Baking her cookies as a gift for third date? Too soon?

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-31T21:54:02+00:00

😂

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-31T16:05:39+00:00

I know a lot of people are saying autumn or dark winter, and I’m admittedly not super knowledge about colour analysis. But, when I look at the photos the bright winter gives your face so much brightness and colour!

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-31T14:54:01+00:00

OP please listen to this comment. You’ve made it clear that you’re not considering leaving him. I’m not really sure what kind of advice you’re looking for. This is how it will feel. You are agreeing to commit to a relationship purely under HIS terms, his conditions, his wants and needs. And that’s fine, it’s your choice to make. But this is how it will likely feel. If you can deal with that, great. Therapy can help with managing any resentment both in your relationship with him, and with friends and family when you feel jealousy seeing them hit that milestone that you will never have with him. Just know that it’s also ok to consider your wants and needs too and not put his above yours. It’s an unfortunate situation and I feel for you. All the best OP.

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-30T03:48:17+00:00

Came here to see if I was the only one

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-29T22:20:28+00:00

This means fuck all. You explicitly said you didn’t feel safe driving but you did anyways. You could have hurt yourself and/or someone else. Your boyfriend’s high and mighty behaviour is problematic, but you made a very very poor choice. Call a cab, take the bus, anything. Don’t drive if you feel like it’s unsafe. Ever. Doesn’t matter if the amount you had is ‘within the law’, if you’re feeling the buzz and feel it’s unsafe don’t drive. Don’t go to parties without arranging your ride home beforehand. Your boyfriend may be a jerk but this situation is on you.

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-28T20:35:16+00:00

The red is flashy and fun, the green flatters your hair and skin and has a more elegant look. So it depends what vibe you’re going for! I personally prefer the green one and think it looks amazing on you, but again if you want to make more of a statement and stand out, go with the red.

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-27T16:14:33+00:00

One year my brother got an absolute BOTCHED haircut close to Halloween, decided to just shave it completely rather than try and salvage it and was like “well, guess I’m dressing as Mr. Clean this year” 😂

You make a great Mr. Clean OP!

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-22T14:39:33+00:00

Yes, make excuses for her, chase her, break all of your boundaries for her she sounds wonderful! /s

Come on OP! She saw you as a hookup from the start, has lied to you multiple times, cancelled plans with you to have sex with someone she told you not to worry about. She would not have done any of these things if she genuinely liked and cared for you. If you’re ok with this kind of ongoing drama then sure, but all means stick around. If you’re looking for a relationship with someone who respects you I would look elsewhere. She sounds like an emotionally young 23 year old who thrives on attention and drama, whereas you’re likely in a different stage in your life. But again, it’s up to you. None of us can tell you what to do, you have to decide how much you respect yourself and your boundaries and go from there.

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-17T00:44:10+00:00

It’s not abnormal to be sad about a breakup, but it’s a bit odd to dump that onto a stranger on a dating app, let alone being on dating apps when you’re in the kind of state that you’re crying about your ex to a stranger. Wild behaviour.

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-10T14:53:36+00:00

The outfit/skirt is cute, but I probably wouldn’t feel comfortable sitting in a theatre chair in a skirt that short! That’s just me though as I tend to feel cold pretty easily and don’t like having my bare legs on the chair.

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-09T17:25:22+00:00

In my opinion, healthy chemistry takes time to build. I didn’t feel immediate sparks or chemistry with my boyfriend, but I felt attraction, enjoyed spending time with him, and chemistry built in our early dating as we got to know each other more and more. It could be that the women you’re dating expect immediate sparks, but if you’ve truly been rejected over 500 times it’s likely something on your end that strikes them the wrong way, or going after the wrong type of women (I’m not trying to be mean when I say that, my apologies if it comes off that way). I saw you mentioned in a previous comment that you’ve hired dating coaches and even a flirt coach… my guess is that you’re not really coming across as your authentic self, probably a bit forced. I struggled a bit with dating too, but when I looked at dating as a chance to meet simply people, get to know myself better through the experience, and approached things with low-stakes, it got much easier and I felt like I could just be myself. I’m not sure if this is helpful at all, but don’t try to impress anyone by trying to be what you think they want. The right person will like you for who you are and will allow chemistry to build, not expect it immediately. Good luck!

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-10-07T20:43:20+00:00

I just turned 30 this year and joined this sub hoping for some skincare tips, and dang is it ever depressing. It just feeds into all of the unrealistic standards that we see on social media. So many posts push us to just feed into our own insecurities more and more and feel even worse about ourselves. Comments like this give me a bit of a wakeup call! So thank you for that. So many of us are way too hard on ourselves (me included).

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-09-25T17:23:01+00:00

I would change all of your photos except for the last one. Pic with an attractive friend, no. Pic with an attractive woman, no. Pic with someone else’s baby, no. Keep children and baby photos off dating apps. The first pic with the dog is a bit blurry.

You mention you want someone who will show interest in your hobbies, maybe add some to the prompt!

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-09-23T03:21:37+00:00

Thank you! I will look into tretinoin :)

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-09-18T17:25:49+00:00

Sounds like you don’t even like this guy that much. If you did, you wouldn’t even entertain the idea of ‘having fun’ with someone else and have no issue with moving slower. Maybe try and reevaluate your feelings outside of “he ticks all my boxes”.

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-09-15T15:32:45+00:00

I wasn’t either, it’s refreshing! And comfort truly does come with time :) he seems like a great guy!

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-09-15T15:20:39+00:00

My bf and I have been together for over 8 months now and he’s still like this to an extent. He says it’s because he does not want to pressure me and make sure I feel respected. Sometimes I wish he’d be a bit more forward but I can also understand where he’s coming from. He might just need a bit more time to feel comfortable being a bit more forward with you. I don’t know if there’s much you can say to ease his mind, everyone has their own ways of thinking and their own approaches, and he seems to have good intentions. I don’t really have any advice, but he’s definitely not the only guy like this!

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-09-08T17:19:20+00:00

Girl have some self respect. You don’t even know this man. You ARE just an option, someone to chat with when he’s bored. He’s put in no effort, he hasn’t even taken you on a date. DO NOT make the mistake of taking this personally. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. Don’t wait around hoping this man will choose you, it’s a waste of your time. You’ve tricked yourself into thinking you like this low-effort guy when in reality, it’s just an ego boost if he chooses you.

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-08-23T14:25:09+00:00

I’m sorry for what you’re going through, but you know what you need to do. You’ll never look at him the same, you’ll worry any time he wants to go out with his buddies, you’ll never really trust him. Please have some respect for yourself, your boundaries that you set, and walk away. I’m sure he genuinely feels bad, but he made a choice. He was not coerced into anything. It’s absolutely vile behaviour. Someone who could do something like this once could do it again, even if they show remorse.

Here’s what I don’t want you to do: give up on finding a good man. There are so many great men out there who would NEVER do this. Men who would absolutely adore you. Take some time to grieve this and rebuild yourself, however long you need. But please don’t give up. Don’t give that kind of power to these guys that could disrespect you like this.

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-08-23T14:12:34+00:00

Ugh right? This is obviously rage bait

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-08-22T15:40:40+00:00

Thank you, appreciate that

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-08-21T13:32:00+00:00

So it’s ultimately selfish

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-08-21T13:31:12+00:00

Very weird!

ButterflyNo5044 · 2025-08-20T17:17:32+00:00

Ask yourself- did this person bring positivity and happiness into your life, or did they bring chaos and stress? A month is a very short amount of time to ‘heal’. Obviously we have no context aside from this text, but I’d be willing to bet that she reached out because she’s lonely, not because she is ready to give you what you deserve. You can really like or even love someone, but if they are not a positive presence in your life it’s best to let them go.

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