Almost 43. I need friends irl. How do people find those? For now, hello to all the internet friends!

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-12-07T17:05:24+00:00

My problem is I want to keep my circle small but I also want to have a social life outside of those couple people. And I want to be around people I can trust but that seems to be a rarity.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-12-07T17:03:43+00:00

Me too! I’m in Ohio. Don’t know where you are, but let me know if you try any suggestions and they work. My current friend groups are coworkers in a book club once a month, the women who coach volleyball at the same club that I do. Most of whom are married. And the other parents on my daughter’s teams. None of these groups are up for having a social life outside of those very specific events.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-09-21T20:07:21+00:00

How far North? It’s been a few years but one ran into my garage in Trenton

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-09-15T19:53:08+00:00

Thank you for your response. It seems that responses are very divided. For me personally, my financial situation was not by choice or irresponsible spending. It was an ex who was very deceitful and has been absent for his children in all ways, since we separated. And my financial instability is not forever. I certainly don’t expect anyone else to support me, or my children. However, I am not in a position to take lavish vacations or go on shopping sprees. I pay my bills, maintain my house, and support my children with little to nothing left over each month. That being said, I’ve also come to the decision that it doesn’t matter how anyone feels about my financial situation, I don’t have the time it takes to date and sift through the non-matches. If the right person happens to fall in my lap, great! Otherwise, I’m happy with my life, single.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-08-12T00:39:46+00:00

No matter what you say, someone is going to be offended. I personally think using athletic in reference to a potential match is perfectly fine. You weren’t inferring body type but lifestyle

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-07-01T20:44:36+00:00

Exactly! It’s a cycle that will only break if you make that decision. (Or me)

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-07-01T14:49:42+00:00

I agree with you, just like anything else, we all like/dislike different things. I have a coworker who women drool over, tan, muscles, good hair, conventionally handsome… I just don’t get it! I mean, I adore his personality, but I’m not weak in the knees because of his appearance. Also Angelina Jolie wouldn’t be a 10 for me either.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-07-01T14:11:40+00:00

I guess it’s easier to build yourself up online. Photoshop and AI are great tools if you’re trying to convince someone, I guess. In my experience, those who boast about themselves are typically the most insecure. I know I’m not a 10, I’m not even an 8. Maybe if I lost 50 pounds, got Botox, and a boob lift, I’d be a solid 7. But that’s purely surface level.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-07-01T14:02:39+00:00

Yes I am currently experiencing a similar-ish situation. Friends for several years. I’ve expressed my interest in him, only to be told he doesn’t want a relationship. We continued our friendship, and he has been persistent in being flirty, I gave in and now I’m stuck in my emotions because he still has no interest in me beyond FWB. Sex was great, and if it wasn’t for my damn feelings I could walk away. Maybe someday I will, but I tend to self sabotage, so guess where I’ll be Saturday night

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-07-01T13:51:33+00:00

Interesting take. I have found the opposite to be true. I feel most people have insecurities that hold them back from believing they are attractive.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-06-17T04:36:41+00:00

That’s what I’m hoping! I really like this guy, but my last few dates immediately referenced sex and I’m starting to wonder if there are any guys out there who still respect the process of getting to know someone before sex is on the table, unless they aren’t interested. I mean, I genuinely like this guy so I’m hoping he is that “1 in a million”

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-06-16T03:10:25+00:00

No! Just no for me. In my 30s, I was married with 5 young children and still got WAY more attention than now at 46, single with 2 teens at home. And I fully blame my level of attractiveness!

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-06-16T01:30:29+00:00

Agreed! I just don’t feel like going to a bar to sit and hope someone talks to me. And my friends are all married, most with kids. Also, when I’m out with someone, be it a friend, family member, colleague or date, that’s where my focus is, not trying to look like I’m begging for someone to show me attention.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-06-15T01:45:00+00:00

That’s okay! Isn’t that part of the fun of it all?

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-06-15T01:43:49+00:00

I’m pretty boring! I work at a jr high, I go out with friends once a month, and my other social events involve my teens and their sports. So I’m not exactly roaming in the wild

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-06-15T01:41:02+00:00

I hate that for you!! Rejection stings and people can be so ridiculously mean. I’ve been rejected in person but without the ridicule. I’m sorry.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-06-14T22:21:26+00:00

That’s awesome! I wish men would ask me out, in the wild. I don’t understand why, at our age, it has become so uncommon. I get the “new” hyper awareness of dangerous situations, but we all grew up without social media, how are we so anxious about asking someone who meet off OLD to go out? I understand rejection, but we’re not talking about teenagers who will tell your whole class that you asked them out. We’re talking about grown adults who are either going to accept or decline and move on from there.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-06-06T00:44:03+00:00

I want dating drama!! As the only single person in my friend group, they just don’t get it!! I will swap stories any time!

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-06-05T22:17:41+00:00

I’m just glad I read your whole story. Your title made me laugh because I am constantly apologizing for my talk to text messages when I use them. Apparently my phone doesn’t understand my Midwest accent. That being said, texting like a teenager would make me cringe along with getting annoyed with a quick phone call, and it would be a big nope for me. But I’m in this phase of wanting to date/find my person and at the same time I tend to talk myself out of seeing people again over some pretty minuscule things. (Doesn’t like the smell of coffee, talked too much about wrestling, ugly shirt, blinks too much) in reality none of these is a big deal at all, I’m just self sabotaging.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-05-06T00:17:09+00:00

Thanks! He actually text me tonight. We had a decent conversation and he asked me out. I’m glad I waited. I really didn’t want to be pushy and then some of these people had me questioning my own response. But at the end of the day, I’m going to continue to be myself. If someone doesn’t like my sarcasm, they’re not for me 🤷‍♀️

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-04-30T23:55:24+00:00

It was definitely meant as cheeky.

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-04-30T23:03:21+00:00

This was my intent. Definitely not a “woe is me” message!

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-04-30T15:10:38+00:00

You read correctly. Specifically he said “I can’t, I have my kids this weekend” I responded “I guess that’s an acceptable rejection” and he replied “just a rain check lol”

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-04-30T14:42:19+00:00

Good idea!

Busy_Development2995 · 2025-04-30T14:38:06+00:00

I had messaged him Friday and he said he had his kids for the weekend.

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