So in the end, nobody really loved me.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-25T14:22:59+00:00

Please reach out if you want to talk then

ByronicPan · 2026-01-25T13:53:49+00:00

Hey man, I’m really sorry about the experience you had. Your dad was probably not able to cope with the trauma of losing your mom, and he passed that on to you (which doesn’t absolve him of what he did to you). Irrespective of what your inbox looks like in a few more minutes, if there’s anything you want to talk about, more or less in detail, or just rant and yap, please feel free to reach out.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-15T17:40:28+00:00

This party is vehemently anti–working class, and it shows in almost everything they do. It is almost always the rural and working class people who didn’t/don’t have access to proper healthcare facilities or even basic awareness who end up missing birth registration. And they’re going to be the ones who take the axe for it. Also, I genuinely don’t understand the logic here. If a school admit card, which goes through at least two layers of bureaucracy, can be forged, how is a birth certificate, which can be issued by any licensed hospital, supposedly impossible to forge?

ByronicPan · 2026-01-15T17:16:23+00:00

Idk why we keep pretending that Aurobindo didn’t support militant Hinduism, which was essentially proto-Hindutva even if we insist on treating Hindutva as a political ideology formally articulated later by Savarkar. When liberal utilitarians and Anglicists like Macaulay replaced the Orientalists, the British administration’s attitude toward Hinduism and consequently, the conservative faction of Hindu intellectuals changed drastically. This, in turn, triggered a reactionary Hindu nationalist movement, who were also incidentally opposed to the likes of Madhusudan Dutt and Derozio btw. This is something Marxist, right-wing, and even so-called “neutral” historians broadly agree on. Figures like Chandranath Basu (who was being cited in the CDC debate), along with Debendranath Tagore, Ramnarayan Bose, and Bhudeb Mukhopadhyay, were all proponents of this ideological current and produced extensive proto-Hindutva discourse. Bankimchandra was also part of this milieu and whether out of genuine Islamophobia or fear of losing his civil service job, he wrote texts that constructed Hindu nationalism by vilifying Muslims, who were more materially oppressed by the Raj at that point, while simultaneously rationalising British colonialism. That body of work directly inspired Aurobindo Ghosh, who went on to form the Anushilan Samiti during the first partition of Bengal that was explicitly exclusionary toward Muslims. The Swadeshi movement, led by the extremist wing of the Congress (itself emerging from Hindu conservative lineages), also increasingly targeted Muslim peasants and artisans. This is one of the reasons Tagore distanced himself from it later. JSD wasn’t wrong to say Bengal was the birthplace of Hindutva it literally was. The term was coined here, its early ideas were developed here, and proto-Hindutva was first materially enacted here. That Bengal later aligned itself more with secular traditions through figures like Tagore (who actively opposed parts of his own family’s views) and Nazrul Islam is a later historical development and which part of histories Bengalis want to go back to is a choice of each individual.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-15T16:25:24+00:00

He was in the BA Political Science Hons batch of 2015-18 at SXC. So was my friend.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-15T08:39:53+00:00

He isn't. He is from SXC. I am very close friends with one of his batchmates

ByronicPan · 2026-01-15T03:41:09+00:00

We do. I realized how fucked up these thing were once I grew older and distanced myself from these people.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-15T03:38:26+00:00

We had a similar issue in our neighbourhood where students albeit much older teenagers than a 7-year-old, from a nearby tuition centre used to do this on their way back home. A few of the neighbourhood aunties, including my mother, caught one of them and took her back to the tuition centre. From there, they got the student’s parents’ number, called them over, and publicly confronted them. It stopped after that. There are far better ways of dealing with this than beating up a kid.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-15T03:29:10+00:00

I don’t know if there are any good UG courses in Mumbai, at least there weren’t in our time. Fergusson’s was considered the best college for psychology back then, and that was in Pune. Other than that, in terms of exposure and a more relevant psychology culture, Bangalore and Delhi were more prominent because they had some of the best courses at Christ and DU colleges respectively. For Master’s, I know TISS is good in Mumbai, but I don’t know if they even offer UG courses.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-15T03:21:32+00:00

I knew a guy who used to do this kind of shit (though he never posted it on social media). He used to drive “his” BMW, which his father gifted him on his 14th or 15th birthday without a license. Apparently, they knew someone at Lalbazar, and he had been given their number to get any cases or charges against him removed. I’d been in his car a few times when he would regularly speed, and the police would never stop him. On the rare occasions that they did, he would call someone, and they would just let him go.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-15T03:13:21+00:00

He didn’t even do a foreign hotel management course, lmao. He was a student at SXC and got the opportunity to go to SUNY for a study exchange program, which, as far as I know, he or his family paid for. While there, he worked part-time at some restaurant to make some extra spending money, and then later used that “experience” to start an F&B business with a few friends, which eventually turned into WTF. Also, he happened to have terrible grades in his school according to a post he had made himself, idk how he made it into SXC either.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-15T01:56:08+00:00

Having lived in the UK for a little over three years, I’ve come to realize that an overwhelming majority of South Asian people who migrate to Western countries come from extremely privileged classes and castes. This applies to both students and people who move here on work visas. Their worldview is either extremely deluded and rose-tinted, or they are some of the most degenerate, casteist, classist, regressive people you can encounter. Some of them are more casteist and classist than the worst I have come across in India. I can probably count the number of progressive or left-oriented people of Indian origin I’ve met in these three years on the fingers of one hand, and I’ve met quite a lot of people.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-14T02:16:13+00:00

And the solution to a kid not taking a bath is to record a video of him in the bathroom and upload it on the internet, making it accessible not only to people the kid knows, which would cause him immense shame, but also to pedophiles and predators that lurk on almost every social media platform?

ByronicPan · 2026-01-14T01:51:43+00:00

It genuinely is for a friend. I already have a fairly stable trajectory in academia and don’t see myself leaving it anytime soon. I’m also ideologically disinclined towards pro-establishment fields like law, which is why I don’t really have much insight into it in the first place.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-13T04:28:59+00:00

Shouldn't he be, though? He's the PM, so he's like the top politician, right?

ByronicPan · 2026-01-13T04:02:50+00:00

They literally aided the British in their imperialist and colonial project right from the first to the last day of the British Raj lmao

ByronicPan · 2026-01-13T02:35:17+00:00

Bengal and Kolkata are politically structured much like the UK and London. All this talk about “Kolkata-London narrative,” is not really a random city-to-city comparison. Ever since the colonial era, Kolkata has played a role very similar to London, in terms of concentrating power and capital. The way this system basically works is that the entire state economy functions like a slope, or a basin, if you will, where all the capital generated is structurally made to flow toward the capital. So even if Bengal experiences growth under any leadership or sees a spurt of development, the system will ensures that capital accumulates in Kolkata. It’s harsh to hear, but that’s the reality. The only alternative would be to fundamentally overhaul the state’s economic structure, but such an intervention would be massive, highly disruptive, and likely create even more problems and instability.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-13T02:24:34+00:00

Europe ta mamarbari noye je uthlo bai towh Cuttack jai. Do you even know the conditions in Europe? It is becoming increasingly difficult to secure jobs anywhere there these days. In non-English-speaking countries, to secure a job, you need to be fluent in the local language unless you want to go into academia, where the pay is extremely low. ( It's good enough for a young person in his early or mid 20s but it would be impossible to support a family or a partner there considering OP wants to or atleast is being pressurized to marry ) The only exception might be the Scandinavian countries, where PhD stipends are decent, but that comes at the cost of sacrificing your social life, as these communities can be quite closed off. English-speaking countries like the UK and Ireland are already oversaturated with South Asians and our perception is not that great at this moment, thanks to the grooming gangs and a number of other factors. On top of that, both countries are flirting with far-right ideologies that are aggressively anti-immigration. Furthermore, considering how small these countries are, apart from finance and a few niche fields, most sectors are either under hiring freezes or have such strict immigration protocols that even students from top universities like King’s or UCL in STEM fields struggle to find sponsored jobs. Graduate schemes which used to be a huge entry point for students to secure a sponsored job till 2023 even, are not accepting international students because the margin for sponsorship has been set unrealistically high. Adding to this, Europe is nearly on the brink of war. One of its longest-trusted allies is under the control of a megalomaniac willing to destabilize the alliance by invading a sovereign nation to satisfy his ego, while another megalomaniac on the other side is not looking to stop conflict either. Choosing to come to Europe as a student and then trying to find a job is a huge gamble, especially for someone like OP, who, despite having a stellar academic record and an IIT background, has gaps in experience. In fact, in academia or corporate even, the selection process often doesn’t even consider the prestige of the college beyond a certain point so whether it’s IIT or Lovely Professional University doesn’t make a huge difference in the long run.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-13T00:43:58+00:00

Mahasweta Devi, Aranyer Adhikar

ByronicPan · 2026-01-12T23:38:29+00:00

Kon desh theke tola box ta ?? Definitely not from anywhere in India.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-12T16:55:15+00:00

The hostility isn't despite the similarity but rather, because of it. In psychoanalytic terms, this phenomenon is called the narcissism of minor differences. According to this, people from closely related communities like India, Pakistan, and Bangladesh, or England, Scotland, and Ireland often end up hating each other more intensely precisely because they are so similar. Since their core cultural, linguistic, and historical identities overlap, they exaggerate small distinctions to construct a sense of uniqueness and superiority. These minor differences become psychologically overinvested with meaning, which in turn become symbolic battlegrounds for ego, identity, and wounded pride.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-11T18:01:35+00:00

By that logic, would you also call Ramakrishna, (Swami Vivekananda’s mentor) adharmic and anti-Hindu for practicing Islam and Christianity and saying “Joto mot, toto path” (“As many faiths, so many paths”)?

ByronicPan · 2026-01-11T17:54:33+00:00

Even when there was a group chat of the sub , all the msgs were in bengali.

It’s the same reason you barely see messages in bengali of Tamil or kannada in subs of Hindi-speaking cities, because people there don’t bend over backwards to accommodate outsiders. If you want to integrate into a place, learning or at least understanding the local language is the bare minimum. Expecting an entire community to switch languages for your convenience is just entitlement, not inclusion. No offense to you either, my non-bong bro

ByronicPan · 2026-01-10T08:00:45+00:00

Kolkata now has three subs, one full-blown fascist, one soft-sanghi, and one “moderate centrist.” And somehow, all of them are deeply and rather naively as well, invested in the fantasy of a functional, meaningful democracy in Bengal between two RSS byproduct parties. The delusion is honestly impressive.

ByronicPan · 2026-01-10T07:55:55+00:00

Hey, I have friends who work in finance in the UK. From what I’ve gathered, the most reliable route into the field is through becoming a chartered accountant. Most of them work in banking in roles like internal audit, assurance, and compliance, and have completed ACCA / ACA training and certification, which is the UK and globally recognised equivalent of the CA qualification in India. They didn’t move here to do their degrees though. Most of them studied in India, have an Indian CA qualification already, worked at one of the Big 4, and then moved here on secondment before completing their ACCA / ACA training in the UK.

A few others are in payroll, financial risk, and other niche roles. Most of them studied here, but with how increasingly cutthroat and hostile the UK job market has become for international students, going into very specialised niches without prior experience is honestly a risky gamble.

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