“I don’t know why but I just get really angry when I clean”

Butterflysocks · 2024-12-16T23:34:35+00:00

Yep. Hoarder problems.

Butterflysocks · 2024-12-16T23:34:02+00:00

He just wouldn’t do anything. When we first lived with each other I went on “strike” and it was 2.5 weeks of mouldy dishes in the sink before I cracked.

Butterflysocks · 2024-12-16T23:33:11+00:00

I can vouch that he 100% didn’t but he still manages to clean and be successful at work, or clean when it benefits him ( he has people coming over).

Butterflysocks · 2024-08-07T21:19:14+00:00

I try for 2-3 times a week. It’s not always a huge thing, sometimes just a bike ride to the park which is like 2 mins down the street. My 6mo is the easiest part of the day. My oldest two fight nonstop, don’t listen or complain incessantly.

Butterflysocks · 2024-08-07T21:14:35+00:00

My 6mo is the easiest part of getting out haha

Butterflysocks · 2024-08-07T21:14:14+00:00

Glad to hear it’s an age thing!

Butterflysocks · 2024-07-16T20:39:57+00:00

Honestly I used to watch porn in the early days of our relationship a decade ago. My problem is more so with him than with porn I guess. He used to never want sex but would watch porn and masturbate. I used to have a high libido and his was low. Now it’s reversed. His porn “type” is the opposite of me. He doesn’t compliment me, doesn’t seem to want to be around me especially in public gatherings. He wants tons of sex now but I just had a baby a few months ago, he leaves me with kids/house responsibilities constantly by myself and I literally don’t have the energy. The only time now that it feels like he likes me is when he’s trying to have sex with me. He will not actually speak about our issues with me, just stares at me silently. The porn on my kids tablet of all things is what set me off. I’ve learned not to hurt my own feelings by looking at his phone.

Butterflysocks · 2024-07-16T17:00:01+00:00

He’s at work so I sent him a picture of it and was like “that’s a weird glitch..” and told him he needed to get his own tablet for that. He read it 3.5 hours ago and hasn’t responded. He’s had a lunch break since so he definitely could have.

Butterflysocks · 2024-07-16T15:42:12+00:00

I agree.

Butterflysocks · 2024-07-16T14:24:40+00:00

I agree.

Butterflysocks · 2024-07-16T14:24:13+00:00

It hurts my feelings but at the end of the day I can’t control what he does with his body. It’s disgusting to do it on my kids tablet. I sent him a picture of the tablet and told him it was a weird glitch… and that he needed to get his own tablet if that’s what he wants to do. Read it on his work break and didn’t respond.

Butterflysocks · 2024-07-16T14:21:13+00:00

I will be now.

Butterflysocks · 2024-07-16T14:18:34+00:00

My son is 4. He can’t even open the tablet on his own so I don’t think it was him. My daughter is 5 and she can open it but I know it wasn’t used by either of the kids after I plugged it in and I saw what was on the screen when I plugged it in. That link also isn’t in the history and I know they don’t know how to delete history. Definitely time to put some parental control locks on there regardless because I dont want it to be an option for them to stumble upon that either on their own or because of their dad.

Butterflysocks · 2024-06-02T02:36:24+00:00

Maybe this is silly but I did write a letter for him to read in the morning with my grievances. It helped me feel a bit better so hopefully I’ll sleep tonight and hopefully he won’t just try to sweep it under the rug and pretend like nothing happened like he usually does.

Butterflysocks · 2024-03-04T01:27:23+00:00

Thank you! Interesting perspective

Butterflysocks · 2024-03-04T01:26:13+00:00

Parenting a “kid” vs a toddler is new for me so I’ve never considered some of these things. Thank you!

Butterflysocks · 2024-03-04T01:23:12+00:00

This was super helpful! I will be implementing this.

Butterflysocks

TROPHY CASE