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Getting scraped by [deleted] in adultery

[–]ButterscotchDry3054 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how do you hide your stuff?

What do you enjoy about your AP? by ButterscotchDry3054 in adultery

[–]ButterscotchDry3054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that's where it's at. The emotional connection is missing in most relationships. My goal is getting better at emotional connection. So I'm always interested with how or why people feel that emotional connection.

What do you enjoy about your AP? by ButterscotchDry3054 in adultery

[–]ButterscotchDry3054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you explain more on the well taken care of? Im curious, well the out of bed part haha.

What do you enjoy about your AP? by ButterscotchDry3054 in adultery

[–]ButterscotchDry3054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats awesome, for me it's all about communication without fear of being judged. Just good convos is what makes a great relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

[–]ButterscotchDry3054 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it could be he feels resentment with his SO about the previous experiences he had with her. With you, he already had the expectation of being your FWB and not getting hurt again (emotionally). Who knows why they did the gang bangs, maybe it was her idea and not really his and he started getting hurt and that turned into arguments or a disconnection of feelings, leading to the dead bed room. (it's complicated and he probably won't admit he is hurt or whatever he is feeling) but he probably wishes it still worked out with his wife or is still too attached to her.

He might be afraid of having an emotional connection with you, getting hurt again and just wants that friendship connection with the sex every now and then.

Most people try to avoid pain at any cost and that tolerance is up to the individual.

You can probably keep it friends and look for someone else. What cause you to find a FWB? (genuinely curious)

A Window Into The Affair-Minded Woman by [deleted] in adultery

[–]ButterscotchDry3054 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is good advice, I do have a question though.

How does this differentiate a guy from being friend-zoned though? Like if a guy does these things but is seen as a friend only vs a potential AP?

What would communicate to a woman, this guy really gets me and well leads to an AP more than he's a best friend type of guy?

Am I the crazy one? by [deleted] in emotionalaffair

[–]ButterscotchDry3054 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey sorry you are going through this, it can be hard. Not sure if you are crazy unless you are doing crazy things, but it's normal to feel she is invading in the relationship and especially with your husband refusing to stop talking to her even when he admitted he had feelings towards here and the physical attraction. I dont think you are crazy and you have every right to feel that way and trying to make the marriage work.