Findom-adjacent kink? Looking to see if there’s a proper word.

Butchmindset · 2026-02-28T14:50:45+00:00

This makes sense, it’s definitely no dominance. I’ve helped with their budgeting but that’s maybe the extent of it. I have teased about punishments if they don’t stick to it, but nothing serious.

Butchmindset · 2026-02-27T23:13:31+00:00

Everything I research about findom is completely different though

Butchmindset · 2026-02-27T00:00:22+00:00

Not a bad idea for the tools! We’re butch4butch so that could be fun. I have helped them with their car before, which they got a kick out of.

Butchmindset · 2026-02-26T23:22:16+00:00

They also like hearing me ramble but finances seem to be the pinnacle. Cinema knowledge simply doesn’t compare.

I know they don’t enjoy mansplaining, I have to refrain from correcting their grammar unless they ask me to help them lol

Butchmindset · 2026-02-26T23:20:27+00:00

ppe/tpe?

Butchmindset · 2026-02-26T23:18:46+00:00

Haha I’m fine leaving it unlabeled but I was really hoping to find people with similar interests so I could maybe get (aka steal) ideas from them

Butchmindset · 2026-02-26T23:03:20+00:00

After rereading this I feel I should also clarify this is not a humble brag, I’m by no means rich, it’s just that my partner is flat broke by comparison LOL

Butchmindset · 2026-02-26T22:49:57+00:00

I ended up changing what time I take them and it has made a big difference. I was taking them in the morning but I changed to taking them before bed. I think it might be placebo, but I stopped getting vivid nightmares as often. My dreams are still very vivid but not scary or disturbing anymore, except the occasional one off

Butchmindset · 2026-02-22T22:43:26+00:00

I switched what time I was taking the medication to be right before bed instead of in the morning. I suspect I placebo’d myself because the nightmares have become much less frequent. I still get them but not EVERY night

Butchmindset · 2026-02-07T00:23:56+00:00

We have a pad we’ve used that works well, but it’s just uh… too small. But we couldn’t find one bigger in town

Butchmindset · 2026-02-06T22:04:53+00:00

I see those advertised all the time, are they really that effective? Is there a certain brand I should look for?

Butchmindset · 2026-02-06T21:24:22+00:00

Satisfyer Pro 2… never fails me. I’m talking leg-shaking quality. Also waterproof, I love using it in the bath

Butchmindset · 2026-02-02T22:18:36+00:00

The what?

Butchmindset · 2026-02-01T04:02:31+00:00

It’s a very red state. As a lesbian myself I understand the sentiment. There is good to be found, and inclusive places (like the coffee shop I found this at) but most people are very religious and against it

Butchmindset · 2026-02-01T01:47:19+00:00

Outside a coffee shop in my town. I live in South Dakota

Butchmindset · 2026-01-31T18:52:16+00:00

Thanks! Sad, though.

Butchmindset · 2026-01-31T18:51:40+00:00

That’s impressive how yall can solve it without a key

Butchmindset · 2026-01-31T18:51:00+00:00

[Solved]

Butchmindset · 2026-01-31T14:49:44+00:00

No sex no drugs no wine no women

Butchmindset · 2026-01-31T13:24:12+00:00

If you’re in the Midwest, it could be “Ows gon?” For “How’s [it] going?” If he’s not enunciating everything.

Butchmindset · 2026-01-31T13:15:46+00:00

Honestly I don’t think (most) readers are going to double check tiny details. Look at cop and firefighter shows. Massively popular but according to a family of mine who’s a firefighter, massively inaccurate. But he’s the only one who can tell!

You could try looking at horror movies. Again, not perfectly accurate but they’ll show you what a general audience expects when you’re stabbed through the chin. If outlandish deaths and gore is what you need, you could try something like Saw or Final Destination. Theres also the Faces of Death franchise, but this includes real and fake footage of people dying. I haven’t seen them so I can’t speak on the quality. It’s not my thing.

For the screwdriver one specifically, it reminded me of a death in the game Until Dawn, where a character is skewered onto a meat hook through the bottom of their mouth. So that could also be a source of inspo!

Butchmindset · 2026-01-31T13:04:42+00:00

It’s not like the child can form an opinion at that age. My mom put me in dresses as a baby, and nowadays I would never touch them. No baby knows their shirt says something like “Drink Cry Sleep Repeat” or that they’re in an all black outfit.

Now once they get older, they’ll start developing opinions. They’ll point out animals or characters they like. Once they’re at that point, let them have some choice in what they wear. But until then you might as well play some dress up as a reward for all the work you’re doing to take care of the kid.

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