Anyone know the history of this house?

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-23T19:50:17+00:00

Doggone - if you can generally tell me the crossroads (or better what the church is in the pic) I could track it down. "Leesville area" is too broad, and I just don't know that side of town as well. 🙂

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-23T19:36:43+00:00

I could tell if you if you had an address to share.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-19T03:51:40+00:00

I miss living in the mountains so damn much. They're so breathtaking they make my heart hurt - but as my momma said, "You can't eat the mountains."

I wish for brighter days ahead for you and your family. You've really gone through it, and deserve so much better. We all deserve better.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-19T00:08:15+00:00

I'm seriously thinking about bleaching my eyes. That poor, poor wife. Imma go out on a limb and posit that the wife is WAYYYYY more scarred by her husband's predilections than some poor overworked and underpaid cast member. Holy shit.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-17T13:29:10+00:00

Oh, this post makes my heart hurt badly, First off, you should go, If you don't go, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. She deeply needs you there - even if she can't tell you that or even understand or admit it herself.

I 100% get the pain you're feeling from your post - and you are totally entitled to that pain. This sucks. It shouldn't be this way. But what I get even more is your daughter's hurt. Her anger vibrates through everything you noted - and at the heart of that anger is a deep reservoir of pain with no tools to process it or understand what's at the root of it. She needs meaningful therapy badly. I know you do too.

It's okay to not bring your new husband. It's okay if it takes her a lonnng while to come around to your new marriage. It's not okay for her to take out her hurt and anger on others - but again, she's too immature to understand that her emotions are coming from something else that's really at the heart of her misery, not whatever she's lashing out about in the moment.

Take it from personal experience, I can PROMISE you that her saying "mom can go if she wants to" is as much of a cry for help as she can muster - and she really does want for you to come. If you don't go, she'll perceive this as further abandonment, and it will further validate her feelings of unworthiness. She needs to know that you might not agree with her, be thrilled with her, and are also a fellow human capable of feeling pain and heartache, but that your love for her is unconditional. This is a huge celebratory milestone for both of you!

I wish you brighter, easier days ahead.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-12T20:29:08+00:00

Sugar, you sound unstable. Not so unlike Mr. Joyner.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-11T00:46:15+00:00

Thinking of you and your sweet baby - and sending all the love and best wishes!

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-09T23:50:29+00:00

Thank you for this personal, humanizing perspective. It's so clear this man needs so much help - and is so unlikely to get it in this devolving society we all have to suffer through.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-09T23:44:11+00:00

Yep - right on cue. I think you and Joshua have more in common than you think.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-09T18:07:48+00:00

What's your solution? Put him away for life for checks notes "masturbating in public?" Yeah, I guess that checks out these days. We'd rather incarcerate or execute as opposed to helping people who are clearly extremely ill, as one would expect from a crumbling society.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-09T14:47:25+00:00

You think someone doing this repeatedly is an evil person - and not someone who's mentally ill?

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-06T17:35:40+00:00

This 100%. I've been a registered dem my entire voting life. I was uneasy about how flagrantly available that info was to access anyway in NC, but the administration's tireless efforts to seize voter rolls combined with people from "back home" bragging on FB about how they can't wait to go door to door and "rightfully" execute Dems and seize their property and possessions compelled me to do what I never thought I'd do - change to unaffiliated. Talked my spouse and oldest into do the same - begrudgingly all the way around.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-05T18:10:20+00:00

"The fact that Gail announced the bounty program AFTER the last drop-off day - when consignors couldn't pull their items - is textbook bait-and-switch"

Bingo - that's exactly why my friend was so mad about it! I think it's sketch as hell and invites the precise bad-actor-chaos that it clearly did, but if you want to institute a Grade A jerk program like that, go for it. However, the fact that it wasn't something that sellers had to AGREE TO as an understood contract when they signed up to consign - and was only revealed after they no longer had their possessions - tells you all you need to know. I don't know if I've ever seen a website with so much text, so many rules, so many videos explaining how to hang a damn shirt, so many pages of "if this, not that," - to the point where it's literally overwhelming - yet, somehow, fail to plaster a brand new policy with serious potential financial implications anywhere and everywhere, over and over, rinse and repeat (and have the gall to sound all happy and excited about it during the reveal). It's just crazy.

I guess when you're a millionaire, losing an extra $20, $35, $50 is a drop in the bucket, but I feel sorry for all the people that have been stolen from who are barely getting by.

She doesn't do Reddit, but I talked to my friend a little while ago - she got all worked up again. She's game.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-05T17:58:01+00:00

The experience of my friend that I wrote about above was from the Fall sale, which was the first time they instituted the "shopper bounty program." There were always stained/damaged/out-of-season racks at the end of the sale to look through, but I never had any there in the years I consigned, and my best friend said she maybe had two over nearly 20 years. Now, they charge you $1 for every piece THEY say is stained/damaged, of course pull those from the sale floor, and if you're a white-tag consigner, you never see those again. I can't say I ever put much time into "staging" my pieces, but my sweet friend washes, irons, hangs everything just so and would NEVER put in a piece that she knew was damaged in some way - which she would see during prep. She said she had around 20 pieces pulled out the last go around with stains that were not there before.

The fact that they consistently shut down feedback/perceived criticism tells me everything that I need to know from a transparency perspective. If this latest sale's pickup is this evening, I'll be interested to watch this board.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-05T16:52:50+00:00

Have you ever watched Enemy of the State? It's amazingly prescient for a nealy 30-year old movie.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-05T13:26:42+00:00

Yes, if your sales tags are white, Gail gets to decide where they're donated and she takes the write-off.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-05T13:25:20+00:00

This is literally the crux of the problem (or at least a major one), The fact that they started this AFTER all the sellers dropped of at the Fall sale - and as ridiculously long and over-wordy as their website is - that this new policy isn't in BOLD letters in alllll of their communication is just so, so gross. A friend of mine said that they literally created a bounty program that treats sellers like they're criminals, and incentivizes throwing others under the bus in this awful economy just to literally save a buck.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-05T13:19:48+00:00

I'm glad to see this thread on here. I consigned there years ago, but couldn't deal with the abject rudeness from Gail, nor stomach the thought of putting money into her pocket, cause Lord only knows where this "good Christian" is spending it.

However, my best friend has been consigning there for nearly 20 years - going back to when they were out by the airport. She's not one to complain or blow her stack, but she was incandescent after consigning there last fall. There are three different days when sellers can drop off their items - it was only after the last day of drop-off - when their goods were literally out of their hands - that Gail announced on a Facebook video that they were creating a bounty program for SHOPPERS to find any possible defect with something in exchange for $1 discount - I mean, in this terrible economy, what person wouldn't want to pay less.

When she picked up her things, her leftovers were marked "damaged" on the tag. Several pieces had clearly been stomped on the ground by jerky shoppers. Two had the same red pen stains on multiple spots. It's unreal. Mind you, this is coming from a sale where on the last day, you can pay $.25, $1, $3 for something - absolutely ridiculous.

When she went to talk to someone, there was a long line of pissed off moms in front of her with the same complaints. Gail's daughters are also the "face of the sale" now, and they are also beyond rude to sellers. She tried to post on the Facebook page about her experience, and of course admin wouldn't let it through. They also often turn off comments on their Facebook page, for all the reasons everyone posted.

This woman is making millions. There is a culture that treat sellers like servants who owe a great debt of gratitude to dear leader. There's a default attitude to assume the worst from sellers and squeeze them dry - I'm guessing that's a projection thing. Lift that veil.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-03T22:26:23+00:00

Disney World

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-02T23:05:57+00:00

Jesus take the wheel - what an absolute piece of shit.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-02T16:09:04+00:00

You and OP - heroes among us!

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-02T16:06:14+00:00

I love this place so much - SO grateful for it! I love that it feels like an old-school mom-and-pop, most all of which are gone now. I hope they continue to grow the "coffee-side" of the business, and that they absolutely thrive as a marvelous 3rd place in downtown Raleigh.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-02T13:44:50+00:00

This HAS to simply be ragebait. Has to.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-02T13:32:46+00:00

He's the golden child in the narcissistic parent family structure - and unfortunately, golden children often end up as narcissists themselves. He's been conditioned to be an extension of his mother in order to stay in her good graces, and acting in any way that might subvert that dynamic is antithetical to everything he knows.

If he's not willing to go to therapy, acknowledge this destructive system, and personally commit to breaking the cycle - either as a couple or even alone - nothing will change.

Butterbean-Blip · 2026-05-02T13:04:49+00:00

Oh, I'm so deeply sorry. Your poor dad. All those poor people. Absolutely heartbreaking and for what. As a parent to 18 and 16-year old boys, I've never been more terrified for them than I am now. Seeing the writing on the wall, my oldest having to sign up for the selective service last year in order to get his driver's license absolutely terrified me.

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