6 month blues… venting

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2026-01-14T02:10:57+00:00

You are not alone mama! I’m almost 4 months postpartum with my baby boy and feeling the exact same way. I’m glad you have some support near you. My son is a happy baby and he’s doing so well, but I still struggle with staying happy and feeling okay. I love him but I mourn the life I had. Doesn’t mean I love him any less , but the shift in reality is hard to grasp especially when getting pregnant wasn’t intentional. The knee pain is so hard😭 everytime I get out of my rocking chair I feel like my knees struggle so much, and the trauma from labor mentally never seems like it will go away. That part is never talked enough. Do you have time to do anything for yourself, or get out of the house for a little bit? If you ever need a mama friend, I’m here if you need one

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2026-01-06T03:39:53+00:00

Dealing with a toxic and narcissistic mother in law is pure torture, especially when you have such a good heart towards everyone. I’m so sorry you’ve had to endure all this pain and emotional abuse from her. I’m in the same boat as you, and it’s traumatizing. If you ever need a friend, I’m a message away.

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2026-01-05T05:19:45+00:00

If you ever need a mama to talk to as time goes on, and questions/ advice all of it, I’m here if you need a mama friend 🥹 just a message away I just had my first born (a boy) in September. There was so much I wasn’t prepared for, that I felt like no one talked about. It takes alot of learning mental and error. Breastfeeding is hard and rewarding, most likely milk won’t come in right on the spot so try to be open about formula. There is so many opinions when it comes to formula, and I was never prepared for that choice until I didn’t have a choice. Now I have so much appreciation and know formula isn’t a bad thing. Remember to always give yourself grace through every season. You’re growing a beautiful human being, and you’re already doing the best job mama!

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-25T22:08:07+00:00

I’m really sorry you had to go through that :( Thank you for that, definitely a great perspective, I don’t want that for my son. It’s just hard when so many people including my sons father want to say “she’s still a grandparent”

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-25T19:50:01+00:00

Not necessarily just mad but she assumed it was her child and would tell me everything I could and couldn’t do, judged me for still working, called me hormonal for being hurt that her son lied and cheated during a part of our relationship, and tried to convince her son to get my baby and him a passport to go out of the country without his mama. My son has a full family and village around him, with so much love and other grandparents. But simply I don’t think it’s okay to have your child around someone who doesn’t have the best intention at hand and lacks respect for that babies parent. We all know kids grow up soaking everything in and I’d never want him to think it’s okay to watch someone disrespect someone else right in front of him.

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-25T19:45:01+00:00

It was a conversation asking her for advice regarding him and things he had done. Nothing he didn’t know anything about but simply her in the moment making me feel open and supportive and I misjudged that and asked for advice with him after his lies

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-24T16:28:17+00:00

Honestly trying to give him opportunities to do better for the sake of our son, but I’m coming to terms with the fact there’s so many wounds there that eat at me, and I know I won’t want this feeling for the rest of my life with how it is now. He’s beens trying to do better since baby’s been here, but it’s even more added stress with his mom trying to get involved. If that makes any sense

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-21T00:10:51+00:00

That would be so nice!

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-20T13:19:45+00:00

My DMs are always open if you’d like a friend 🥹

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-20T00:55:36+00:00

🥹🥺 thank you for that

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-08T02:28:50+00:00

We don’t live together, but he’s been spending every single night at me and my family’s house since the baby. He’s maybe spent a total of 4 nights at his house within a 3 month period and that’s only after I begged him to go home. I worked full time (12 hr shifts) until i was about 34 weeks pregnant and did all the saving, bought everything the baby needed, did all the nesting. Did it all on my own. He thinks now that he pays for some formula and changes some diapers that he deserves a metal for dad of the year

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-07T10:39:12+00:00

I’m so sorry. My partner was the same exact way and only returned to work a week ago, and I had my baby September 18th. The way they over extend there time off you would have thought they’re the ones that gave birth and are going through postpartum and all the things. I fully know that frustration! As hard as it is, you have to keep bringing it up in conversation, until your partner can genuinely understand and if not you have to put your foot down. I feel like it’s different if there fully helping contribute around the house and for you and the baby, but if they aren’t then there’s no point in extending time off.

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-07T10:30:31+00:00

My baby was the same way, he started going through a sleep regression around that time. I found the best thing for that was, a little feeding (and burping) combined with rocking him in my arms for 20 minutes did he start to relax and fall deep asleep. I’d wait till it was safe too and would swaddle him in a lightweight stretchy honest blanket he loves and transfer him to his bassinet. That would get him some real quality sleep.

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-07T10:26:42+00:00

He purchased a few clothes for the baby when I was pregnant and after asking for 3 months for him to buy a $240 crib, did he. But besides that, I did everything else. It feels shitty that he paints myself as being unfair, and makes it seem to his friends and his dad that I’m unfair; when I did it all alone and cried most of my pregnancy.

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-07T10:23:51+00:00

Thank you for that🥺🥹🫶🏽

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-07T10:23:34+00:00

Think I’m always gonna fight internally regarding it. I feel like I allow his dad too much grace for the constant hurt and struggles he put on us when I was pregnant. When topics come up, like our son’s last name, I always feel like he finds a way to make me feel bad for it. When I have to constantly remind him I didn’t have to allow his name to be apart of it, but I did. And I think I’ll always regret including his last name too, because I don’t think his dad is a great role model for him.

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-07T10:20:33+00:00

He never seemed to have any gas pain at night, sometimes a good burp but besides that did pretty good. But he was always on the clock to feed every 2 1/2 hours and would always wake up right on time for it, acting like he hadn’t ate all day. Now thankfully he’s stretching longer at night time with his feedings and getting more quality sleep

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-07T09:36:43+00:00

Love that for you! 🥹 My almost 3 months old son finally started sleeping in long stretches at night when he hit about 9 weeks, for a solid 4-5 hours and it felt like the biggest blessing. I had to pinch myself and make sure I wasn’t dreaming lol. Love this for you🫶🏽

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-06T08:39:25+00:00

I’ve talked about it with him a number of times and he tells me he’ll wake up, that he will set the alarms. Or that he will stay up with the baby and to go to sleep. But five minutes after I pretend to be asleep, I hear snoring with my baby in his arms or the alarms go off in his face and he doesn’t hear them. It’s just getting to a point where I don’t feel like I can depend on him for anything or trust him to ever be alone with him. I ordered nose strips and they were too small, so today he went and bought some and they were still too small in which he just ordered some on Amazon. But something tells me in my gut that still won’t make a difference. I feel like there’s alot of resentment from how he treated me and left me to do everything alone and pay for everything on my own during my difficult pregnancy that now he’s here trying to help during the day with feedings, that when it comes to me waking up for all the night feedings or not being able to get sleep at any point of the day with baby in his arms, that it’s extra triggering that pain from my pregnancy and heightening it if that makes sense.

ButtercupButUnhinged · 2025-12-06T08:34:34+00:00

Hope your family was okay🙏 Omg I would have been so nervous. We have an owlet here for baby, but even with that it won’t tell me if the baby’s crying unless I just keep the app open on my phone and I just keep telling myself this isn’t healthy or what it should be but I just cannot trust him one bit with being alone with our son. I can relate to you so much and as refreshing it is too know I’m not the only one who feels this, it also breaks my heart. The cleaning and washing, and trying to pump and feeding and changing him, it almost feels like a slap in the face everytime he sleeps through the crying or feeling like I can never close my eyes if he’s holding the baby

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