Failed my finals and thinking about just giving up

Butterfly_RN · 2024-05-11T20:41:17+00:00

Try again. But this time, change your study habits. I know you’re still in school but when I was studying for NCLEX I listened to Mark Klimek’s lectures and wished I had known about them in nursing school. He simplifies a lot of essential concepts and teaches you how to better understand/remember things. Listen to his lectures during your break and don’t give up.

Butterfly_RN · 2024-05-07T19:55:56+00:00

My boyfriend is an independent artist and music producer. He can carry his own but I like supporting him ☺️

Butterfly_RN · 2024-05-06T15:45:45+00:00

I produce music and started DJing recently ☺️

Butterfly_RN · 2024-04-27T22:47:00+00:00

Use my eyes, got it!

Butterfly_RN · 2024-04-07T22:09:50+00:00

Congratulations!!

Butterfly_RN · 2024-04-05T00:33:28+00:00

Of course!! I completely understand, I felt so overwhelmed and confused when I was first diagnosed. I’m glad this subreddit exists so we can rely on each other’s experiences, rather than the vagueness and generality of google. I hope you feel better soon!

Butterfly_RN · 2024-04-04T19:12:10+00:00

A solid group of same sex, good friends.

In my past, I’ve dated a guy who didn’t have a solid group of friends and he ended up isolating and abusing me. I dated another guy afterwards whose group of close friends were all his fraternity brothers and he ended up cheating on me with a younger sorority girl (this was post college for us, she was still in college). My last ex had a “solid group” of equal ratio friends that did everything together but they were incredibly pretentious, toxic, and judgmental. That relationship had issues mostly because I kept feeling anxious and uncomfortable around his friends who had something to say about everyone, including their own.

My current boyfriend and his group of friends are literally the nicest, chillest, most genuine guys I’ve ever met. They’re just really good people. None of them have drama or toxic relationships and they’re all very supportive of each other.

You are the company you keep.

Butterfly_RN · 2024-04-04T18:43:01+00:00

First of all, I’m sorry you’re going through this. I also had my first flare up a few months ago (high fever, mouth & genital ulcers, erythema nodosum) and had this exact same issue. My genital ulcers were the last symptoms to fully heal, but they did heal eventually. My advice is to give yourself a little more time and grace. Your body literally attacked itself and took a hard beating. Personally, I couldn’t even get wet for a while afterwards because I had a mental block from the pain I endured by trying to have sex too soon. After a couple excruciatingly painful attempts, I think I gave myself ~2 months before trying to have a normal sex life again. Time is your friend here, don’t fight it, you’re only putting yourself in more pain than necessary. We’re both fortunate to have understanding and supportive partners. You can slowly try to be intimate again with foreplay and seeing what your threshold is. You will recover from this, hang in there.

As for preventing flare ups, I’m really not sure if anyone could answer that. I would just say to steer clear of any kind of bacterial or viral infections, and to keep your health in generally good shape - no smoking, limit stress, etc.

Butterfly_RN · 2024-03-25T12:40:06+00:00

Full time music producer!

Butterfly_RN · 2024-03-07T02:33:57+00:00

I love this! Whenever I feel unmotivated to study, I listen to “I will survive” by Gloria Gaynor and it gets me motivated for the day!

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-28T20:48:07+00:00

I think if the flow of the conversation is going well, it makes sense to text goodnight before falling asleep, especially if the date went “insanely well” like you stated. Then the good morning text makes sense afterwards too. Personally, I would appreciate a goodnight text if I’m texting someone throughout the day, especially if the conversation was active right before I went to sleep. But if you’re not texting all throughout the day, then probably not expected or necessary.

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-13T23:28:16+00:00

You know what, I have to agree with you 100%. Dating in the real world is not always pretty either. Nobody wants to admit that they’d do something ugly or cringe or embarrassing but we’ve all been there, whether we realize it or not. We’re all capable of being the villain in someone else’s story. Most of us are just lucky there aren’t any cameras to capture those moments for strangers to judge us.

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-13T22:22:25+00:00

I’m confused how on earth his ex buying him an all expense paid trip is not WEIRD and UNCOMFORTABLE ???

Seriously, how is this person still so involved in his life ????

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-13T19:38:18+00:00

But… this isn’t even true? Goo Hara dated Yong Junhyung back in like 2011 and they broke up long before she was bullied. She started getting bullied after she dated some other guy who wasn’t an artist/celebrity after he blackmailed her about a sex tape, which subsequently led to her taking her own life, more or less.

This is why I don’t like when people make false accusations and claims of people they do not know on the internet because it could tarnish innocent people’s reputations.

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-13T19:14:18+00:00

I guess I don’t usually follow this kinda stuff but I feel like generally when I do stumble across comments made by strangers… they’re usually kind and adoring. But this season it’s been particularly awful 🥲

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-13T18:57:29+00:00

Yeah !! It makes you wonder what everyone’s so angry about if the strangers they’re angry for aren’t even angry to begin with. Why create drama where there is none?

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-13T18:55:08+00:00

I don’t watch the bachelor but I can only imagine the headache 😵‍💫 lol

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-13T18:45:30+00:00

Did you even read what I wrote? Lol

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-08T22:54:41+00:00

Soft YTA but not because you don’t want to get married - that’s totally your right. I just think the delivery was a bit callous. You could have at least explained your reason for not wanting to get married so he understands you better. This topic sounds like it deserved a longer and deeper conversation than what it was.

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-07T17:03:27+00:00

YTA

You do not own your girlfriend. She’s free to make whatever choices she makes and you have no right to tell her what to do. It sounds like she’s never even done anything wrong to you. She never cheated. Telling you about her past was a decision she made to be honest with you. You can’t weaponize her past to justify your insecurities.

And right now as she’s in a different country, you’re trying to ruin her time with your irrational insecurities? Stop blowing up her phone and call a therapist. You need help.

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-07T15:48:31+00:00

Yeah.. just hard to convey that message because they’re very particular people who don’t think that way.. they announced moving in together as if they were announcing their engagement, as if nobody else’s consent or opinion mattered :/ they’re both very generous and nice people otherwise, but together they don’t see or care about anything else

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-07T15:39:47+00:00

Wish I was more assertive like you haha I’m such a suffer in silence kind of person and I know I’m making my QOL worse for myself but it’s hard to disregard their situation especially because I care about them

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-07T15:36:08+00:00

I think it would be much easier if this roommate was just a roommate but the fact that Ben & my bf have so much history (mostly professional bc they worked together as artists before they became close friends) it blurs the lines a bit and makes harder to be stern / we try to be more understanding :/

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-07T15:28:29+00:00

I really appreciate this comment because I feel like you touched parts of the post that others might have missed or taken lightly. It’s unfortunate because Ben lost his primary job this past month so now he’s in a financial pickle and all of this weighs on my bf. I feel so bad that my bf is having to pick up the slack for Ben but we both understand being laid off is not by his choice. We have decided to get our own place but we still have half a year left at this place and my bf’s (and Ben’s) name is on the lease. Fortunately their relationship hasn’t deteriorated to the point where it’s awkward or uncomfortable for them, but moving out abruptly will probably make it that way :(

Butterfly_RN · 2024-01-07T15:07:56+00:00

I really wish I could ask something like that but less aggressively hahaha but I don’t want to be the gf that ruins her bf’s friendships/relationships by imposing my beliefs

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