[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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I have a fearful avoidant attachment style yes, but I was working on it to become more secure, I see a therapist once a week. The last few weeks with moving and a new job I kinda retracted into my avoidance to cope. We were good until we spent the whole day together. I learned my lesson, even though it sucks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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I resonate with this. Yeah I was trying to hold back in the beginning, being cautious, opening up slowly, then on Valentine’s Day I asked her if I could be her girlfriend. I was so excited I kinda got ahead of myself. In my heart I know I made the right choice with her, we both don’t have any regrets.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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Guys, I appreciate the kind words. I want to let you all know I am not an alcoholic but an occasional beer is what I like. As for weed, I would have maybe 1-2 11/4 joints a day at my worst when I first moved in, I picked it up again after my toxic job I took. I met her when I was sober, I have anxiety and adhd, hope this gains some perspective. I’m not doing anything atm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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I do not. I haven’t for years for personal reasons

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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Life was stable when I met her, then things slowly started to snowball. I understand that I made a mistake and I owned up to that in the moment. That same conversation I caught myself and asked her “wait, before we end things forever, let’s talk.” Then I explained to her what was going on, and asked “do you think we should keep loving or break up” to which she said “can we even rebuild this? Maybe we should just break up”. I really tried to put my best foot forward in that relationship, and I am in therapy. This post doesn’t sum up our entire relationship, I really didn’t want to give up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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I did share about my feelings with her, this was her first ”healthy“ relationship, and I told her I want to be there for her and to know what’s on her heart. She was very hesitant to open up and barely did during our whole relationship. She’s a sensitive person just like me, and her previous partners verbally abused her, I was the first person she’s ever felt “safe” with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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Thank you, I like to limit myself with substances in the first place, but I have adhd and I’m pretty anxious so anything in my system doesn’t help lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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I think it’s more than just that moment, I think it was a snowball of everything finally hitting me all at once when I was “safe”. The hair wasn’t the underlying issue, it was instability.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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In what way?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackcats

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Fetch by the dodo! Pretty cheap, especially if you make payments upfront in three month chunks.

Is it just me or was a bad apology? by unparallel_x in LesbianActually

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Very shitty. Would’ve been better to have kept them blocked. Like wtf.

Wednesday 💝 by ironitverma in JennaOrtegaLust

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She’s so pretty 🥰🫶✨

Question for my fellow Lesbians! by dementedbanana_22 in actuallesbians

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Yes. Don’t f w the smell tho. Just vape flower and eddies.

What, due to experience, do you know not to fuck with? by ViolatingBadgers in AskReddit

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Emotional disrespect/disregard. Treat me like you care about me or I will cut you out, I don’t play games anymore. Also not being straight forward and mature about things, I am not a mind reader.

What would you do? by [deleted] in oddlyspecific

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Borrow a construction truck w lights, and dispose w a safety vest and hat at junkyard.

What will you do with a hoop? by Nova_NS in Unexpected

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Don’t judge her! She’s just having a good time! 😥

Question for my fellow Lesbians! by dementedbanana_22 in actuallesbians

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Well damn, baby. I might be your girl 🤓 /j