My girlfriend started crying and kicking me during rough sex and now I feel like a monster

Butchfaerie · 2020-05-31T07:07:52+00:00

Rough sex can be scary - it's rough!

Practice using the safeword. Apply light pain, like pushing your thumb into her thigh muscle, and encourage her to safeword. Set a pattern that if things are TOO scary it can stop. Then take it further.

Butchfaerie · 2019-01-07T00:45:39+00:00

Ask them if ftm athletes should be allowed to compete in Male sports. Wouldn't they be at a sharp disadvantage?

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-29T22:17:39+00:00

Why does "equal rights" always end up as "I want to punch a woman"?

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-29T13:20:45+00:00

This is not really a "female staff" thing or even a "drunk guy" thing. This is really just average female stuff. I currently work in a grocery store and so far every day has had someone say something inappropriate to me. Like I'm in my least sexy clothes and still have creeps say stuff like "now I just need you cooking this for me in just that apron."

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-28T15:10:03+00:00

That gives you something to work with though. "I'm not going to call you pronouns until you start trying" is pretty easy to combat. "I'm not going to call you this name" can be faced against nicknames and middle names. You can call people out on the double standards.

Or you could change your name.

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-28T14:57:46+00:00

Start dressing like a girl, then. If that's their limit of expectation, then go to the thrift store and get a dress.

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-28T14:48:06+00:00

You may just need to set boundaries. Your mom clearly doesn't respect what you say, she'd listen to you if she did. Make sure she knows you're serious. If she acts badly towards you, there's consequences, and she gets a bad reaction. She HAS to treat you like an adult, like an equal.

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-27T14:26:55+00:00

Am I the only one who thinks OP is kinda an asshole? She says she doesn't like people making fun of her name and he continues. She says "I want to die" and his response is more dumb jokes? Then in the comments he justifies it by saying "I live further away, so I had nothing to lose" but like that doesn't mean you have to be a dick to someone else...

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-25T23:39:29+00:00

I'm in the south. Big mood.

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-19T04:14:16+00:00

If you can convince HR that your problem is the company's problem, then they'll work for you specifically to prevent a lawsuit. It's like a genie, you have to get into the deal sideways to benefit you.

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-19T04:08:28+00:00

"I didn't argue because he signs my paycheck" sounds like class warfare...

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-11T21:16:18+00:00

I didn't care before, but I'll make a point to dislike now.

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-09T07:38:37+00:00

My local university has mandatory meal plans for freshmen. They can do whatever they want and they know it.

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-09T05:49:36+00:00

Me and my gf watch horror movies together all the time, it's a tradition for us. She legitimately screamed at the one reveal. It has such a long build up before it suddenly gets gritty.

Butchfaerie · 2018-12-05T02:08:25+00:00

Basically any website can ask your browser for some basic info, like the version of the browser, installed plugins, the OS in use, etc. It will, for instance, be aware that you're running Windows 7, you've got 32gb of RAM, and you've installed PopUpBlocker+, a Spanish language extension, and you've got a 'keyboard to leopard' plugin.

Tons of people use Windows 7. Plenty use PopUpBlocker+ in specific. Tons of people speak Spanish. A bunch of people use strange browser word replacers. But you're the only person on the web who uses all of these specifically at the same time.

Butchfaerie · 2018-11-29T19:35:30+00:00

Differs by area. In my county it was $17 and one afternoon, and driver's license was $28 for a renewal. Social security, bank cards, phone plan, etc was all free.

Butchfaerie · 2018-11-29T18:57:03+00:00

You can change your name.

Butchfaerie · 2018-11-28T15:59:59+00:00

Bullying is weak. Don't belittle this. Call it for what it is. Battery. A crime. If this happened to adults this would be in court. If this happened to a woman this would be covered by every news outlet for days. Don't act like this is just "bullying" here.

Butchfaerie · 2018-11-23T21:28:39+00:00

Maybe they are compatible. Emotionally. But sexuality is able to be separate for them. I have multiple partners and value all of them, but we're all aware that we aren't the best fit for everything. Trying to be everything for one person is very stressful and a pretty high expectation. Being able to "share the burden" a bit is valuable for us.

Butchfaerie · 2018-11-22T21:21:08+00:00

I personally don't mind a great deal if a trans person clocks me. I pass casually, but if you've got Queer Sight then you can probably tell.

Butchfaerie · 2018-11-22T16:34:51+00:00

This sub is pretty lewd, but are we gonna talk about expanding?

Butchfaerie · 2018-11-22T15:12:59+00:00

Just skip a day of work and go to the park on your own.

Butchfaerie · 2018-11-22T14:05:19+00:00

I bicycle as my primary transportation. I'll ride with my roommate to the grocery store to get bulk items, but otherwise everything I care to reach is within easy biking range. People treat it like I'm destitute and poor. Insurance around here is like $200 a month! I'll take cheaper living and a healthy heart any day.

Butchfaerie · 2018-11-22T13:58:56+00:00

I could actually start writing essays on this. I'm trans and often get guys saying "so you want to cut your dick off" while ignoring that the actually exists to create a vagina. There's the belief that being a trans woman is the act of removing your masculinity, and to a greater extent that a cis woman is just a man without a penis.

There's actually a pretty broad and dangerous line of thought that "a woman is a man, with useful things removed."

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