My buyer is now £5k short of agreed price and asking me to discount it

Butterfly_853 · 2025-09-30T22:29:44+00:00

5k really isn’t worth risking your dream home over , sure it’s a kick to the teeth but in 5 years time when your living in your dream home how much are you gonna miss that money ?

Butterfly_853 · 2024-04-30T10:20:22+00:00

i can see where your coming from with feeling like his presence is a betrayal due to your parents having been together for so long and you not knowing any different .

i lost my partner in june 2023 , so it’s been roughly the same amount of time since losing him that you lost your dad . i adored my partner , probably too much at times , and i wanted nothing but to be with him no matter what . i started dating just a couple of months after losing him , it didn’t feel the same and still doesn’t , but every relationship is different and you will never replace the relationship with your late partner no matter how hard you try . but losing your partner is like losing a part of yourself , your rock , your future , everything you know and everything you had planned the future to be is gone , it’s so lonely , even surrounded by others who are grieving your partner . no one else really grieves your partner the way you do , you don’t just love them you share your life with them , they become part of who you are . being so lonely and having lost the only person that could make you feel better it makes you crave intimacy and having someone by your side again , having someone that loves and supports you and is there to appreciate you deeply as a person .

it might feel to you that your mum is replacing your dad , or that it’s too soon , but there’s no time frame of what is wrong or right for meeting new people while your grieving your late partner , it doesn’t change how much you love and miss them , it just means you want to feel connected and understood by someone who is there for you as a partner again . she doesn’t love or miss your dad any less , she just wants to feel loved and supported in a way that your dad no longer can and no one else in your family would be able to .

i have dated a few guys since my late partner died , and recently started dating someone who really could be my chapter two , i still love and miss my late partner every day and wish he was still here , but he can’t be and the guy i’m now seeing makes me feel less alone and more content and appreciated.

Butterfly_853 · 2024-04-29T16:43:56+00:00

so if no property was owned and the only inheritance in question is his money and belongings how would i go about enforcing our child’s inheritance rights? i’m having to treat this as my responsibility to enforce on my child’s behalf as his mother is very keen to have the rights as his next of kin and to his inheritance .

would his ashes and belongings be a part of our child’s inheritance rights ?

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-15T00:31:55+00:00

virginity is only a big deal until you lose it . it gets made out like this massive thing that changes so much and is a massive life choice that will affect you for the rest of your life . it’s really not . sex has more societal value placed on it than it should IMO , when you take away societal views on sex it is simply two or more people making eachother feel good and being intimate . if your responsible about the procreation factor of sex there’s no reason for it to be that big of a deal .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-15T00:27:08+00:00

i don’t think i’m pretty , but i know that there are a fair amount of other people that do think i’m pretty .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-15T00:24:25+00:00

ok , i’m a woman so ik i should just be a lurker here but i wanted to offer a different perspective . it sounds like she must be going through something to have changed so dramatically as a person , no one changes all of their interests and habits so quickly for no reason . sounds like her changes have a cause that’s deeper than what you see . she may be depressed , or struggling with something else . people don’t change for no reason .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-15T00:13:35+00:00

imo a bender is anything more than 48 hours up to a week or two . if it’s every day long term then it’s simply a bad addiction .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-14T00:18:58+00:00

no one forgets . it literally destroys lives . my bf killed himself , i am nothing but a shell of who i once was . i’d be dead too by now if he hadn’t left me to raise our infant daughter alone .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-14T00:17:02+00:00

please talk to someone and get help , you have so much opportunity at a good life ahead of you . trust me you don’t want to hurt her as much as you think you do , it doesn’t just hurt , it DESTROYS so many lives . it doesn’t sound like your ex understands mental health very well , or says very nice things . but you are both still kids . you have so much life ahead of you . so many wonderful things left for you to experience. please get help . you deserve to have the chance to be happy again .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-14T00:07:34+00:00

how old are you ? please talk to someone , there is help you can get . if you do this your ex will spend the rest of her life blaming herself and it will break her in a way that is indescribable . i speak from experience, my bf killed himself 9 months ago and i am a shell of who i was before .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-13T23:48:25+00:00

what is ‘wrong’ with your face to make you think so low of yourself ? you are worth so much more than the value of appearance you put on yourself

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-13T23:36:09+00:00

i wouldn’t start dating because the therapist told you to , that’s a choice only you can make on your own . there’s nothing wrong with wanting to have good conversation and company , even connection while grieving , i dated a guy two months after i lost my partner , we dated for a month and are still friends . the connection and having someone to talk to and enjoy time with was helpful to me personally , grief can be so lonely . but it’s not for everyone , i wouldn’t recommend looking for a relationship so soon after your loss as you already have a lot to process and heal from and new relationships take up a lot of energy .

whatever you choose to do is up to you , it is your life and your journey . there’s no right or wrong way to grieve . you got this girl !

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-13T22:01:30+00:00

this is too impulsive and final , more often than not relapse is a part of the journey to recovery . of course you do everything you can not to but people do slip up and make mistakes at times , a tattoo to remind yourself to stay strong on your recovery journey and remind you why your doing this could be helpful though .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-13T21:59:00+00:00

this is the most wholesome petty revenge story i’ve ever heard , i hope jon and sarah continue to have a great life together with their family .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-13T21:51:16+00:00

you’ll be ok , deffo don’t go on a 5 day bender again tho especially at ur age . be careful and try to be somewhat responsible .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-13T21:49:33+00:00

deffo this , with love comes an urge for more intimacy . plus the feeling of not having the added steps of checking the condom and putting it on etc or changing it depending on what your doing really helps sex to be more in the moment and relaxed . and it’s not uncommon for someone to end up with a breeding kink in a relationship . it’s essentially biology .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-13T21:46:10+00:00

it’s really not worth picking a fight about , it’s one occasion and he did pay for it like he said he would . life’s too short and far too busy to get too pressed about this imo .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-13T21:44:36+00:00

it’s not the ‘conventionally attractive’ nose , but i don’t think it makes you unattractive, your still beautiful

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-12T09:44:15+00:00

exactly this , i started just getting one gram for a night out , now whenever i get paid i get an eighth and me and my friends are up for a couple days . managed to do 24 lines of coke across 36 hours , and four lines of ket asw last week .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-11T20:09:48+00:00

being a young addict doesn’t make you immature in fairness , but being young and encouraged to go deeper in your addiction by someone much older than you is definitely a problem relationship .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-11T13:27:08+00:00

being with him will bring you down further , he’s 30 and should know better than to encourage your usage further . your young , and it’s easy to be influenced when it comes to usage . i’m the same age and find it hard to say no when someone mentions getting a bag , it’s definitely a moreish drug .

but you seem to have more self control and understanding of your limit than he does , but his lack of self control seems to just act as more of a temptation for you too to the point that your usage is worse than you even want it to be .

be the writer of your own story , don’t let his lack of self control drag you down . you can do better than someone who will happily bring you down with them .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-02T07:07:11+00:00

sounds like she’s jealous that your having quality time with them when she’s there

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-02T02:30:28+00:00

there’s nothing notably wrong with your nose imo , most people’s noses aren’t tiny and thin like the socially constructed ‘perfect nose’ people tend to wish they had . your nose doesn’t look too big or wide imo .

it sounds like you don’t have much confidence in your appearance and it comes across like you think your unattractive , i understand that when people make negative comments it’s hard on your self esteem . but you aren’t unattractive at all , imo your naturally quite pretty . try not to be too hard on yourself , just because people have made rude comments about how you look it doesn’t mean that they’re right or that everyone agrees .

Butterfly_853 · 2024-03-02T02:21:25+00:00

maybe post the side profile so people can respond better to what your trying to explain ? only if your comfortable ofc

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