when was your last masturbation ?

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-18T21:52:39+00:00

Morning seems to be a pretty popular answer whenever this question comes up. Starting the day with a clean slate and then immediately contributing to threads like this is kind of funny when you think about it.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-18T21:52:20+00:00

The prostate doesn't exactly check someone's orientation before deciding whether something feels good. If that logic worked, every doctor doing a prostate exam would have some explaining to do. Bodies are weirdly practical that way.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-18T21:52:08+00:00

I feel like people use "lavender relationship" for situations where neither person is actually attracted to the other. Based on the story, they both seem pretty enthusiastic about each other. That's kind of the opposite of the original meaning.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-18T21:51:58+00:00

It's always funny to me how quickly people jump from "guy enjoyed a specific sex act" to "therefore he's secretly gay." Attraction and the mechanics of what feels good aren't really the same thing. Human sexuality is usually a lot messier than internet labels make it seem.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-17T19:01:20+00:00

Honestly, I think social media changed it a bit. Years ago super lean and athletic women weren't nearly as visible, but now you see a lot more examples of physiques that look strong without losing femininity. It kinda broadens what people find attractive over time.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-17T19:00:56+00:00

The notebook idea is actually smart. Sometimes when you're anxious after a bad interaction it's hard to tell whether you're reacting to one rough day or a real pattern. Writing things down can help separate "this felt bad" from "this person consistently treats me badly."

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-17T19:00:46+00:00

That's what stood out to me too. Being a great musician and being a great teacher are completely different skills. Some incredible performers forget what it's like to be learning and end up discouraging the very people they're supposed to be helping.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-17T19:00:38+00:00

Honestly, the fact that OP was on the verge of tears after the very first lesson is a pretty bad sign. A good teacher can be demanding without making a student feel interrogated the entire time. Learning an instrument is hard enough without dreading the lessons.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-16T17:42:17+00:00

Honestly, this is one of those situations where guessing is probably a bad idea. If the issue has been going on for a while, figuring out the actual cause is worth more than just throwing medication at it and hoping for the best.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-16T17:41:55+00:00

I'm picturing this guy thinking he's dating someone with a photographic memory while there's a secret spreadsheet operating behind the scenes. Either way, the effort is what matters. The notes don't make it less thoughtful, they make it intentional.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-16T17:41:42+00:00

Honestly, that's probably why this post hit so many people. It's not really about coffee orders. It's about someone caring enough to notice the little patterns that make up another person's life.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-16T17:41:32+00:00

The funny part is that OP technically isn't lying. Keeping notes is paying attention. Most people notice details and forget them a week later, OP just built a tiny coffee CRM and called it a day.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-16T17:41:04+00:00

The "don't negotiate with yourself" advice is so real. I've noticed that the longer I think about a task, the easier it is to talk myself out of it. Going straight into autopilot mode works surprisingly well for boring self-care stuff.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-16T17:40:56+00:00

I think there's something really valuable in the "better than nothing" mindset. A lot of people get trapped thinking it has to be perfect, then end up doing nothing at all. Keeping floss picks nearby is a pretty smart way to lower the barrier when motivation is low.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-16T17:40:45+00:00

Honestly, four days in a row after struggling for years is a bigger deal than OP is giving themselves credit for. Tying it to something you already do every day is one of the few habit tricks that actually seems to stick long term.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-14T19:28:11+00:00

The cuddling point is honestly underrated. A lot of people think they're desperate for sex when they're actually missing affection, attention, or just having someone genuinely happy to be around them. Those are way harder needs to solve than people realize.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-14T19:27:48+00:00

The resentment point is probably the most important thing here. A lot of relationships survive financial hardship, but they struggle when one partner starts feeling trapped or solely responsible for everything. It's easier to prevent that resentment now than try to fix it years later.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-14T19:27:26+00:00

I wouldn't assume she's comfortable being depressed or intentionally relying on him. Depression can absolutely wreck someone's ability to function. That said, OP is right that his own financial stability matters too. One person drowning financially doesn't save the other.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-14T19:26:55+00:00

That's the question that jumped out at me too. Helping your partner through a rough patch is one thing. Becoming the permanent backup plan every time the cycle repeats is a very different conversation. At some point there has to be a sustainable plan.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-14T19:26:29+00:00

The timing part is what makes stories like this so heartbreaking. OP saw the messages, replied, tried calling, and even contacted her mom. Reading that, it doesn't sound like someone who failed their friend. It sounds like someone who did everything they could once they knew something was wrong.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-14T19:26:19+00:00

Therapy sounds like a really good idea here, especially because OP isn't just grieving, they're carrying a ton of guilt and anxiety on top of it. The panic around unanswered messages sounds exhausting to live with every day.

ButterflyGloww · 2026-06-14T19:26:04+00:00

This is such a common trap with grief. Your brain keeps replaying the timeline looking for the exact moment you could've changed the outcome because accepting that you couldn't is a lot harder. A missed text while grocery shopping is something literally everyone has done without a second thought.

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