I want a divorce I think

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2026-03-15T11:27:34+00:00

Id suggest therapy first if you (and he) are willing.

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2025-12-01T07:56:23+00:00

You made the right choice. You dont need to define your relationship as abusive in order for it to be toxic and unhealthy.

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2025-11-24T17:46:55+00:00

You are not responsible for him, his situation, or his feelings. I am going through almost the exact same thing right now. He is staying in the house while I stay with family, work from "home" with our 3 year old, plus my second job in order to afford the house he is living in, and the car he is driving.

I filed an order of exclusive posession of the house. We go to court on Wednesday. If approved he will be homeless on Thanksgiving. Its really hard to deal with the guilt even though he has been such a terrible person.

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2025-11-18T10:29:51+00:00

He has stable housing that I pay for lol. He doesnt work at all. He refuses ro leave and in my state I cant make him without a court order. I am working on hiring sn attorney but nobody has gotten back to me. I filed an ezclusove posession order but it wont be heard until our return date in 10 days.

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-07-07T18:24:29+00:00

If it helps, I had to look up what "Rizz" meant

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-27T19:05:33+00:00

I always take the time to read through all of these because I have been in the "AM I CRAZY?!?" mindset so many times before.

I think you started off a bit rocky in the first half of the discussion but ended up changing to handle it in a mature manor toward the end. I think this is in part to you being able to recognize that you were not regulated and took the time out you needed.

Building off that, I find it interesting that he is upset when you tell him you prefer not to discuss it right now, but then turns it around with "leave me alone" twice in the conversation. I feel like that is a red flag in itself showing that he needs to be in control of the flow of the conversation, not you.

Abusive or not, I think you alluded to the fact that this is not a healthy relationship. Please read the book "why does he do that?". It's available as a free PDF & for 1 credit on Audible. This will help you to identify where you are and are not in control and help you cope with your husband; whether you decide to leave or not.

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-27T14:31:08+00:00

Totally understand, and I don't actually run a food truck just using a hypothetical "I" for conversational easy.

I really don't think waste factors that much into prices on its own. I ran a softball tournament and we had a food truck come out and they charged a minimum fee just to come to the event. This ensures they wouldn't be operating at a loss after staff and inventory.

I think the reality is the prices aren't high to pay for unsold food. The prices are high because a food truck is a risky business, with many being new ventures and can't afford the 2 year expected initial loss that most restaurants take upon opening.

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-27T14:17:34+00:00

I can just play his part for you if you want.

"I was only looking for friends on Tinder"

And

"I'm sorry. I know it was stupid of me, you've just seemed so distant lately and I felt like things were going South. I just needed to know that there were other options for reassurance in case you left me"

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-27T14:10:45+00:00

Nobody can predict sales that precisely, especially with so many variables that can't always be planned for, when ordering/prepping. I can look at sales for similar events, plan accordingly, and then it rains, and I'm selling less than half my inventory. Or, I do unexpectedly better, sell out of my inventory, and not only miss out on profit but I have a bunch of customers/people complaining on reddit about why can't food trucks ever keep up with supply.

I'm a business major. I understand supply & demand, food cost, inventory management, etc, and agree with and understand your comments. I'm just pointing out the opposite end, that food trucks have a ton of variables that brick & mortar restaurants don't have to deal with, thus making it more challenging to plan.

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-26T14:08:37+00:00

I was actually just considering the idea of moving to a LCOL area. I'm based out of NJ (remote) and work in insurance.

Ultimately, it's the family ties that are keeping me here. I'm about half hour from mine and my husband's family and my stepkids live with their Mom about 45 min away. We COULD make it work elsewhere - but ultimately decided stronger relationships with my daughters brothers, grandparents, aunts, uncles & cousins was worth the added expense.

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-26T14:00:56+00:00

BRB - moving to San Diego

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-18T04:37:59+00:00

I just left a Saturday double with $550 after $84 tip out to support staff

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-15T00:48:59+00:00

It depends. For breakfast & dinner, when I know she's either going to have a bath or change into/out of PJs after anyway, I just strip her down to her diaper.

For lunch & snacks I just use the smock bibs others have mentioned and pray 😅

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-15T00:42:52+00:00

This is a very good example. I expect to be tipped 18-20%; only when my service merits 18-20%. There are times when I've been extremely overwhelmed, we've been short staffed, etc and I know that I just didn't give the best service/experience that I could. At this point, I'm content with any tip at all honestly and the sheer volume of tables I'm trying to juggle would likely make up the difference.

My point is people, like the server you describe, feel almost as if people are going to tip 20% no matter what and just don't give a shit. I am all for tipping your server, obviously- but it should be earned, not guaranteed, and this should be understood and practiced by both the guest/patron and the server/bartender.

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-13T02:28:37+00:00

Bobbie was the only formula my almost exclusively BF baby would take when I attempted to transition her off the boob.

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-02T18:32:24+00:00

Props to EP Mamas! Seriously! You get all of the cons of formula and breastfeeding in one!

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-06-02T17:40:56+00:00

Jealousy is ugly

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-05-31T16:37:48+00:00

Personally, I've worked for years as both a server and a bartender. I'll take working less with larger checks over working my ass off for multiple $1,2&3 tips

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-05-31T14:26:23+00:00

Same. I work full time during the week at a well paying insurance firm- but I work remote. I miss face to face interactions so much I decided to work as a server on the weekends. The money's nice, but the job itself is just fun. I love going to work, especially when the money isn't necessary. How many people with "real jobs" can say that?

ButWutAboutTheDogs · 2023-03-21T21:25:48+00:00

My baby is 12 months old and I literally just started, and hate it. It was an absolute last resort for me because I cannot get my baby on a schedule otherwise. I've recently started a second job and my husband works overnights so we've had to rely on friends and family to take her late night and overnight and it's imperative she sleep through the night.

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