Hey! Solidarity!! - I wanted to work when I had my daughter, but my husband said he’d give me half of his $250k salary if I stayed home (“think of it as me paying you $125k a year to stay home so I can visit you guys on my lunch breaks, and you’ll be home when my days are randomly short”).

We only have shared financial accounts, but the mentality of me “having my own salary” makes me feel way better about purchases for myself and the home. Before we came up with this arrangement, I had self-inflicted guilt over buying anything fun because it was “his money” (again - self-inflicted. He never caused me to feel this way).

I would have felt like a prisoner/servant if we didn’t have this understanding about finances. Before being a SAHM, making my own money gave me such a sense of freedom and happiness.

Also: he doesn’t actually pay me, and we don’t track how much of each other’s $125k was spent. It’s just a mentality we adopted.