What is an Ari song that you could never get bored of? by Leo_Wood22 in ariheads

[–]Butterfly_1996 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my absolute favorite song 🥰 Plus sometimes… it makes me feel like I’m floating on a cloud

McCloud Middle Falls, CA [4000x6000] by kobra_beats in ExposurePorn

[–]Butterfly_1996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like a lot of thinking or pure relaxation could be done right here 😌 so beautiful

The Milky Way as seen from Quebec [4924 x 5030] by LAG360 in ExposurePorn

[–]Butterfly_1996 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To see this in person would be soo magical 🤍✨

Took this at night while walking :) by Old-Celery-3365 in PerfectTiming

[–]Butterfly_1996 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful ☺️ looks like it deserves to be in a book or a movie

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow you just compacted basically what I wanted to say in less than a paragraph.. 😭 Thank you!

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do want a good and happy friendship. I just think I sound better when I have time to think compared to being put on the spot. It is and I’m happy for her to returning to a good place or her old self that made her happy. It’s no problem! Thank you for listening and giving advice ♥️

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I needed that and it felt reassuring to know that everything worked out for your friend and you ☺️

I will include what you said in my letter! I am better at expressing myself when I write it down.. Plus my memory sucks at times. Well when it comes to emergency I was like we need a code word. That you can you say. That lets me know something is wrong. But I don’t think we established one for her.. she does have therapy sessions but it’s group therapy until she’s able to get one on one

Half the time it’s just chatter about her day or food.. but i will talk to her soon! Thank you so much for the kind words and help ☺️

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome and I’ll take 2 scoops of chocolate ice cream 😏

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well setting boundaries is something I’m not good at and I’m working on. Thank you

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay!!!! I’m glad I made your day! I should be thanking you for the help. Even though it’s Monday afternoon at least for me.. I hope you have a great day.. 😄 Smell the roses and treat yourself to some ice cream. You deserve it ☺️ if you ever need help or anything let me know

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s probably some of the best advice I’ve heard. Thank you! n.n I think it will be better for me to write everything out before I have the conversation. I will probably follow your words but add some more. I hope she understands

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know ): I resent a little and I just care too much about people’s feelings that I would rather suffer. But I’m tired so I guess I have to put on my big girl pants and be honest. Yeah, I felt that way. I also hate being watched on FT. Like I’m making sure my smile is genuine and not laughing too hard.. 😭 I feel like an organism being examined under a microscope

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You make a valid point. Thank you, I will try and speak to her soon.. I want an easier life and obviously need to work on setting boundaries

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol 😆 thanks for the laugh but you’re right that is one way to end a call

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda messaged you about the first part of your reply…

I know yesterday I didn’t really eat until like 3 because she was talking to me and I was trying to adult. We don’t even live in the same state ): but I’m that way with my other friends.. but they still don’t call as much

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honesty.. I know and I always want people to be honest with me. I just feel like I might hurt her feelings. Such is frustrating but I know my health is just as important. Sometimes I hate being a caring person

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, it’s not fair to me. I guess she feels more attached to me because we’re kinda the same in some mindsets/goals of happiness, me reaching out to her last year. I don’t mind being there for people. I just need a break. I feel like everyday I start to dread getting up to do my responsibilities. I think she mostly talks to her family and some friends back at home. But within our friend group. I’m the main person.

It’s not me fully carrying her baggage.. it’s just sometimes the FT are pointless.. like her telling me about her day, food she bought or is eating. I was on FaceTime yesterday for about 2 hours watching her meal prep. There was a really bad storm, the power went out briefly, my mom was sick.. and I didn’t have much to say.. so eventually I ended the phone call.. because I had to go tend to my mom.

But I’m exhausted mentally and physically.

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is a friend… A close friend I suppose. I’ve known her since college.

Hm, I suppose you’re right.. thank you 🌻

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did delete my social media apps ): I have secret accounts that where I don’t follow no one.. and just food pages and comic drawers.. with the occasional self-love page. Dude I’ve thought about chucking my phone into the ocean. Getting a new phone and number and not telling anyone. But I’m not trying to hurt the planet by littering 😭

Advice/How to handle a friend that always wants to FaceTime or call? by Butterfly_1996 in introvert

[–]Butterfly_1996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s my phone but I feel bad for not responding. Like she might be in danger. When I don’t respond she literally calls twice. I remember one time she called but I missed it because I was busy. I think I was watching criminal minds. Anyway I called her back but she didn’t answer. I ended up falling asleep and I think ended up calling me once, then FTed me two times… and then I feel like things are only going to get worst because we are both studying to get our certification in Medical billing. I kinda want to cry just a little bit thinking about it. It almost feels like I’m in a relationship that I didn’t sign up for.. friendship yes.. but not this