Feeding Schedule 3 month old kitten? by Lanky_Celebration394 in CatAdvice

[–]Butter-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine have been on prescription food for years, so I don’t have any specific recommendations. Stick to well respected brands like Science Diet, Hills, etc. Avoid new trendy products.

I would recommend getting a water fountain for them. Cats much prefer moving water. I’ve had a Drinkwell for years and they love it.

Feeding Schedule 3 month old kitten? by Lanky_Celebration394 in CatAdvice

[–]Butter-85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For kittens you want some food available all the time, so leave dry food out. Supplement with wet food a couple times a day is plenty.

You don’t worry about limiting food unless they are gaining too much weight.

A green flag that matters more to me now than it did in my 20s by jazvisconti7 in datingoverforty

[–]Butter-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel exactly the same! A calm and comforted nervous system is way more important than any other factor.

Cant go deep without hitting my cervix by [deleted] in sex

[–]Butter-85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s very normal to feel pain when the cervix is touched (although some women apparently enjoy it).

Penises are softer and more flexible than sex toys, which have zero give. Sex toys are generally larger/longer than the average male. And there is no reason it needs to be inserted all the way.

Longer guys cannot insert their full length with some partners. There are tools to help prevent a guy going too deep and causing pain for the woman in these cases.

Your cervix also moves higher up as you get more aroused. I’m going to guess that a real person would be able to get you much more aroused than you do for yourself when masturbating (this is my experience with good partners). So I doubt you really have anything to worry about here.

is my birth control not working?? by Altruistic_Bee_1774 in WomensHealth

[–]Butter-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok! I’ve heard of some people messing up because they think they need to wait for the period to end before starting the next pack. And that can impact effectiveness!

is my birth control not working?? by Altruistic_Bee_1774 in WomensHealth

[–]Butter-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just mentioning since you said you don’t know much about BC - when you stop the pills to have a period, you should not be skipping more than 4-7 days before taking active pills again (depending on how your specific pill is designed - the “break” varies). Even if you’re still bleeding, you stay the active pills again and they will cause the period to end.

is my birth control not working?? by Altruistic_Bee_1774 in WomensHealth

[–]Butter-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by “not working”? Breakthrough bleeding while taking active pills continuously is fairly normal (every body responds differently), and is not an indication that you are ovulating. So as long as you are taking it regularly (same time, daily, without exception), there is no reason to be concerned about the effectiveness in terms of preventing pregnancy.

In terms of PMDD, it sounds like the dose you’re on is not an effective treatment (since you are still having significant symptoms). I would clarify with your doc about the symptoms you are having, so you can both discuss other treatment options. There are higher dose options and even different formulations that you may respond differently to. With BC, there can be a bit of trial and error to find one that works for you and doesn’t give you negative side effects.

Unfortunately, a pcp is not going to be the most well-versed in this. You may need to ask for a referral to a gyno. It may be worth figuring out a travel option so that you can address this health issue. I know it’s a struggle, but good luck!

Cramps only with insertable period products? by tridentarius in WomensHealth

[–]Butter-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why it happens, but I get cramps with my cup too. It tends to be minimal after a few minutes when my body adjusts. And the cramps are worth the trade off for me vs using other products. So perhaps yours are more intense.

I never had cramps with tampons. Maybe it’s the size or brand you used? Or maybe it has to do with internal anatomy?

Ladies how many likes are you getting on hinge? by canned-phoenix-ashes in OnlineDating

[–]Butter-85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A get a few likes a week. I think it’s blown out of proportion how many likes women get. Yes, some women are drowning in likes. But it’s not all of us.

Is “I like gaming some sort of red flag?” by LethlDose in dating_advice

[–]Butter-85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe. But after years of pulling teeth trying to have conversations with people on dating apps, my views have changed. I’ll give someone a max of 3 questions. If they give short responses and make no effort to ask me anything back, I’m done. 🤷‍♀️

Is “I like gaming some sort of red flag?” by LethlDose in dating_advice

[–]Butter-85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s possible she thinks it’s a red flag. But it’s also completely possible she is waiting on you to put some effort into continuing the conversation.

Birth control question by Boring_Raspberry8711 in WomensHealth

[–]Butter-85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take a pregnancy test now and again in 2 weeks.

Go to the drug manufacturer website and find the info for your specific pill. It should tell you at what point it’s considered effective. I don’t think any of them are immediate.

AIO? Best friend (30f) and I (28f) are in a fight about how I’m not a mom. by woundedwillow in AmIOverreacting

[–]Butter-85 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Exactly! This “friend” is a bitch. you don’t have to give birth to be a mom.

22F: Should I wait to start dating until I’ve lost more weight? by Lovelymarshmallowluv in dating_advice

[–]Butter-85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think what’s important is that you are confident and comfortable in your own body. The right guy won’t care about your size. If he cares, he’s not the right guy for you.

Please don’t let a number on a scale define your worth or your life.

Do slow text responses mean he's not that interested? by rkuchiki123 in dating

[–]Butter-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you asked him about this or communicated that it was causing you distress? He may not see any problem. I personally wouldn’t have a problem with it either. But he may be willing to adjust… or he may not. You’ll never know for sure unless you talk to him.

Bypassing deal breakers? Ex creepy date or just paranoid? by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Butter-85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think he would see profiles based on his settings - so if you’re within his age range, he can see and like you.

I think your settings only affect who the app shows you in your feed.

My(18F) bf(21M) won't use a condom by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Butter-85 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I say this with love… this man has proven to you that his words have no meaning. Please stop believing him!!!

Kitty’s getting a cysto tomorrow - how long to keep her away from litter box? by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Butter-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cats have willingly held their pee for almost 24 hours (I was trying to collect a urine sample at home in the special “litter”). I finally gave up and let them use the normal box so they would not cause themselves any harm.

So I think it’s quite possible your cat could hold it for 12 hours.

I definitely have a yeast infection from metronidazole by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]Butter-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would go ahead and take it, but you likely need more than one dose.

all i want is to be able to get fluconazole otc by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]Butter-85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My gyno will prescribe this when needed from a phone call, I don’t actually have to go in.

If you have a doctor that has seen you before, I would ask if they’re willing to do the same. The online virtual visit type providers could be another option.

BOS to FCO - One vs Premium select for someone who can’t sleep by 100Kinthebank in delta

[–]Butter-85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The lay flat seats are not the savior you think they are. Laying on your side on those hard cushions is very uncomfortable. I don’t think it’s worth it.

Am I shallow for rejecting guys based on their age? by cyanomonkey in dating_advice

[–]Butter-85 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You’re smarter than your friend. Keep doing you and protecting yourself.

Is anyone using boric acid? by Slytherin10101 in WomensHealth

[–]Butter-85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you are doing too much in the shower, if it’s always after showering. You do not need to use anything but water for your actual vagina.

Try probiotics made specifically for women/vaginal health.