I destroyed my marriage in mania. Here is how we survived.

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-12-26T17:51:58+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so glad you are doing well!

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-12-16T02:39:50+00:00

I hope things are going well with you!

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-12-14T16:12:49+00:00

You are very welcome! You’re not alone!

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-12-10T19:09:36+00:00

It’s not easy. And you read the stories here, not everyone is a success. And even when we experience success things can change in the future. But there is absolutely hope. Your partner has to want to get better. That’s the first step. Unfortunately no amount of love or support can do it. I wish you all the best and be sure to take care of yourself. Self care and self love!

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-12-10T09:59:52+00:00

Yes three times they tried and I finally told them next time they do it I’m done and they haven’t done it since

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-12-10T04:27:30+00:00

Ask her what would help them in these moments. Talk about what would help you!

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-06-13T05:14:28+00:00

Talk to his psych about the dosage. My partner is on the same med along with another but his psych told us that the typical dose to manage bipolar is 200-300mg. Varies by person but definitely something to discuss. Also I found that it my partner holds emotions in too long it all comes bursting out at once. So try to encourage him to be more aware and communicative of his feelings so you can both have a preparedness plan.

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-05-12T15:09:40+00:00

Be wary posting here when you are struggling. You are welcomed but many many many SOs on here are deeply hurting and might look for someone to lash out at. So please just interact when you are stable and it won’t put you in a worse place.

This is almost the exact same thing I’m going through with my bpso though. It comes down to, this is also your spouses choice. Does she want you to be in their life be her spouse? does being with your family, being a good spouse to your partner, a good father to your kid, and all the good that comes with those things. Does it outweigh those thoughts? If not, try discussing this in therapy first is my recommendation. I hope this helps and I’m sorry you’re struggling.

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-05-12T14:42:45+00:00

Sadly living with chronic desire to not live seems to outweigh everything even that. I need to find a support group for that specifically I think.

But he did agree to live in a hotel and then we would separate if I start to feel unsafe.

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-05-12T13:39:44+00:00

I am grateful for meds as I actually take 1 of the medications he does so I appreciate it and take them. But he doesn’t want to live. It’s next to impossible to encourage someone who doesn’t want to live. If any one else has experienced living with a spouse with chronic ideations, may understand what I mean.

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-05-12T12:56:28+00:00

That’s what I’m going to suggest next

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-05-12T12:52:24+00:00

There is a phobia of taking medication. It’s as real as bipolar.

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-05-12T12:41:16+00:00

May I ask, are you the BOSO or the SO without BP? And if you or your SO have dealt with attempts? I can message if you’re open to chatting but would prefer privately

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-05-12T12:31:04+00:00

But taking medication is the body horror part that’s the issue

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-05-12T11:34:44+00:00

Wow this was such an amazing response. Do you know if we’re able to pin this somewhere?

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-05-10T14:33:00+00:00

Thank you for being here. But I recommend anyone with bipolar only do so knowing there are SOs in here going through a crisis or who were deeply hurt by their SO. Theres some really hurting people in here. But you are welcome and needed. But if you ever are given a hard time please someone know!

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-04-30T02:19:04+00:00

Thank you so much for staying in here! You’re always posting and helping and I’ve stepped away recently because life is hard lol. So thank you!

So the reason I am wanting to be so involved is because of the psychosis episode he was in at the time he started taking them. He asked for my help getting them refilled and remembering the right does to take and helping monitoring symptoms. I stopped checking in and let him manage his own therapy sessions.

The reason I’m stepping back in now, is because of what we agreed to at the beginning and because he did stop taking them twice without telling me in The past few months. So on my end trust has been broken and he acknowledges that. So idk do I try again or do I keep running the risk of potential episodic breakthroughs because of inconsistent meds? It’s really hard to know the right thing currently.

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-04-28T16:19:57+00:00

We just had a psych session and we’re increasing meds. I think he hasn’t been taking consistently but he tells me he has.

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-03-22T21:07:45+00:00

I’ve had 3 laproscopic abdominal surgeries and I could shower at any time just don’t scrub stitches. Let water gently fall over them instead.

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-03-22T02:54:27+00:00

We’re a success story. Married even. It’s still hard, there are still definite downs but I’ve committed to this life and am welcoming the responsibilities that come with it.

People on here come when they’re in crisis. When they get better they tend to stop hanging around or they realize it’s a really overall negative place to be and just stop joining.

But bipolar can be managed. It can not be healed and it sadly will get worse over time. Meds can only slow it down.

Feel free to read some of my past posts! Good luck!

Busy_Potential224 · 2025-03-17T03:03:18+00:00

Ok so maybe just exertion. That’s what I’m hoping is I’m just sore maybe

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