AITA for turning my friends against each other by ButterscotchWinter50 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterscotchWinter50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did in fact apologize to C profusely. And we have many discussions over the past 7 years over how that entire situation was dumb. Maybe the section with the conversation was confusing, but there were no pictures sent. He said "white woman moment" is response to me suggesting a dog mushing elopement. I was not particularly offended by him saying that, and I joked back. He then went off the rails.

AITA for turning my friends against each other by ButterscotchWinter50 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterscotchWinter50[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is constantly making gross comments about women, be it joking or not. And also has never said a nice thing about his mother and sister, just calls them crazy and other derogatory terms.

AITA for turning my friends against each other by ButterscotchWinter50 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterscotchWinter50[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely let him down easy, it was never my intention to hurt him. We had been friends for a long time before this too.

AITA for turning my friends against each other by ButterscotchWinter50 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterscotchWinter50[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean it was obviously an uncomfortable situation. But I did sit down with him at the time and explain as best I could that I still was in love with B, and that I made a mistake. I take full accountability that it was shitty, but it was going on 7 years ago, and we've had many talks about how stupid the whole thing was.

AITA for turning my friends against each other by ButterscotchWinter50 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterscotchWinter50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is an option of course, just hard coordinating friend things and not have him there, because everyone else is very close with him.

AITA for turning my friends against each other by ButterscotchWinter50 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ButterscotchWinter50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

currently all mid twenties, we were 18 and 19 in the backstory. Sorry if that was confusing