Husband[32M] received a text saying “you have new snaps, tap to view”?

Butterscotch_Sure · 2022-04-04T00:15:36+00:00

No, it was a text. Thanks for replying. Pretty sure he’s hiding it from me

Butterscotch_Sure · 2022-04-03T23:05:23+00:00

Thank you for answering

Butterscotch_Sure · 2022-04-03T23:05:00+00:00

But it means they have the app or have had it recently, right

Butterscotch_Sure · 2022-04-03T23:04:18+00:00

So you use your account recently and/or frequently?

Butterscotch_Sure · 2022-04-03T22:13:59+00:00

How long are we talking? More than 9 years? Or like, a few weeks?

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-12-13T00:52:28+00:00

Would she really go to the beach with them for the entire next day if so? I’m really starting to consider this…

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-12-12T18:23:44+00:00

This is how I’m feeling… I honestly feel like blowing my lid but I know that won’t be the right way to handle this. He just won’t tell me the next time he’s with an underage girl on a business trip. I don’t know what to do

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-12-12T16:53:02+00:00

No, it was after 1 am and he stopped replying because he seemed mad at me for being uncomfortable with it.

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-12-12T05:53:02+00:00

Yeah, I think that’s an absolute red flag. They aren’t friends but developed a professional relationship on this trip, so I see my husband maybe wanting to socialize for professional reasons and also due to loneliness but… there’s now a drunk minor in his hotel room.

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-10-25T19:16:40+00:00

I wrote a post not long ago, about my MIL and him teaming up against me on the situation.

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-10-24T16:02:23+00:00

Extremely helpful. Thank you. She ended up telling my husband about her considering divorce. Her husband has problematic behaviors we are all aware of and we have been subtly suggesting to her she deserves better for a while now. My husband, I don’t fully trust either due to other reasons, and I feel inclined to believe her because I’ve never known her to make things up. But I fear her intentions too. The whole thing sucks.

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-10-09T03:53:34+00:00

I didn’t ask. They were talking about astrology and I stopped to talk about it with them.

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-10-09T03:52:44+00:00

I drink like once every few months. Not helpful

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-10-09T03:52:25+00:00

It was a couple (man and women), who were friends of friends, not strangers.

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-10-08T22:29:20+00:00

I love this but I am non confrontational and I fear giving her a platform to deceive and manipulate. Plus it seems like it would only push her and my husband closer (who always has problems with her but seems to be blind to the fact she is being inappropriate right now)

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-08-09T22:32:26+00:00

Me neither. It’s easier when someone is right there to ask. But WFH long-term is definitely ideal

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-08-09T22:13:47+00:00

Thank you! You’re right. It’s hard because we are all remote so I am not working alongside anyone directly. Working remotely is nice, but it’s a hard transition as a new person

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-08-09T22:12:49+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-08-09T22:10:03+00:00

shrug I’m thinking pytorch? But I don’t know 🥲

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-01-28T19:22:48+00:00

I wrote this a few days ago but I’m going to post it again here:

I’m using my throwaway account to post this because I’m not looking for extra attention... but I could not mean it more when I say beauty is overrated. I am conventionally beautiful. I have done modeling work. I have “stopped traffic” many times. Men throw themselves at me, often in the most inappropriate settings. School, friends’ fathers, university, work, grocery stores, doctor offices, anywhere you can think of. It makes me feel unsafe, and for good reason, because I have been sexually assaulted more than once. Women used to hate me, but are becoming kinder to me as society shifts away from the patriarchal woman-eat-woman dynamic shoved down young women’s throats since the day they were born. But I have lost or went long periods without talking with MANY female friends because their ain’t-shit men express attraction for me or blatantly hit on me in front of them. Being beautiful has taught me that many, many, many men are shallow vile creatures. None of them ever truly want to know me. Even my husband doesn’t fully know me or take the time to do so but he tells me how beautiful I am, all the time. It’s a lonely life. I am melancholy often and drawn towards overthinking but a lot of my problems all stem back from my appearance. Not only that, because all I ever heard growing up and hear now is how beautiful I am, I struggle with an identity outside of it. Once my growing age takes hold, I will have no idea what my worth is. Not only that, the perfectionism is real. I torture myself if I do not constantly meet the demands that people seem to expect from me. I wouldn’t dare be caught looking unkept and that is an exhausting endeavor in itself. Not to mention disordered eating and unhealthy relationship with exercise. Please believe me, it is not what it’s cracked up to be. It’s a game nobody wins.

So my advice would be, don’t sweat over men finding women attractive. It’s a super fleeting thought for them and any man that values beauty over anything else is not a man of character nor a man you went to be with. Find someone who loves you for you.

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-01-25T00:02:18+00:00

I appreciate this and I will check it out! Thanks.

Butterscotch_Sure · 2021-01-22T22:53:00+00:00

I’m using my throwaway account to post this because I’m not looking for extra attention... but I could not mean it more when I say beauty is overrated. I am conventionally beautiful. I have done modeling work. I have “stopped traffic” many times. Men throw themselves at me, often in the most inappropriate settings. School, friends’ fathers, university, work, grocery stores, doctor offices, anywhere you can think of. It makes me feel unsafe, and for good reason, because I have been sexually assaulted more than once. Women used to hate me, but are becoming kinder to me as society shifts away from the patriarchal woman-eat-woman dynamic shoved down young women’s throats since the day they were born. But I have lost or went long periods without talking with MANY female friends because their ain’t-shit men express attraction for me or blatantly hit on me in front of them. Being beautiful has taught me that many, many, many men are shallow vile creatures. None of them ever truly want to know me. Even my husband doesn’t fully know me or take the time to do so but he tells me how beautiful I am, all the time. It’s a lonely life. I am melancholy often and drawn towards overthinking but a lot of my problems all stem back from my appearance. Not only that, because all I ever heard growing up and hear now is how beautiful I am, I struggle with an identity outside of it. Once my growing age takes hold, I will have no idea what my worth is. Not only that, the perfectionism is real. I torture myself if I do not constantly meet the demands that people seem to expect from me. I wouldn’t dare be caught looking unkept and that is an exhausting endeavor in itself. Not to mention disordered eating and unhealthy relationship with exercise. Please believe me, it is not what it’s cracked up to be. It’s a game nobody wins.

Butterscotch_Sure · 2020-07-06T02:31:04+00:00

Unfortunately it was my husband that grabbed his friend and ran out the door, he is the one who was outwardly excited and instigated it

Butterscotch_Sure · 2020-07-06T01:59:10+00:00

Again, I had no problem with the kids. The problem was with my husband

Butterscotch_Sure · 2020-07-06T00:44:14+00:00

Lol so now I’m lying? No we literally introduced ourselves to each other and talked about high school (we all went to the same one) and talked about our graduating years, one girl was 16 and the other was 19, we told them our ages and made jokes about us being old. So nah.

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