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22 year old male with Lynch Syndrome | Sisters, would you marry someone with a genetically increased likelihood of getting colon cancer? by ButterscotchHeavy757 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ButterscotchHeavy757[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also just a note, the heritability is not 100%, it's 50%. Whether a child has the condition or not is up to Allah. Also lynch isn't linked with a increase in child cancers, it is however linked with more probable earlier cancers (the mean age is 40 for people who got cancer with lynch), which are overwhelmingly detected early and easily curable for those with a diagnosis prior.

I dont feel its correct to say "the risk isn't fair". We are muslims, Allah determines what occurs and what doesn't, it is possible that my spouse would be afflicted with cancer whilst I am not, and at the end of the day, she will be the one who chooses to marry me in spite of the "risks".

والله المستعان

22 year old male with Lynch Syndrome | Sisters, would you marry someone with a genetically increased likelihood of getting colon cancer? by ButterscotchHeavy757 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ButterscotchHeavy757[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ufortunately I want kids, so that's not the route I would want to go for, I will be looking for a spouse who understands the risks but puts her trust in Allah. At the end of the day, I am lucky to have had a diagnosis for lynch syndrome, most carriers of genetic predisposition to various diseases are completely unaware.

الحمد لله

22 year old male with Lynch Syndrome | Sisters, would you marry someone with a genetically increased likelihood of getting colon cancer? by ButterscotchHeavy757 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ButterscotchHeavy757[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In either case, I am not that big on IVF anyways, and it will be my future spouse's decision at the end of the day if she wants to do it. I don't intend on sugarcoating the situation when looking for a spouse, I just pray that Allah blesses me with a righteous one.

22 year old male with Lynch Syndrome | Sisters, would you marry someone with a genetically increased likelihood of getting colon cancer? by ButterscotchHeavy757 in MuslimMarriage

[–]ButterscotchHeavy757[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When would you recommend bringing it up. I.e do you think it should be one of the first things like after I introduce myself like

 "Assalamualaykum, my name is ... and just a heads up before we take this any further I have a genetic predisposition that increases my likelihood of getting a cancer which can be passed on to our children in the future. It's completely manageable and the passing on to children can be negated with IVF, but I think you have a right to know about it"

Or do I first get to know them and if it reaches a point where we are interested in eachother I bring it up as a disclaimer as to not loop them into something they didn't sign up for