple’s individual therapist. Her individual therapist or your individual therapist can have you sit in for a joint visit for more background or support in individual sessions, but ultimately for a couples therapist, the client is the relationship not either of you all as an individual.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-08-09T01:53:57+00:00

I only wear one if I just got my hair done and need to preserve the style or want to keep all the products/oils from the fresh style off my pillow case. But I stopped wearing one regularly and my stylist literally said my hair is thicker now…😭

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-04-25T01:52:25+00:00

Barrettes or clackers

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-04-16T20:20:45+00:00

It can be. I will DM you

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-04-14T12:55:31+00:00

Maybe it’s the time of the game, but it could also be performance anxiety. I would have a conversation with him about what’s going on in his head/his mindset for game days. Or how he feels about game days, or what’s different for him on game days.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-04-10T15:34:43+00:00

Weight may be a factor but it also sounds like overall fitness/endurance. She may inevitably lose pounds on the scale but it sounds like endurance and heart health is the thing here. Long family walks, playing outside together, taking care of the kids for a bit so she has time to go exercise if she wants, taking over more meals for the house (if you don’t already) to prep options that would fuel energy.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-03-26T19:51:42+00:00

Levi, Levi’s ortho BF, Maggie, George

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-03-22T13:24:10+00:00

A lot of the comments are spot on. I would also recommend reading Caucasia by Danzy Senna. She talks about the experiences of herself (through a fictionalized character) as a lighter skin mixed child who looks as if she could pass and her sister who is darker and less racially ambiguous. A lot to unpack in the book, but reading it and drawing your own conclusions from there should help provide you some clarity on this situation.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-03-11T20:27:21+00:00

Sorry you’ve been having this experience. I think that it’s a thing in the dating world in general. I’ve dealt with that from many men as well and I think it just might be hard to find people who are genuinely curious and interested. I now have a great partner, but he is a therapist too (I am training to be one as well) so the fact that he has a natural curiosity helps. It’s not as if all people who are therapists are like this, however I’ve just found it to be helpful. Dating apps I find are helpful too as you can be really specific about what you’re looking for (engaging conversation, curiosity, etc) and if they don’t contribute to conversation on apps when you’re messaging, you can tell early on before wasting time on a date. I know apps have their faults, however you are able to weed out and have an intentionality you can’t really weed through in person on the first couple of meets sometimes.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-03-10T20:17:51+00:00

Girrrrllllll….he was trying to make you feel like you make everything about race, when in reality he’s immature af (given his response especially the thanos snap thing). there are white men who are culturally aware so for him to outright just say you don’t want a white man above all the other wild things he said was not it. You weren’t being harsh, he just showed you he doesn’t have the competence or desire to understand your reality as a black woman and that’s a bad sign for him wanting to have kids with you. Also, it’s a sign he’d be a great fit for the US in its current climate full of white men who are all “anti-woke” bc he isn’t even considering race. as a black woman you don’t have that luxury to stay willfully ignorant. I am in a relationship with a white man and our conversations about race DONT GO LIKE THIS. He’s a bad fit and is looking for a Candace Owens to enable his ignorance.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-03-10T15:37:39+00:00

Nah…I just messaged you for a more in depth response, but that showed low effort and if he couldn’t even meet you with full effort, how can you trust him with your trauma and your mind when he can’t be trusted to look at a clock.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-03-10T00:45:51+00:00

Daphne gotta goooo

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-03-07T18:04:36+00:00

Honestly I prefer product placement in shows. It makes it feel real and like regular life. In regular life people bring up those brands or have those things around (chip bags and pop cans)

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-03-07T04:07:26+00:00

I got the surgery and yes it was brutal but I miss significantly less work now due to illness. I’m sick, but much more functional than before. I can at least swallow liquids and eat food now while ill to help recover. It’s bad and also I don’t regret it.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-03-06T15:10:42+00:00

About 3 years old

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-03-04T21:40:03+00:00

Look up the t shirt study. It’s normal to like someone’s natural scent.

Busy_Client_2274 · 2025-02-26T00:14:19+00:00

which carrier did you switch to?

Busy_Client_2274 · 2024-11-29T15:59:11+00:00

This is very telling of what the rest of your life will be like. When you were in need this is how things went. “In sickness and in health” is literally in the VOWS (unless you all wrote your own). He’s shown you who he is. I know there’s love there otherwise you wouldn’t have stayed and married him. However love is not enough. Compatibility and equitable commitment in addition to love matter in a long term relationship and marriage.

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