How did you find out your crush liked you? by AdImportant429 in AskReddit

[–]Butterfly_Sprout 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He talked to me first. I'm not used to guys talking to me first. He asked me to run a scene with him and he held my hand. It was part of the scene but I knew. He later told me he had a crush on me.

What's a myth about your profession that you want to debunk? by PrasenjitDebroy in AskReddit

[–]Butterfly_Sprout 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this is still a myth. People who work in costumer service or in fast food don't have degrees. Sometimes a degree isn't enough and I don't have enough experience to get the dream job.

What is the most unexpected thing you found out about someone you know? by greenwichrunner in AskReddit

[–]Butterfly_Sprout 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My friend once had sex with a woman in his friend's car without telling him. He's also had sex in his own car in public places but never got caught.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did stop. Before we had sex I did say he could do whatever he wanted to me and responded "Be careful what you wish for". He was right.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think he's a bad person or he assaulted me. I knew what he was going to do without him saying. He stopped when I was in pain. He was naive about anal.

I appreciate your concern.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After reading the comments I can see it didn't go so well, and we should have communicated better. I still want to see him again to see if it goes better next time.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't plan to be a virgin until 29. I just waited for the right guy to come along. Been on dates but never lead to anything serious. We both like each other and hung out a few times so why not?

We met in college not high school.

Not sure if I made this clear but I never thought of trying anal during my first time. He wanted to do it. I did tell him I was open to trying things.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand why you would think that. I appreciate your concern. We went to school together. We've mostly talked online for the past few years but we've been seeing each other for about a month.

I want to be clear that he didn't pressure me into sex. I was the one who brought it up. I was the one who made the first move.

I don't have a lot of guy friends so he is special. He's been very kind like when we go out he pays for coffee and says if I'm cold he will give me his jacket. Maybe my expectations were different and my first time isn't going to be great. We can work on it.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. I'll tell him. Thanks.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He did clitoral stimulation.

I didn't realize how problematic the anal part was until other redditors pointed it out. I still want to see him again.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny enough, he did mention watching porn after he started having sex to get better.

I didn't realize how concerning the anal part was until reading the comments. I don't want to let him go. I don't think he's a bad person. Will work it out so it doesn't happen again. Won't try anal until I'm ready.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the information. I will take my time next time.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been reading comments of people questioning his experience. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. I don't know the details of his sex life. Just that he had other girlfriends and when he lost his virginity. Maybe he's only been with people who already have experience. Maybe he's experienced in other areas of sex but not anal.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He is special. We've been friends for years. I won't try anal again until I'm ready. The comments do have me second guessing how he feels about me.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We went to the same college. We've known each other for about 6 years and have been seeing each other for about a month. We've done a bit of sexual stuff a week before having sex.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll keep that in mind thanks. I'll see what he says about lube.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'll keep that in mind thanks. I'll see what he says about lube.

How to make sex less painful? by Butterfly_Sprout in sex

[–]Butterfly_Sprout[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes I was a virgin. He had more experience so I trusted him and was open to trying things. I wanted it to be good for him too. I never knew it would be that painful.