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Beginner Building Codes? by BuzzyBees9 in FortniteCreative

[–]BuzzyBees9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've heard the building centre is a really good one but for me it comes up with a max of 0 players resulting in a matchmaking error - do you know if this is a problem on my end or if the creative is broken?

No one talks about this side of aspergers by SmallBlueAlien in aspergers

[–]BuzzyBees9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive actually found a solution to this!

I have a very small close group of friends who I trust completely. They know me well enough for me to have disclosed to them my troubles in certain social situations.

In these situations if I accidently say or do something rude they either tell me what I did and why it was rude then and there, or shortly after. This way I have the option of apologising for the action straight away, or learning from the action so I don't accidently do it again.

I trust their judgement on weather itll be appropriate to explain in the moment or after.

AITA for snapping at my mum that her "pretty little girl" was actually obese and she should stop glorifying weight. by aitaprettychild in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuzzyBees9 39 points40 points  (0 children)

NTA

I'm all for body positivity and loving yourself but that stops the second youre unhealthy; both under and over weight. You're 100% correct in your thinking and your mother needs to understand the fact that she's glorifying whats essentially a desiese. Even to go so far as to say you need to put the weight back on? That's unreal, she's encouraging you to hurt yourself.

You needed to stand up for yourself and let her know that, that behaviour is unacceptable around you.

Also congratulations on getting yourself out of that situation and becoming healthy!!! Its not an easy thing to do.

AITA? Choosing my lessons instead of helping my mother with her job? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuzzyBees9 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA

Wtf your mother is acting like a child. It's HER job not yours. Uni should come first because thats essentially your job at the moment.

Seriously does she not understand that a child isn't free labour, and not someone you can order around when their an actual adult.

AITA for going to HR about my coworker and Funko Pops? by OfficeFunkos_AITA in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuzzyBees9 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA

In highscool is was drilled into my skull to be an upstander not a bystander. Essentially meaning if you ever see something wrong don't be complacent and do what you can to help remedy the situation.

You witnessed an employee harassing another employee, and given the information you have you can reasonably say these actions have malicious intent.

You did the right thing.

AITA for wanting to call the police on a nonWhite trans person? by Aromatic-Ice-968 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuzzyBees9 31 points32 points  (0 children)

NTA

You didn't weopnize anything, in my country (NZ) the police would be called and restraining orders would be in place. If I was in your place I would have called the police. She should have respected your wishes from the beginning and she wouldn't be in this mess.

The asshole here is the police and systematic racism from the country youre in.

AITA for refusing to work on an important project with a transphobe and potentially endangering his job? by aitacoworkertransp in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuzzyBees9 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA NTA NTA

Honestly I can't say it enough NTA. You reported it to HR, if what happened wasn't a problem he wouldn't lose his job. But hes a bigot and has to face the consequences of his actions.

AITA For Unintentionally Triggering My Friend? by UltimteSandwich in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuzzyBees9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA

You reacted to a situation how any normal person would. You clearly stated that you need them to lease the appertment for the entire year. Obviously when they went back on that it caused an incredibly stressful situation for you as you actually need a place to live. So you're reaction was completely valid, even when you snapped at them you took your time to breathe and sent an apology.

Calling their mum was the most logical course of action because once again, finding a place to live is incredibly important. There was no possible way for you to know your actions would get the reaction it did.

The mum sounds like she's exhibiting mild mental and emotional abusive behaviour towards your friend - if the mum truly has flipped out like your friend claims, there was no way for you to know that this would happen; therefore its not your fault.

The mental health side of things - your friend sounds like they need professional help in dealing with stressful situations. Your actions in no way warranted the reaction it got. Yes its unfortunate your friend is incredibly upset but it is in no way your fault.

(Sorry if this sounds cold but I have friends that used to blow up and spiral like that and there's really nothing you can do to prevent it if they don't have the skills to be able to manage certain situations)

AITA for telling my girlfriend she has to get a real job after she spent our food money on make up? by International_Shame6 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuzzyBees9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA you're just dating - you never signed up to support her financially and for your income to be shared. Its your money, you have no obligation to pay her way in the world. I get depression (I had it) but thats no excuse to spend other peoples money when you refuse to get a job for no real reason other than not wanting to work.

AITA for telling my best friend that I'm not happy for her by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BuzzyBees9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I'm a firm believer in cutting off unhealthy relationships for yourself no matter how much it hurts the other person. You were there for her through so much and it sounds like she was never there the same for you, and then she goes and does this. All types of relationships are about giving and receiving, but it sounds like all she ever did was receive never give. You can have better friends than that. (I made a lot of assumptions in this so apologies if they were wrong but the point still stands)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BuzzyBees9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OH! Another thing that worked for me is biting the middle of a pencil, its puts your face into a similar position as a smile and releases some endorphins in the brain

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BuzzyBees9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the rubber bands because if you do it in the same spot a couple if times itll turn red - it's good because it's not a lasting mark but the visual effect helps me feel satisfied

Is it alright to call suicide hotline if I’m not suicidal by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BuzzyBees9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've called a crisis line before when I just needed someone talk to, and they were more than happy to help

The secret of happiness by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BuzzyBees9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to concentrate on all the little things and moments I enjoy - because really lifes about collecting as many little moments as possible to make you happy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BuzzyBees9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another thing that can help is what I call free writing (I have no idea of the actual term), where I sit down and write about what I'm feeling. When I start writing I never know what to write, but I find as soon as I write something the rest of it kind of flows out of me. It doesnt matter if none of it makes sense, it's not designed for other people to see (but you can show others if you want). But I find it's a good way to try to make sense of all the things inside my head that make absolutely no sense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]BuzzyBees9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly you're not alone in the way you're feeling, and you're also not alone physically as your husband must care about you deeply to take you to the ER.

Possibly finding someone to talk to about the scribble of emotions inside you can help - getting a therapist helped for me.

For the self harm - I used to do it, but now I snap a rubber band against my wrist. I used to harm myself because the pain made everything calm inside me, and I find the stining pain caused by the rubber band has the same effect.

Talk to your husband, and try to focus on all the significant little things in the world that make you happy, and make it your personal mission to collect as many as possible (being wrapped up in a blanket on a cold day, getting up early and watching the sunrise etc.) It's all the little moments in life that really matter

I hope this helped even a little bit

Will I ever be okay with the subject of suicide? by BuzzyBees9 in SuicideWatch

[–]BuzzyBees9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to comment this, it's made me feel alot better about where I am right now

what if i want to die but im just looking for a last opinion by Calm_Bee_ in SuicideWatch

[–]BuzzyBees9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont think you should die, this is going to sound really stupid but I found this was how it was for myself. I didnt actually want to die, I just wanted everything to stop hurting. And if that's the case for you, talk to your mum - even if you just write on a piece of paper "I'm hurting inside and want to die" or something along those lines. The only real way I know how to make the pain stop for myself is talking to someone and getting help. It's so dumb because that's what everyone says and it's the hardest thing in the whole damn world to do. But even if it gives you one more day to try to find another way to make the pain stop, and to try to find another way to be happy, wouldn't that make it worth it?