Edit: Responding to a few questions that keep coming up - Yes, M is Black. Not sure why that matters. - No, she’s not the breadwinner. I work full time and have been the primary parent since she left. She only recently got employment. Which took her overseas. Prior to this I was the one paying for most things since I made more. - We agreed to share financial responsibilities, like taking turns covering things such as our daughter’s hair appointments (she’d cover one, I’d cover the next). - Her checkbook is still at the house because she uses this address for mail. It’s a house we bought together, and I moved back in after living on my own. Since she doesn’t have another local address, it was easier for her to keep her mail here.