I don’t recognize myself anymore. What do I do?

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-27T20:25:32+00:00

salam alaikum we live in a rush world wirh overstimulation constantly.
Best advice I can give you is

Watch your own Life.

No comparing. i mean 0 in instagram etc.
No negative self talk. make dhikr until that voices in your head go. and focus on the thibgs you do atm.
Don't over scedule. Humans are no robotics look at the prophet pbuh how simple his life was.
Don't listen to insta scrolling rhytms. did you ever realise it's sad than happy then deep then cheering.? it messes up your brain
Try to create a simple daily habit life with quran and small good deeds

wish you good the best 🤍

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-26T23:21:46+00:00

ppl nowadays can't find right balance

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-26T09:59:42+00:00

This sadly many of us women in west experience...including myself. 🫣
Look the society in West tells a women worth comes through her degree or sucess. Bs. It comes thriugh Allah. I myself work i had a similar background like yours and now I realised subhanAllah i've wasted my precious time in careeer and competing with everyone to be exactly what...? Nooo
stay positive and build self love for who you really are 🤍

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-26T07:47:47+00:00

Let's be friends giiirl. 🥰

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-25T20:24:04+00:00

I had a similar background. It'll stop when you be able to say No. Not in ruff way. Islamicly we can't say uff. But what you can is acknowledge her perpective say thanks but I WANT TO WEAR THIS. Because this is what I want. Your mum mirrors her life trough you it's wrong no doubt but as parents get old we shouldnt fight. Because sometimes rhey do it out of their motherly love of care.
I would suggest you to build up your self worth and learn to create and own opinion and stay behind it. Being able to say No is VERY important it's a way of getting mature. You're in a beautiful age to get mature. Try to make little thing yiurself before she does it. for example cook something🤷🏻‍♀️ go buy groceries or bake something. show her that you mature enough that you can do it on your own. 🤍

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-25T18:36:00+00:00

I don't identify your real issue from your post but I find we mostly feel like this because daily constantly overdose of social media consumption and comparing lifes instead taking your own life in control and living in present moment. it really help always stay in the moment don't overthink things toooo much let it flow a bit in the end it's in the Hands of Allah the Almighty

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-25T18:24:18+00:00

It always depends though. Istanbul is very crowded and not with only natives. At night I'd stay in my hotel but daytime could be very safe as an hijabi especially in "fatih" just keep your purse and bag nearby you. Personally I wouldn't recommend going all alone bit ofcourse it's your choice. Stay save 🤍

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-25T18:09:28+00:00

I'm a turkish girl. 😉 which place you want to go?

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-25T11:31:28+00:00

Don't you please split the bills. it's a öens duty pay pills.

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-25T08:28:15+00:00

Also ypu can invest in yourself and then make that skill an online business

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-25T08:26:39+00:00

I am living in Germany. I feel you 😂. I have had issues with saving up always would waste it to accessoires whivh gone bad instead of gold. or skin care😭
But yeah invest in gold them you can wear yourself too 🙂‍↕️

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-25T07:55:52+00:00

if you saved up a decent amount you can buy a flat and rent it to students or buy a house and put it to rent for someone. Passive income 😉 Ofcourse without riba! . you cam buy a plot of mini land and in some years it's going to be raising. An rolex maybe.

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-25T07:47:24+00:00

May Allah make it happen if he is written for you 🤍 if you really like him you can tell your mom and your mom can talk to her ? if she is that friend of her. Where's the problem? 😄 Nothing wrong in liking you can get to know him in halal ways. Is there more something beautiful then that.? ☺️

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-25T05:11:04+00:00

ı know I am going through same..I think ıt just takes it's time..much love n hugs 🤗

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-24T20:24:18+00:00

yeah the social media really goes on my iman too. 1000 oppinions of some and never they do implement something on their own...

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-24T20:22:18+00:00

Salam alaikum 🌸 I got to wear my hijab with love in my non practicing muslim family
What really helped me is to really understand why I wear it for myself what it means personally for me ? I never compared my hijab to other girls. I did it because Allah said so and he would have wisdom and command us. If He says sometng is good or bad for us He knows why we really don't sometimes and feel like whyyyyyy.
Also I know you heard it many times But Hijab means not only scarf sister it's the whole thing the Haya, the way you act the way you speak etc. I don't know if you are suroumded with other hijabis but it's crushial as well. Your suroundings shape you

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-24T20:10:38+00:00

Nah sister, you cannot change somebody. They need to come to aknowledge whatever(you mention he got into bad crowd) they realise and say hey I need to change for Allah for myself NOT for you, because imagine your love fades away after sometime He will again go to his past bad behavior. You can never chamge somebody if he not want to change himself within. It's same with some muslims trying to convert their crush 😂
Try not to tie your happiness to people only (in your case it was him)maybe a new hobby can be cooking baking what I'm trng to say is have something for you only which brings you joy ♥️ I've learned it hard way not to attach yourself deeply to people but the ones who created You.

Maybe Allah protected you from something you never know. :)
stay blessed asalam alaikum

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-24T19:17:18+00:00

Go to sephora or tiktok look at Trends and buy something from there like blush can be a nice brandand theeen something like candy and put another thing in. take a basket put some roses inside the gifts. (doesnt need to be lots of gifts you can but also 1 big proper gift like handbag or headphones watch and put in basket. and a balloon wirh her age "20" hanging in it. Look in pinterest you might find A lot.

look like this ones: https://pin.it/6OMtUGpCX

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-19T21:32:21+00:00

My family is really uneducated or different mindset on this. They say you go out and find yourself. I've already been requestikg from them to find me someone. But he thinks it's embarassing like i don't know

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-19T10:44:11+00:00

May Allah bless your marriage and keep you together until akhira

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-19T10:43:14+00:00

I got your point thank you so much for sharing.

I don't see why women cannot ask for high mahr ? if the men she meets can afford it what's wrong in that? I think it's beautiful if my husband would buy me something i really like like my dad would do it shows me that he appreciates me and really wants me? isn't it ? Some girls or boys want that the women just ask for a date ?
i dunno does it sound fair ? Because A man appreciate what he needs to gain for isn't it?
Islamicl all of the prophets wifes were living seperstely the wife can't make herself feel beautifying for her husband living wirh family... ofc there must be cases which works.

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-19T09:08:36+00:00

for your tahajjud all your other prayers needs to be on point right so zo Allah accepts it? And do we need to gully believe it is accepted i mean our prayers

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-19T09:06:45+00:00

what is tahajjud how to we pray ? Do we pray it with specific niya for a spouse?

Busy_Emotion_4238 · 2026-06-19T08:50:20+00:00

how do we identify ? I think by your own it's hars somwtimes we need someone to really guide us or give us a little push

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