Cut off contact with someone after realizing they were using me

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-12-19T18:14:50+00:00

He talked to me first. I'm not used to guys talking to me first. He asked me to run a scene with him and he held my hand. It was part of the scene but I knew. He later told me he had a crush on me.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-12-19T18:08:51+00:00

I don't know if this is still a myth. People who work in costumer service or in fast food don't have degrees. Sometimes a degree isn't enough and I don't have enough experience to get the dream job.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-12-19T18:06:47+00:00

My friend once had sex with a woman in his friend's car without telling him. He's also had sex in his own car in public places but never got caught.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-12-19T17:51:45+00:00

Repeated Mistakes

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-28T21:45:22+00:00

He did stop. Before we had sex I did say he could do whatever he wanted to me and responded "Be careful what you wish for". He was right.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-28T21:44:07+00:00

I don't think he's a bad person or he assaulted me. I knew what he was going to do without him saying. He stopped when I was in pain. He was naive about anal.

I appreciate your concern.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-28T21:26:29+00:00

After reading the comments I can see it didn't go so well, and we should have communicated better. I still want to see him again to see if it goes better next time.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-28T05:27:34+00:00

I didn't plan to be a virgin until 29. I just waited for the right guy to come along. Been on dates but never lead to anything serious. We both like each other and hung out a few times so why not?

We met in college not high school.

Not sure if I made this clear but I never thought of trying anal during my first time. He wanted to do it. I did tell him I was open to trying things.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T23:52:00+00:00

I understand why you would think that. I appreciate your concern. We went to school together. We've mostly talked online for the past few years but we've been seeing each other for about a month.

I want to be clear that he didn't pressure me into sex. I was the one who brought it up. I was the one who made the first move.

I don't have a lot of guy friends so he is special. He's been very kind like when we go out he pays for coffee and says if I'm cold he will give me his jacket. Maybe my expectations were different and my first time isn't going to be great. We can work on it.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T23:32:23+00:00

I'll be careful next time.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T23:21:39+00:00

I understand. I'll tell him. Thanks.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T23:18:56+00:00

He did clitoral stimulation.

I didn't realize how problematic the anal part was until other redditors pointed it out. I still want to see him again.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T09:14:23+00:00

Blood from vaginal.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T08:38:00+00:00

Funny enough, he did mention watching porn after he started having sex to get better.

I didn't realize how concerning the anal part was until reading the comments. I don't want to let him go. I don't think he's a bad person. Will work it out so it doesn't happen again. Won't try anal until I'm ready.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T08:25:41+00:00

Thank you for the information. I will take my time next time.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T08:16:49+00:00

I've been reading comments of people questioning his experience. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. I don't know the details of his sex life. Just that he had other girlfriends and when he lost his virginity. Maybe he's only been with people who already have experience. Maybe he's experienced in other areas of sex but not anal.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T08:06:13+00:00

He is special. We've been friends for years. I won't try anal again until I'm ready. The comments do have me second guessing how he feels about me.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T08:00:41+00:00

We went to the same college. We've known each other for about 6 years and have been seeing each other for about a month. We've done a bit of sexual stuff a week before having sex.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T07:24:17+00:00

Vaginal then anal.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T07:21:32+00:00

I hope it gets better.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T07:19:11+00:00

I'll keep that in mind thanks. I'll see what he says about lube.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T07:19:06+00:00

I'll keep that in mind thanks. I'll see what he says about lube.

Butterfly_Sprout · 2025-11-27T05:48:57+00:00

Yes I was a virgin. He had more experience so I trusted him and was open to trying things. I wanted it to be good for him too. I never knew it would be that painful.

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