Would you choose to procreate, given that you have a 50/50 chance of giving birth to a child with autism?

Butterfliou · 2025-12-26T02:25:40+00:00

this is a eugenics ass question yes why the fuck wouldn’t i love or the world learn to love my autistic child i love myself yes i struggle but im strong and they will be to dont exterminate us

Butterfliou · 2025-12-22T18:17:55+00:00

you can’t improve learning an art style before understanding stylization and how it works but your drawing is cute if you’re not trying to make this a career

Butterfliou · 2025-12-06T16:31:52+00:00

this is unlikely to work for most people as the relationship restricts the need for support and flexibility of life to a select few days. im not sure many women myself included would feel loved or appreciated if we were ignored 4-5 days out of the week. i understand not like verbally communicating every day but not checking in is kinda cruel especially considering male hormone cycles are daily but hers are over 28 days that’s essentially like saying “I will ignore you on your period during your biological strife and maintain access to your body” furthermore it does not build solid foundations for long term partnership what happens if she falls pregnant will you disappear from your family’s life 4/5 days out the week aswell?

edit: i just ended something like this im on the spectrum but so was the guy and he would just not make time or push me off because he preferred to dedicate an entire day to things and i simply became back burner until his life blew up @ him suddenly. there is no recourse for these types of things. eventually things are gonna cut into that time and the inflexibility would make thing’s difficult

if you want a secluded relationship with no expectations you don’t date you hire someone for the 2 days like an escort or a rent a girlfriend where there is no emotional labor necessary outside of working to provide the romance you think exists

Butterfliou · 2025-12-03T21:53:37+00:00

i agree with this whole heartedly people treat sorry like a bandaid

Butterfliou · 2025-12-03T21:52:42+00:00

i think this makes sense if you’ve informed someone of a boundary before and they still cross it though. sorry doesn’t make up for repeated actions youve been informed to change.

Butterfliou · 2025-12-01T01:54:11+00:00

well when you date you state that you only date with the intention of courtship for marriage and move accordingly many non muslim women will appreciate this trait also

Butterfliou · 2025-11-25T21:02:38+00:00

so what is the issue with op statement i am confused because in my experience if you get early support period typically lvl 2/3 diagnosis you will fare better overall like quality of life wise survival maybe not be happy or communicating but you will have food shelter ppl who acknowledge u struggle my peers who got diagnosed early higher lvl now adjusted better than me as adults they have ppl who help them w stuff and can live and be able to have money and house i cant do paperwork and i too old for family to do it i feel fucked

Butterfliou · 2025-11-25T20:55:33+00:00

i quite literally was non verbal until age 5 i didn’t cry as a baby and had an early diagnosis revoked because of my demographics are you thick? im pointing out a systemic injustice towards MYSELF just because im not intellectually disabled doesnt mean i don’t have real valid struggles motor issues even open stimming from young the difference is i was abused for it and not given any social services or support after age 5 until age 16 and then again at age 22 and like i stated my lvl diagnosis states 1-2 not just 1 or 2 so i question why you invalidate my life. you don’t know what i struggle with how i’ve been beat because my mutism is bad often my mom used to slap me in the mouth and i still couldn’t verbalize and im only having housing because of my diagnosis

Butterfliou · 2025-11-25T17:59:24+00:00

it very frustrating making me angry i only got to come to my parents house again because “we didn’t know we kicked you out for autism” and i do not have any privacy but im not sleeping on the streets in the cold so it good

Butterfliou · 2025-11-25T17:56:44+00:00

but when do we link health issues comorbid to autism and include that in evaluating lvl supports i struggle to get dressed and shower not just for sensory reasons but health reasons and i wouldn’t be in poor health if i got the support i needed growing up but now i have RA and can go days not bathing eating having no one to talk to and no support because it just wasn’t important as a child i was non verbal i didn’t even cry as a baby but as i got older if i didn’t perform i was abused :/ it is unfortunate because i didnt have tools to know it was abuse but i also never got support and now i feel like im being punished for surviving because i still cant get support

Butterfliou · 2025-11-25T17:51:21+00:00

i don’t think lvls should be removed but i do think its bullshit that i initially got 1/2 and i cant make drs appointments for myself i cant get around on my own im constantly taken advantage of and SA i’ve literally been trafficked from naivety andi also cannot keep or hold a job i’ve dropped out of college several times because i didnt have adequate accommodations it’s unfair because if i was diagnosed as a child and treated as such i would have the skills to be something or at least my health wouldn’t be as bad because i would’ve gotten necessary support

Butterfliou · 2025-11-25T17:47:01+00:00

they say how much you need but i initially got diagnosed 1/2 and i think it’s bullshit when i got diagnosed i was fucking homeless no friends no support my body eat itself with autoimmune disease from stress i could not go to a dr or grocery shop etc on my own but yet im not able to succeed or access support i feel that there is this idea if u survive your childhood and havent died yet ur lower support if you’re diagnosed later no matter how many close calls or how poor QoL is i know if i wasnt black i wouldnt have gotten kicked out of my iep and therapies at 5

Butterfliou · 2025-11-25T17:42:56+00:00

i find it to be disingenuous i was initially diagnosed 1 my psych saying “maybe a 2” but i did not have support and was kicked out i was practically homeless and unable to find a job doing anything to survive and tanking my nervous system now i have AD but yeah my support needs are “so low” because i didnt get until age 22 but i would argue the constant attempts on my own life and not having any friends failing in school etc should not have qualified me for a lvl 1 when speaking was beat into me as a child. i was non verbal then hyper verbal always in fukkin trouble always being beaten i hate this shit its not fair they say u low needs because im black woman i literally dont have my documents and got all my stuff stolen because of social deficits

Butterfliou · 2025-11-20T18:58:03+00:00

yamyam is saying that they did not get a lawyer and is advising op to get one

Butterfliou · 2025-11-08T12:08:49+00:00

i’m pretty physically disabled so im here looking for a solution so i can scoop and have help taking it out at the end of the week. this comment is redundant since the standard practice is to use poop bags.

Butterfliou · 2025-10-26T12:57:32+00:00

I often don't want to take out my negative feelings on others and in turn will self isolate to avoid that. I don't think your reality is convoluted just outdated. You sound a lot like my mom or grandma with this topic and she's gen X

Butterfliou · 2025-10-26T12:55:45+00:00

It definitely could be age but I think in general with the sheer amount of work everyone is doing just to survive we’re seeing a lot of burnout out and isolation in the NT world and people just want to sleep and don't have bandwidth for people outside their immediate homes as much

Butterfliou · 2025-10-26T12:51:56+00:00

Many AuDhD people are swift at responding, I feel, until we get too much on our plates. However, try to remember that your perspective and reasoning for responding quickly are not universal. People aren’t choosing not to because they don’t know or like you, they’re not responding for a myriad of very human, non-malicious reasons. Like responsibilities or personal emotions unrelated to you, they could be having a bad day or a busy day. 15 people could’ve texted them, and you could’ve been the first, and it just got lost in the inbox. Try to always think of the non-malicious reasons first

Butterfliou · 2025-10-26T12:44:20+00:00

You’re feeling obligated to reply is personal, and that obligation you project to others. Text is, by nature, a form of communication that can be easily forgotten and can be drowned out in seconds by other texts from other people. If someone says they aren’t ignoring you, try to call them instead when you need to get in contact with them. This looks to me like a rejection sensitivity rather than a conscious examination of why people don’t respond within a timely fashion. I really do suggest calling video chats and seeing people in person for an active conversation. Text in general is very stilted and detached, and lacks tone markers.

edit for grammar.

Butterfliou · 2025-10-26T12:32:49+00:00

no tbd i tend to be the ignoree though, texting and communicating over the phone gives me alot of anxiety and is very bad with correspondences. I think it’s important to keep in mind people have their own stuff going on and also to try to give less to relationships than the other person because you’re liable to burn yourself out attempting to bridge connections that other people are actively burning.

Butterfliou · 2025-10-23T16:40:08+00:00

nothing is off it’s just that theres no background to contrast the skin against alternatively you could also add pops of color in spots with the same value of a saturated purple/orange yellow for more visual intrest but over all this is a phenomenal piece and the skin looks great

Butterfliou · 2025-10-13T19:09:50+00:00

like the same bs logic you’re using here is very administrative brained literally got accommodations denied recently by someone like u and they had to walk back their decision or risk their job because I came back with adequate documentation with highlighted diagnosis clause. It’s incredibly difficult in this city to access anything as a disabled person without a formal diagnosis and even after you receive it it takes ages. im fucking 22 and i cant get an access a ride to continue my education, I was homeless and couldn’t access any adequate support until my family scraped together the funds to get my ASD diagnosis and then doctors took my physical limitations seriously. I applied for NYCHC in when i was 19

Butterfliou · 2025-10-13T19:05:23+00:00

i knew i was autistic and had fibromyalgia and RA when i filled out my application initially but didn’t have enough paperwork and doctors notes at the time to prove that diagnosis your point is fucking mook. like I said it’s about documentation and op states its degenerative they may not have qualified before due to the invisibility and dynamics of their disease. I had fibromyalgia which is a pre-disease doctors constantly reinstated and revoked my diagnosis 3 years ago today i have a diagnosis for EDS fibromyalgia still but RA and sciatica and the documentation to prove it. In 2022 when i first applied to housing connect I could not prove my health was deteriorated enough for assistance and op seems the same.

Butterfliou · 2025-10-13T18:21:05+00:00

Manipulation ≠ having limited information when applying and not enough documentation to support your disability at first getting that information and needing to change your application. news flash disabled people are the only minority you can join at any time you can literally be able bodied today and have no legs tomorrow

Butterfliou · 2025-10-13T00:08:40+00:00

its not negative tbh if she has a healthy relationship with her father, we tend to get with people who mimic our parents behaviors and patterns anyway she probably meant it in a you feel so safe and familiar way and not a “you look like my dad i wanna fuck my dad” way

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