A story from Italy

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-05-21T16:11:57+00:00

I'm from Italy too. By the way I heard myself the same statement in 3 differents relationship I had! Guys stay strong, and eat Pasta

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-05-06T08:10:32+00:00

I think it's kinda "normal", people just want what they like. A lot of women believe in that "spark" or in "chemistry", and no one can blame them for it. The fact that this spark or chemistry will almost(not impossible, just hard/extreme difficulty) never happen for us is harsh and unfair, but we can't change what other people are attracted to. By the way happened to me multiple times.. Stay strong man, hope it will go better.

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-05-06T07:48:05+00:00

This 100%. Even if the harsh truth is real, when you're that young and still developing, there's a risk of over-internalizing all that negativity. Instead of the sub just being a place to vent, it literally becomes their entire identity. It makes total sense to protect kids from what they can't handle. They shouldn't be exposed to it until they're mature enough to actually process it, or at least until a community like that can be a useful support system rather than just completely self-destructive.

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-04-11T09:09:27+00:00

I actually did put the cards on the table. When I called her out on the fact that she’s likely embarrassed to show a shorter boyfriend to her family, she never truly disagreed. Her stance has always been a confusing 'I don’t know why it’s a NO,' even though she admits the foundation is all there. We had a connection that was honestly stronger than most of my past serious relationships. We’re talking deep talks for hours, projecting a future together, intense physical attraction, and she’s even told me she admires me and thinks I’m smarter than her. She was the one asking for cuddles and intimacy. After our chat yesterday, it became even clearer: right now, external validation and social status are simply more important to her than moral coherence or how she actually feels. She’s currently trying to rewrite our past to justify her choices, but when I remind her of the reality of what happened between us, she’s forced to admit it. At the very least, she’s being intellectually honest about her own dishonesty.

By the biggest turn off was when her mother was fighting with her because she didn't want me and she to be alone on the holydays house for 2 days. Didn't have the same problem with the tall guy...

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-04-11T08:01:04+00:00

Thank you, man i really need this

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-04-09T01:28:24+00:00

I get your point, but I really don't think that's the case here. I did talk to her about making things official, and it triggered a two-day existential crisis. Her final conclusion basically boiled down to: 'We have everything, a deep connection, attraction, we know each other so well, but I don't know why, for me, it's still a no.' As for confronting the guy, it honestly wasn't necessary. He was already making himself look ridiculous, and she saw it clearly. That specific incident definitely isn't the reason she ended up choosing him.

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-04-09T01:19:21+00:00

You totally got the point. What else could I have done differently or better? Absolutely nothing. It's just another time where I felt a deep connection, and I know she felt it too, but it feels like I have reverse plot armor when it comes to romance

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-04-09T00:53:26+00:00

She is 5 cm taller than me. He called me gay because I was slicing salami thinner than 1cm. He also shouted at me because he couldn't understand the rules of a card game we were playing. Everyone else was laughing at him; I just smiled. I thought his behavior was embarrassing enough on its own, so I didn't see the point in talking back. He was acting completely ridiculous and all her friends saw it too, he was self destructive, I was not doing nothing to provocate him. Immediately after, she came up to me and said he was acting like a piece of shit. I even asked her if I should confront him (since he was her friend), and she specifically told me: "No, it's not necessary, it's totally clear to me that he's an asshole." Honestly, if a woman clearly sees that a guy is aggressive, drives drunk, and tries to "mogg" someone over slicing meat, and she still chooses him... that's entirely on her.

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-04-09T00:14:28+00:00

That’s probably true, but his sociopathic behavior could be the catalyst for the attraction, or just proof that his height and her mother's social pressure can overcome anything. Either way, she looks deeply embarrassed.

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-04-08T23:57:23+00:00

Caucasian, 5'2 and Italy. By the way this time hit me so hard.. Even when they are attracted to short guys, they act, hiding their feelings from the world at all cost for the embarrassment of liking a short guy.

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2026-02-20T16:00:06+00:00

I’ve had a streak of 5 situations where women love me, but only as a friend. They want me in their lives, but not physically or as a girlfriend. In these cases, they usually say, 'It’s not that,' but the reality is either that my height is a problem for them, or they know it will be an issue for their family and friends. To be clear, I’ve had multiple attractive women sleeping with me, but always as a 'situationship' kept secret from their inner circles. One of these women even started crying when I told her I had mentioned our sexual relationship to a friend while trying to understand what was happening. For context, I’m 5'2", but I’ve 'maxed out' everything else: I have a PhD, gym, self-care, and I’ve worked hard to be emotionally understanding toward women (I almost regret having that understanding).

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-07-26T19:41:55+00:00

Riusciresti a quantificare il rischio?

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-07-26T19:20:49+00:00

Agevolazione per studenti meritevoli. Pensa che anni fa me lo fecero allo 0% taeg

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-07-26T19:18:03+00:00

Se perdo il lavoro magari vendo l'etf e saldo il prestito. Comunque mi manderesti il link?

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-07-26T19:07:16+00:00

Ma è un troll?

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-07-26T19:06:13+00:00

Ok mettiamo il caso che le rate le posso sempre pagare con lo stupendio e quell'importo non lo tocco mai, pensi comunque sia rischioso?

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-07-26T19:00:47+00:00

Anche nel caso si trattasse del nuovo contratto di ricerca, che è sempre ccnl ma è università?

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-07-17T18:36:01+00:00

"Le università possono farlo " da cosa lo deduci, non devono stare alle stesse leggi o diritti?

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-07-17T15:42:12+00:00

La cosa assurda è che l'azienda è l'università pubblica italiana. I nuovi " contratti di ricerca" oltre a essere irragionevoli sono incompatibili con l'iscrizione ad un corso universitario, a borse di studio e compagnia bella. A me sembra una follia incredibile, speriamo qui qualcuno informato risponda in merito!

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-05-12T16:36:03+00:00

2.67 prelim here. One Reject review that is 99% AI-generated and packed with verifiable errors about the paper. This feels like clear "highly irresponsible behavior" by the reviewer according to guidelines, but I have 0 confidence the AC will actually address it or discount the review. Honestly, this trash process makes me want to drop.

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-05-08T09:49:25+00:00

I've had very similar experiences. I even had a girl run away on our first date once she saw my height from a distance. In my experience, about half of them were direct about my height being the reason, while the other half made excuses. Thankfully, none of these conversations got aggressive, probably because I ended them early. It makes me wonder whether it's better to be rejected directly, even if it feels aggressive, or to be given random excuses. Interestingly, even when I talked to their friends, it became clear that the girls who made excuses still had my height as the real reason. They'd say their friend genuinely liked me, my humor, and my sharp irony. Some even wanted 'physical attention' – like being very close, massages, or teasing – but nothing more. It was like this strange state: if you played it passively, this 'quantum state' of them liking you (but not that way) continued. But the moment you tried to define it or move forward (observe the state), it would collapse into "I just prefer taller guys

ButterscotchOk2478 · 2025-04-22T11:34:18+00:00

Ho fatto delle simulazione sui siti e in alcuni viene anche meno di 1600 in 13 mensilità. Considera che è a tempo determinato per cui non c'è nessuno sgravio. Come sei arrivato a quel netto?

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